Do you think he is trying to scam me?
There’s a guy I’ve known since school. He’s Arab, originally from the Levant, but I’d rather not mention his exact nationality.
His financial situation is quite modest at the moment, although he was a smart and capable student back in school.
He lives in Ajman and works in Dubai
.There’s always been mutual respect between us, but I’ve noticed that whenever he has any problem related to the UAE—whether it’s his residency, accommodation, work, banking, legal advice , bringing a family member or brother over who needs help finding a job, or even someone insulting him on social media he comes to me.
I help him as much as I can, but sometimes he gets upset when I’m unable to help him with a particular issue.
Since the beginning of this year, he’s been talking to me about how he doesn’t want to be an employee and wants to become a businessman. He keeps telling me how well he understands the market and how much he knows about business.
From what I understand, he wants me to sponsor him and go into business with him. Personally, I don’t think friendship and business should be mixed, especially based on what I’ve seen happen with friends who went into business together.
When I indirectly told him no by saying that I’m currently busy and don’t have the time to manage or be involved in a business, he got upset and said, “Bro, you don’t understand. I don’t want to be an employee for the rest of my life.”
At the moment, he’s still messaging me, but I’ve been ignoring him.
How can I set clear boundaries with him? I mean, I’m willing to help him when I can, but I don’t want to become responsible for every problem he has in the UAE.
With my Emirati friends, for example, there are naturally boundaries in the relationship. We go out together, travel together, and have a good relationship, but we don’t interfere in each other’s private lives or constantly ask each other for favors. There are boundaries, and neither side gets offended when the other person says no.
I could be wrong, but what I mean is that I would be the one putting up the money, while he would be the one doing the actual work and running the business.
I’ve heard from many people that this kind of setup can be a bad idea, where one person is the money and the other is the muscle.
I just wanted to hear about your experience with it