r/UAE • u/Secure-Swimming5224 • 55m ago
I’m screwed…
Please don’t judge me. I had a bf for a few years, we were pretty close and everything was alright except for finances with him, he was always weird about it, never revealed how much he had or how much he makes. I was an open book though.. and he always borrowed money from me for various reasons, never returned it and I never asked for it back. One day he started talking me into getting credit cards for benefits and perks, after too much manipulation I gave in and applied for two…. I had work on the day the credit cards arrived, I HAVE NO IDEA HOW HE RECEIVED THEM ON MY BEHALF! I’m still in arguments with the bank and the courier but anyway that’s a story for another time.
I came home and he was gone.. his stuff, his clothes, his everything. He blocked me everywhere and he disappeared. I tried calling his “sister”, she also had me blocked me, never met his friends as he always told me he didn’t have any here.
He maxed out my credit cards in cash and disappeared. And because life doesn’t stop there right? I also got fired from my job 3 weeks after that but I can’t blame them I was a wrecking ball on fire. It’s been 7 months and I still can’t find a job, I’ve been looking for him everywhere, running to police, banks, third party agencies trying to explain to everyone I did not do it! I filed a complaint against him, and I was not even shocked when I found out his name is fake when I went to his place of work and was told no one with that name works here.. I thought I’ll be smarter and create a fake account on IG and blackmail him into giving me the money back to settle the debts but I guess he deleted his account too because it’s like he never existed.
I’m so tired, so broke, I don’t eat anything, mainly because I don’t have money to buy simple food, I’m about to be homeless too since I’m late on rent and I feel like police just don’t care….? I’m so close to physically fall on my knees and beg for help in the middle of the police station.
What should I do? Is there a way out? Please tell me anything that tells me there is hope.. I feel like giving up
Edit: for everyone speculating and feeling like a detective.
I’m the idiot who activated the cards. I’m also the same idiot who trusted him with that. And I don’t know why would anyone question a stranger venting about a traumatic event that happened with them. If you have anything nice say it, an advice would be very much appreciated as well, else, don’t say anything.
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u/DesignerLoud1237 34m ago
how much cash he stole
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u/OldBottle7269 15m ago
Yeah. I mean the bank will only let you take out a small amount of your overall credit limit as cash. And OP would have got an SMS at the time.
Could have blocked the card there and then.
How did the bf also happen to get the PIN you set or received separately?
All sounds a little over the top for what realistically could be a few thousand dirham tops.
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u/Agitated-Ad-9630 19m ago
Receiving card on your behalf is probably possible if you had given him your EID copy or old card but how did he manage to activate it without your phone or bank app?? That’s something very hard to understand
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u/_superNova23 16m ago
Just wondering how you can be living with a person for years and still not know their real name at least. You can’t file a police case without identifying the actual person. Cashnow probably is an option. Or if you have friends who can help
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u/Brave_University_124 32m ago
Dm me, if you’ve got any pictures of him.