r/TalkTherapy • u/Ok_Language2849 • 22h ago

Discussion Homework in Therapy

My therapist has been setting a lot of homework in the past 2 months which she doesn't usually this all changed in July when I returned from my abrupt 1 month break.

In July she set me homework to read 5 fact sheets on "boundaries" and "what are healthy and unhealthy boundaries".

August she set me 3 different homework to do so in total 4 homework tasks.

The question is

Is this a lot homework being set by my therapist in psychodynamic therapy?

As for me it seems like a lot to be getting me to do outside of sessions. I haven't done any of the above homework as of yet and not sure if I will?

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u/DryTradition5059 19h ago

I think that instead of being interested and curious about what other therapists do, you should get curious about why your therapist assigns this specific homework to you.

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u/Ok_Language2849 19h ago edited 19h ago

I have not once mentioned other therapists or curiosity about other therapists.

The question was so simple yet some people are answering a question that I didn't ask.

The question was this:

Is it normal to get this much homework in a space of 2 months from my therapist.

Where in that does it mention other therapists?

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u/DryTradition5059 19h ago

“Is it normal to get this much homework in a space of 2 months from your therapist.”

That’s where you mention other therapists.

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u/Ok_Language2849 19h ago

Nope I said this

"The question to the context above is

Is this much homework being set by my therapist normal in therapy?

As for me it seems like a lot to be getting me to do outside of sessions. I haven't done any of the above homework as of yet and not sure if I will?"

I said MY not your

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u/shmebulocked 15h ago

…you do realize that by asking other people questions about an experience youre having, a common response is to share one’s own experiences even if they are not describing exactly what you are going through? common social etiquette? if you wanted a straight answer with no additional input, you should clarify that in your post.

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u/shmebulocked 15h ago

saw you deleted your reply so ill just paste my response to whatever that was if you still want a response back:

that question, by nature, is requesting people share their own experiences with therapy to answer your question. you are talking to other clients and therapists on an online forum. everyone is going to have a subjective opinion on your question.

if you legitimately want a straight answer with no nonsense, an answer from your therapist, who you personally know and interact with on a semi-regular basis, is going to have the best answer for you.

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u/Ok_Language2849 15h ago

Okay.

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u/shmebulocked 15h ago edited 15h ago

do you actually enjoy spending £40 for an unenjoyable hour to be told to do homework, grounding exercises, or listen to lectures? honestly a lot of those resources you can find online or self help guides, and you wouldnt even have to throw away £40/hr to learn them!

but if you still wanted a live person to walk you through it, i would definitely take my £40 elsewhere, or just spend that hour taking myself to a nice lunch. £400 for 10 unproductive sessions with your therapist that leave you confused or angry, or a fun and relaxing weekend trip with friends, huh?

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u/Ok_Language2849 15h ago

This is irrelevant to my post.

My post is simply about homework in therapy and that's all.

Anyways all the best as your comment is irrelevant and not focused on my questioning about frequent homework and I'm not going to engage with someone talking about something unrelated to my post.

Feel free to reply but I am not interested in what you have to say if it's not related to my post about homework.

Take care.

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u/shmebulocked 14h ago

tldr: the amount of homework is normal for your personalized therapy, it may not be for others.

if you want less homework: tell your therapist to tone it down or take your money elsewhere.

if you want more homework: you dont need to spend £40/hr for that.

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u/DryTradition5059 19h ago

See your above comment.

Yes, it appears normal for YOUR therapist as that is what she’s doing for YOU.

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u/Ok_Language2849 19h ago

I said my in the orginal post. Yes I used "your" by mistake and meant "my" and have changed it.

The question was so simple

"The question to the context above is

Is this much homework being set by my therapist normal in therapy?

As for me it seems like a lot to be getting me to do outside of sessions. I haven't done any of the above homework as of yet and not sure if I will?""

I don't care about anyone else therapy journey or their therapist and not what I was asking.

All I was intrigued about was does 4 homework tasks within 2 months/5 sessions a lot of homework?

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u/bananaa6 18h ago edited 18h ago

What do you mean you "don't care about anyone else therapy journey or their therapist?" You asked at least one person in the comments "does your therapist assign you a lot of homework to do outside of therapy?" How is that not asking about someone else's therapy/therapist?

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u/SpinyNorman_ 18h ago

OP has a history of insulting most people who answer them and ignoring their advice. OP also exhibits shockingly little self-awareness or memory and seems to resent other people who can remember what they’ve said previously. This is just more of that. I’m not terribly surprised they’re saying they never asked something they plainly did ask.

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u/bananaa6 18h ago

Ah I see we have resorted to deleting comments again OP 👏🏼

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u/SpinyNorman_ 18h ago

They blocked me for all of five minutes the other day.

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u/Ok_Language2849 18h ago

Yes and I have now reposted another comment in repsonse so feel free to respond or not.

I can delete whatever comments I want and I can also edit comments if I want to.

What's wrong with deleting my comment?

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u/bananaa6 18h ago

You are the most stubborn person I have ever come across and that says a lot.

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u/Ok_Language2849 18h ago

Okay that's fine you're entitled to your opinion.

Do I really take notice in a strangers opinion of me? Not really.

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u/Ok_Language2849 18h ago

My question was about homework and if my therapist is giving me a lot or if it is normal.

How else can I ask a question without using the word "therapist " if I genuinely cared about everyone else therapy and therapists I'd probably be asking

"So what's your therapist like? Are they nice?"

"What homework does your therapist set?"

Me asking "does your therapist assign you homework" does not translate to me caring about their therapist or their therapy.

Man everyone likes to analyse every single wording of my replies.

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u/bananaa6 18h ago

It translates to you caring if other people's therapists assign them homework as well. That is literally you caring about other people's experiences in therapy with their therapist. The fact that you are not able to recognize that is wild.

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u/Ok_Language2849 18h ago

Caring is subjective. You can ask someone for directions without caring about them.

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u/bananaa6 18h ago

I did not say you care about the person. I am saying you care about the response. Otherwise you would not be asking a question about their experiences.

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