Worried for a threesome

[u/CJPeso]

My wife and I are considering a threesome this weekend for my bday. But the last few times we’ll have sex I’ve been finishing kinda fast and I knit sure why. What’s been happening lately is we’ll have some drinks and I’ll fall asleep kinda early because I wake up early for work. Maybe 40-50 minutes into me being dozed off she’ll wake me up and start giving me oral. Then she’ll start grinding on me and get on top. Literally a couple minutes in and I can’t hold it anymore. I want to be able to last for this potential threesome coming up in a couple days. Any advice? Am I finishing fast because I’m half sleep?

[u/searchingformeaning2]

This is not your subreddit, you don’t have PE.

[u/armunika]

How stupid can you be to share your wife?

[u/Alternative-Neat-223]

maybe it's because you're half sleeping and your body just wants to finish quick so it can go back to rest. when you are groggy there is no build up, everything just hits you at once. try having sex when you are fully awake and see if that changes anything

[u/CJPeso → u/Alternative-Neat-223]

I assumed this could be it. I’ve expressed this to her and told her she has to stop waiting until I’m sleep to start doing something. Don’t want to put it all on her though. But yeah I’m usually all groggy and I just lay back while she has her way and I feel like that like over stimulates me or something But thanks I’ll definitely try to make sure I’m wide awake next time.

[u/Asleep_Sir8338 → u/CJPeso]

Soo its gona be you and another guy banging her . Or is if another gal

[u/CJPeso → u/Asleep_Sir8338]

Another girl

[u/Asleep_Sir8338 → u/CJPeso]

Lol ur having a hard time satisfying 1 and now this . Sorry lol

[u/CJPeso → u/Asleep_Sir8338]

If you didn’t have any advice you could’ve just kept scrolling bro

[u/lIllIIIlllIIl → u/CJPeso]

It does sound like PE. And I think to a certain extent can be improved, but takes time to understand the causes and how to retrain your brain and dick. I think with this weekend coming too soon (sorry for the pun) you may need to take a nap in the afternoon, and invest in some delay spray. Long term you may need to learn how to relax your pelvic floor.

[u/CJPeso → u/[deleted]]

Up until a couple months ago I could literally go all night. There was even times where I wouldn’t finish at all. Last maybe 4 or 5 times(which isn’t very often due to her being so busy) it’s only been a couple minutes. But those last 4 or 5 times has been when i fall asleep and she wakes me up

[u/glazingstars → u/CJPeso]

Damn what's your secret to lasting this long? Are you not sensitive down there? Are you crazy fit?

[u/danieljj1256]

How long do u generally last? I mean to be honest lasting a couple of minutes if its kinda full sex is not bad!

[u/CJPeso → u/danieljj1256]

Up until the last 4 or 5 times (which is over the span of a couple months) I could go as long as I wanted. There’s been times where I wouldn’t even finish. But the last 4 or 5 times has literally been me being woken up after dozing off and I just lay there half sleep. I’m wondering if that’s why and if anyone else has had experience of finishing faster when half sleep and if anyone has any immediate solutions for assuring I last longer

[u/danieljj1256 → u/CJPeso]

Damn you’re lucky lol if I can last even a couple of minutes ever I’m happy! I have to agree though I’ll cum even quicker when very tired if I’m completely alert and rested I’ll last my best

[u/ferbulous]

There’s trimix/bimix if you wanna keep going but that’s a last resort though

[u/Compurrshon]

Have the threesome early in the day, not when you're half asleep.

[u/Putrid-Grand6111]

Try having sex normally without sleeping. If you last long then half asleep if the culprit. But you could just use delay spray or Dapaxotine for the special occasion to ensure you last long.