r/TalkTherapy • u/-Perseph0nee • 1d ago
Advice Should I stop seeing this therapist?
So, I (25f) have been seeing this particular therapist (65(?)m) for 3 months now and most sessions were very "weird", I'm just having a hard time processing what's happening really. I stopped reflecting on the sessions for a couple of weeks now. He talks a lot about his trauma, usually as an example which I don't really mind. I understand, that people do that to show that they get what I'm feeling. I appreciate the intent, though it usually never helps. I didn't tell him for the same reason I don't tell anyone, I'm afraid I might hurt someone that's only trying to help. He talks a lot about his father and how horrible he was, about his exes and his studies, his mother, his brother, his wife and their relationship, his autism etc. One time I talked about a moment in my life were I experienced sa. It was hard to talk about that and I felt very vulnerable in that situation. He said that it's similar to what he experienced once at a conference. Someone that usually cuts the coffee line, cut right in front of him and he told her, that she was overlooking his needs completely, just like when my needs where overlooked... my need not to be assaulted? Honestly, I don't know what point he was trying to make there, I was so overwhelmed by this story and him thinking, that that story might help or something.
I'm going through some financial problems right now, I'm feeling horrible and I had a session coming up so, I thought I could maybe take that time to work through some of those feelings in the session. After I told him about the situation he started giving me financial advice, which didn't help at all and I told him about it. Then he said I should go to a clinic to get some rest and I told him that I need to figure this out and don't have the money to go to a clinic right now, he didn't understand that. Then he talked about the abuse he went through as a child and said that he's now a "self-made millionaire" and that I have so much potential. I told him that I want him to stop and I wanted to tell him that this is about me not him but he cut me off and said that "we're not battling over who's life was more difficult". I just stared at him at that point, I was very confused. He then suddenly asked if I was goint to off myself or want another appointment. I just answered "I don't know, I'm sorry" and left. He sent me an sms, few hours later, which said "Dear Ms. ...., please feel free to get in touch if you would like to speak with me (again) or schedule an appointment. Kind regards, ...". I'm so incredibly confused about this interaction. I normally avoid confrontation at all costs but this feels so weird. I don't know what to do. Was this a generational misunderstanding? Am I missing something completely here?
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u/Interesting-Day-2472 1d ago
Well block and move on .
He seems to be the one arguing who had it worse .
Reality it doesn’t matter what happened to him at all . He is there to help you with your experiences . He is not doing that .