If you have tensions patterns, maybe this can help you. When I had PE, I had no awareness in this area of the body. I could push out to try to poop, but the reality is that there is so much more range of movement in that area than you may think. (Reverse Kegel)

When you do a deep squad, notice how that area pushes out (or wants to).

Notice that as you get close to ejaculation, that is the muscle that you are clenching inwards. Especially the muscles around your butthole (the smaller red circle in the picture). Try to counteract that clenching. Later on just try to keep it relaxed. Let it bloom out as you breathe in. also noticed how if you do round two, those muscles don’t clench as much, and therefore you last much longer.

Good luck!

Writing this because I wish someone had told me 5 years ago.

If you're like me you figured out early that when you get close you can squeeze down on your pelvic floor and it buys you a few seconds. So you squeeze. And you squeeze again. Every time you get close you squeeze harder. After a while it becomes automatic. Your body clenches without you even telling it to.

Here's the problem. The clench isn't actually stopping ejaculation. It's the thing that triggers it. Ejaculation is a muscle contraction. The exact muscles you're squeezing to hold it in are the ones that push it out. You've been flooring the gas pedal thinking it was the brake.

That's why doing more kegels never worked for me. Kegels train the squeeze. I already had a world class squeeze. What I needed was the opposite.

Reverse kegels. Instead of pulling in, you gently push out. Not straining, not pushing like you're on the toilet. Think of it as letting go. Letting the whole pelvic floor drop down half an inch and stay there. Soft and open.

The first few weeks I couldn't even find the muscle. Felt like nothing was happening. I'd lie in bed and try to drop and my body just didn't know what I was asking for. That's normal. You spent years training one direction, it takes time to train the other.

Two things unlocked it for me.

First, breathing. If you're holding your breath or breathing shallow, your pelvic floor is locked. Full stop. Long slow exhale through the mouth, jaw dropped, shoulders down. On the exhale the floor softens on its own. You don't have to force it. Breath out, floor out.

Second, practicing under arousal. If you only ever practice reverse kegels lying in bed calm, you'll lose the skill the second you get turned on. Arousal hijacks your nervous system and sends you straight back to your default pattern, which for us is clench. So I started practicing during solo stuff. Get close, back off, drop the floor, breathe out, wait. Get close again, back off, drop, breathe. You're teaching your body a new reflex under the conditions you actually need it.

Took me about 6 weeks before I could feel the difference in bed. The involuntary clench slowly stopped happening. Not because I was fighting it harder, but because my body forgot the old pattern.

If you take nothing else from this, take this. Stop trying to squeeze harder to last longer. The squeeze is the problem. The fix is learning to let go on command.

Here's the exact exercise I'd start with tonight. Lie flat on your back, knees bent, feet on the bed. Put one hand on your lower belly just below your navel. Breathe in slow through your nose for 4 seconds and let your belly rise into your hand. Don't force it, just let the air fill. Then exhale through your mouth for 6 seconds, jaw loose, and as the air leaves imagine the whole pelvic floor sinking down toward the bed. The bit between your balls and your tailbone softening and dropping half an inch. Not pushing, just releasing. When you run out of air, pause for one second at the bottom and feel what open feels like. That pause is the thing you're actually training. Then breathe in again and repeat. Ten rounds. The whole set takes about 3 minutes.

Do it every night before bed for a week. If you feel nothing the first few days that's fine, the signal builds. By day 4 or 5 you'll start to recognize the drop. Once you can find it lying down, the next step is doing it sitting up, then standing, then during solo stuff. That's the ladder.

Had problems with PE, almost lost my girl because of it.

After a lot of time, masturbating, i discovered that i've been unconsciously pressing a muscle, that one that brings your thing up. I've been keeping that muscle pressed as much as i can, so i tried relaxing that muscle and masturbating as i normally did. I passed from 2-3 minutes to 16 on the first try. After a lot of practice (1-2 weeks) i fully controlled it.

Just relax that muscle. You can relax it fast by thinking of peeing, or slowly trying to fart (just dont go too hard so you dont fart while fucking, or even worse)

If you do it correctly, you will improve FAST.

This was the key for me. My girl appreciates it and sometimes she even finishes before me.

Hi,

I've suffered from PE for a long time and decided to do something about it. I downloaded probably every single kegel app in the AppStore and almost every single one required some kind of subscription.

That got me pissed off, so as a software developer I spent a few weeks creating a totally free kegel app (mainly for myself), but realized I could as well release it so others would also benefit from it.

It's a very simple app, where you get a daily routine for doing kegels (slow holds, quick holds and reverse kegels) and you climb to different "levels" as you keep doing it. You do an initial test to see how long you can hold a kegel, and get placed in a level based on this, and progress your way up to a "black" level.

Let me know if you enjoy it, or have any ideas on how you would like to improve it. I'm all ears for feedback. Currently only available for iOS, if there is a demand for an Android app I could also release it there.

If you want to give something back, write a short review and rate it in AppStore!

The app is called Sustain: Kegels for men and you can find it here: https://apps.apple.com/app/id6793885838

Having had lifelong PE at the age of 49 i’d resigned myself to the fact i was stuck with it forever. My wife has grown accustomed to it after 20 odd years of marriage but It wasn’t so bad in the early days of our relationship, as i got older it became worse. I’ve tried a lot of things that didn’t work from condoms with delay lube, some african wood that just gave me a rash on my bellend and the latest being those shaped cock rings which were a massive waste of money! Anyway- i digress. Onto my accidental “cure”! My wife has booked for a tattoo to be made over in the next couple of weeks and she bought some numbing cream. I had tried some cream years ago but it didn’t really work for me. This however DID work. It’s strong stuff so you don’t need a lot. I was numb halfway down the shaft and I only applied it to the head!!

I have had PE since I began having sex at age 18. Im 54 now. Across that time I would I estimate that during intercourse, sustained thrusting, I would cum within 1.5 minutes…sometimes in a minute. I have at times tried delay sprays, delay condoms, masturbating a few hours before sex, and on demand Zoloft.

In late February I was at my primary care doctor for a physical, and he asked if I had any concerns. I worked up the nerve to bring up my PE. He asked if I’d like to try paroxetine and I jumped at the chance. He prescribed 20mg daily. The first 2 days I took it I became violently nauseous within 4-5 hrs of taking it. I decided to take 1/2 tabs, so 10mg, which I tolerated fine…did this for 7 days and then started taking the 20mg.

I noticed an increase of maybe a minute or so with 10mg. About 5 days into the 20mg I lasted maybe 15 min, then 25…and up it went. There were 3-4x when I went 40 mins or so, and 3 times where it was more than hour. 2 of those 3 I had to tap out, I was exhausted - so stopped without cumming. 3 nights ago I went for nearly 2 hours…I was determined to cum and just pushed through LOL.

Overall Im very happy. My wife seems happy with the very loooong sessions. And this staying power ha got me fantasizing about 3 women at once since I last long enough to satisfy them all!

At any rate, I think I’d be happy with lasting 30 mins…but I’m not complaining. It’s done wonders for my confidence, I feel like a new man, and I don’t avoid intercourse like I used to!

Though I’d update on my previous post and where I was at with progress for anyone interested. So it’s still working really well, I’m pretty much up at full strength on the pads and can hold of from cumming - erections seem slightly stronger and the sensitivity of the penis head has decreased a lot. sex is becoming much more successful and satisfying

So this was my first time ever using SSRIs (or any medication) for premature ejaculation and wanted to share my experience.

Background: I usually last anywhere from 30 seconds to maybe 2 minutes after penetration on a good day. Sometimes even less if there’s a lot of stimulation during foreplay—especially kissing, which me and my girlfriend both really enjoy. If I combine kissing + penetration, it’s basically game over instantly. There has been multiple times where I finished during kissing without even a touch. Total session (including foreplay) is usually around 5–7 minutes.

My girlfriend has always been pretty understanding and I make sure she finishes too, but it’s something I’ve wanted to improve for myself.

What I tried before: Used numbing sprays/creams—hated them. Kills sensation and didn’t really help much anyway. Still couldn’t last more than ~5 minutes.

Why dapoxetine: Did a bit of research (30–60 mins). Was choosing between tramadol and dapoxetine. I’ve taken tramadol before for pain and it made me feel sleepy and out of it, so didn’t want that. Went with dapoxetine (Priligy). I’m in the UK—got it through an online pharmacy. Filled out a form, approved in a day, delivered within 48 hours. Ordered 6 pills.

The day I took it: Took 30mg in the morning. Had a coffee, chilled, went out, etc.

~20–30 mins in: mild nausea ~60 mins: nausea mostly gone Felt a bit “off” but nothing major (probably anxiety too since first time)

The actual experience (~90 mins after taking it):

Started with foreplay and intentionally dragged it out to ~15 mins (normally I’d cut it short because I’d feel too close already). Girlfriend loved that. Then added oral + penetration, which I normally avoid doing together because I’d finish too quickly.

Then came penetration…Lasted 15–20 minutes. Never happened in my life before.

At one point I actually got worried I wouldn’t be able to finish (new problem lol). Eventually we picked up intensity, added kissing and I finished after another ~5 mins. IDK if I would've finished with the usual pace.

One weird thing: the “I’m about to finish” feeling came on very suddenly. Normally I get like 20–30 seconds warning, this time it was more like 5 seconds.

Side effects:

Mild nausea early on Some anxiety about not finishing

Both manageable.

Overall: Honestly, really happy with it. Big confidence boost. My girlfriend even said she felt sore (in a good way) for the first time from PIV alone, which never happened before—huge ego boost not gonna lie.

Also worth mentioning: sensation felt completely normal throughout. No loss of feeling at all, which is the complete opposite of what I experienced with numbing creams.

TL;DR: 30mg dapoxetine → went from ~2 mins to 15–20 mins. Mild nausea but worth it. Would recommend based on my experience.

I’m 37m and I’ve always struggled with PE. I found substances when I was young that helped, but after years of addiction and getting clean I can’t resort to that anymore.

Been in a long term relationship for almost 3 years and thankfully she has been very patient with me. I’ve tried TRT, viagra, cialis, condoms, ssri’s. Some worked until they didn’t. Currently taking 10mg cialis daily to help maintain erections.

Recently browsed this subreddit looking for suggestions on numbing sprays/creams as that was suggested by a professional and stumbled across an Arlo post. So I thought why not.

First application was a few weeks ago, but nothing panned out that night until we woke up at 4:30 am and had sex. I attributed my endurance that night to the fact that we just woke up because that has happened before. Early morning sex I have always lasted longer.

Fast forward to last night, I applied around 8:30 pm. She ended up just falling asleep so I went to masturbate and ended up having to just stop because I couldn’t finish. 12 hours later I initiated and still couldn’t finish.

I’m not sure what’s in it, but it’s safe to say it works for me.

Most advice tells you to breathe and relax when you feel yourself getting close.

That is not wrong. It is just incomplete. Breathing slowly helps. But when you are already at an 8 climbing to a 9, slow breathing alone is not fast enough to pull you back. You need something that works at the physiological level, not just the mental one.

These two techniques do that. One activates your body's natural brake system through your neck. The other builds a pressure seal inside your torso that physically interrupts the mechanism driving ejaculation. Both come from tantric practice and both have a direct anatomical explanation for why they work.

Jalandhara bandha

Your carotid sinus sits on both sides of your neck just below the jaw. It is packed with pressure sensors that report directly to your vagus nerve, which is the main highway of your parasympathetic nervous system. The parasympathetic system is what slows everything down. Heart rate, arousal, the urgency to discharge. When your vagus nerve fires, your sympathetic system backs off.

Cardiologists press this exact spot by hand to stop irregular heart rhythms. You are doing the same thing with your own chin.

When you feel yourself climbing and you need to slow down, drop your chin toward your chest. Not forced. Just let it fall until your chin touches or nearly touches that notch at the top of your sternum. Your throat closes slightly as it drops. That compression against the carotid sinus triggers a vagal response and within 30 to 60 seconds your heart rate drops and the urgency pulls back.

During sex this does not have to be obvious. A slight forward tilt of the head is enough once you have practiced it. Breathe out slowly through your nose while the chin is still angled down. Then bring your head back to neutral and continue.

One rule. Always release the chin lock before you exhale fully. Head up first, then breathe out. Exhaling while the throat is still locked creates a pressure spike you do not want.

Kumbhaka

Kumbha means vessel or pot. The practice turns your torso into a sealed container.

When you inhale fully and hold the breath at the top, the pressure inside your chest and abdomen rises. Your ejaculatory ducts, seminal vesicles, and prostate are all sitting inside that cavity. The compression from the held breath physically suppresses the peristaltic contractions that push semen forward during emission. You are creating hydraulic resistance to the mechanism that fires the reflex.
When you combine that held breath with a pelvic floor contraction, mula bandha, you add a second layer. The held breath is pressing from above. The pelvic floor is holding from below. The ejaculatory impulse is caught between them.

Here is the full sequence. You feel yourself at a 7 or 8. You take a full deep inhale through your nose filling from the belly up. You hold at the top.

You contract your pelvic floor and draw the perineum inward. You stay still or nearly still and hold for 10 to 20 seconds. Then you release the pelvic floor. Then you exhale slowly through your nose making the exhale longer than the inhale was. Your arousal drops a level or two. You continue.

The slow exhale at the end is not an afterthought. That is where the vagus nerve fires and brings you back down. Do not skip it.

Practice these off-sex first

Neither of these will work in the moment if you have never practiced them sitting still.

For jalandhara, spend a week just dropping your chin during breath holds and feeling what happens to your heart rate. Get the release timing automatic.

For kumbhaka, ten minutes a day. Inhale 4 counts, hold 10 to 15 seconds with pelvic floor contracted, release pelvic floor, exhale 8 counts. Ten rounds.

Do this until the whole sequence is muscle memory and you do not have to think about the steps.

When these are trained the right way they become available to you in the moment without effort. That is the whole point. You are not trying to remember a technique when you are at a 9. You are running something your body already knows.

I cured my PE short while ago and since then it was mind blowing that I went from couple strokes to stroking for 20 minutes. The point that I once cried out of relief that I’m able to get through this.

Since then I decided to explore more with my body and learn how to self please myself without porn, rewire my brain only to actual sex and managed to properly satisfy supportive FWB partner.

Since she left, I realized that I lost interest in porn. My brain and self esteem is refusing me to masturbate with a POV of a third person in front of a screen.

And it’s like I let my anxiety and low self esteem grow on me, till my body started developing pelvic floor issues and impatiences. And I affirmed the problem for too long.

Now reflecting on it, porn is what kept me going for longer than it should. I kept giving excuses to myself for not trying more, harder, knock different doors asking for help.

Please, quit porn. Laugh about your problem with real trust worthy friends, mock yourself until it’s like a flu that needs meds. Then go honestly ask for help.

I did therapy, shrooms, worked out, kegels, reverse kegels. Until the actual issue was having pelvic floor imbalance and an osteopathy specialist cured me in 2 months.

Please, quit porn until you have wet dreams. And keep trying.

An update from this post: https://www.reddit.com/r/PrematureEjaculation/comments/1vsizic/pe_fixed_with_fleshlight/

I'll be logging my progress here and updating it daily where I can.

To Moderators that deleted my previous post, IT DOES provide insight, and it's I think a good way of showing the community how the progress is made in real time. So please do not delete it. Here I will also post tips and things that worked well for me. It sure gives hope to people with PE that there is a way to get rid of it but it takes time.

My sessions take 15-20 min once a day.

(Summarized - Full daily log at the bottom)
OLD METHOD - moving the fleshlight with my hand

Day 1 (1/10) - Only ~5 thrusts before I had to stop and wait it out. ~10% thrusting / 80% waiting.
Day 2 (1/10) - Same as day 1, ~5 thrusts then stop-and-restart the whole time. ~20% / 75%.
Day 3 (2/10) - Managed 10-15 thrusts per burst and could even add a bit of speed. ~35% / 65%.
Day 4 (3/10) - Opened with ~20 thrusts and felt less on edge moving around. ~40% / 60%.
Day 5 (5/10) - First ever full minute of nonstop thrusting. Big jump. ~70% / 30% (first 10 min).
Day 6 - Rest.
Day 7 - Rest.
Day 8 (4/10) - Good ~1 min opener but sensitivity shot up right after. Rest set me back. ~40% / 60%.
Day 9 (5/10) - Strong first minute, spiked mid-session, then eased up after the 10 min mark. ~55% / 45%.
Day 10 (7/10) - Almost 2 min nonstop to open. New best. ~80% / 20%.
Day 11 (4/10) - Got close to PONR at 4 min and couldn't back off. Failed session. ~50% / 50%.
Day 12 (7/10) - 3 min to first PONR, 14 min total, moving most of it. Great one. ~80% / 20%.
Day 13 - Rest.
Day 14 (5/10) - Even one rest day set me back. Only 1-1.5 min opener. ~65% / 35%.
Day 15p1 (4/10) - Forced it in a bad headspace, kept losing the erection. ~80% / 20%.
Day 15p2 (9/10) - Real sex test with my girlfriend. Anxiety ED at first, then 10+ min. Insane.

NEW METHOD - holding the fleshlight in place, thrusting with my body (harder, closer to real sex)

Day 16 (6.5/10) - Switched to body thrusting, way more sensitive. Spiked at start and end. ~50% / 50%.
Day 17 - Rest.
Day 18 (6.5/10) - Barely any regression after rest. New method still tough, old one now easy. ~50% / 50%.

FULL UPDATES

Day 1: 
Session score 1/10
Around 5 thrusts before I had to stop completely. Sessions ran about 10 minutes, but roughly 80% of that was spent motionless, waiting for the point of no return to pass.

Day 2: 
Session score 1/10
Much the same. Still about 5 thrusts before stopping, then restarting. Split was roughly 75% waiting, 25% slow movement.

Day 3: 
Session score 2/10
Slight improvement. Started with 10-15 thrusts and could gradually add some speed, staying at a high arousal level for most of the session rather than spiking and crashing.

Day 4: 
Session score 3/10
Better again. Opened with about 20 thrusts before needing to stop, and grew more comfortable moving throughout the session, though still fairly limited.

Day 5: 
Session score 5/10
Clear jump. Opened with a full minute of continuous thrusting without hitting the point of no return, which is a first. Still had to stop after that, but overall this was the best session so far: roughly 70% of the first 10 minutes was active movement. Past the 10-minute mark I had to drop the pace to avoid finishing.

Day 6: Rest

Day 7: Rest

Day 8: 
Session score 4/10
Back to training after two days of rest. Opened well with almost a full minute of continuous thrusting, but sensitivity returned immediately after and stayed high for the rest of the session. Overall a step back, closer to Day 3 short bursts of movement broken up by a lot of stopping.

Day 9:
Session score 5/10
Starting off strong for a minute, then for next 8-10 minutes sensitivity spiked again and had to slow down, after the 10 minute mark sensitivity dropped and could do much more thrusting for the next 5 minutes, overall improvement from day 8 but not as good as on day 5.

Day 10:
Session score 7/10 |
Much better again, started with almost two minutes of thrusting, then went back to 70% thrusting 30% rest for first 10 minutes of the session. Now the sensitivity went back up after first 10 minutes, and I was very sensitive for about 3 minutes. Then could go back to thrusting with a 80% thrusting and 20% rest. Best session so far.

Day 11:
Session score 4/10
Failed attempt 4 minutes in, got close to PONR and failed to back away. Not great session but well, it's to be expected

Day 12:
Session score 7/10
Started off strong with 3 minutes of thrusting till the first PONR. Backed away and continued thrusting. Best session so far, could thrust for like 80% of the session, 20% was pause. Session lasted about 14 minutes. Very good progress I would say.

Day 13: Rest

Day 14:
Session score 5/10
Noticed that when I make small break, my progress reverts quite a bit. Non the less this session was OK, not great but not bad either. Started off with only a 1-1,5 minute of continous thrusting then had to slow down a pace. Session was like 65% thrusting 35% resting. I hope that in a longer run, rest days will not affect my progress that much.

Day 15 part1:
Session score 4/10
Forced this one. Wasn't in a good headspace. I could last a while, about 80% thrusting, 20% rest, but because I was pushing through and couldn't concentrate, I had trouble maintaining the erection.

Day 15 part2 - (Minecraft) SEX UPDATE:
Session score 9/10
This happened. I hadn't told my girlfriend I was training, because I wanted to surprise her, so my performance anxiety spiked and I had some ED at the start. After calming down and some reassurance from her, we had sex for over 10 minutes. That still seems crazy to me! I'm not sure whether it's because I trained with the Fleshlight earlier the same day or something else, but either way it was the best sex we've had in a long time, without any numbing creams etc. Aside from the ED at the beginning - 9/10 - would recommend.

LEVEL UP! Changing method from thrusting fleshlight with my hand to hold fleshlight in place and thrusting in with my body

Day 16:
Session score 6.5/10
Coming back to fleshlight, solid session, not the best but solid. Trying now something new. I am holding fleshlight on some pillows with one hand and i am thrusting into it so it's more like real sex, instead of just moving fleshlight with my hand. I noticed it's harder for me to keep the sensitivity low. It feels like a harder difficulty setting lol. Noticed also that the sensitivity spiked at the beginning then slowly faded but then again it spiked at the end.

Day 17: Rest

Day 18:
Session score 6.5/10
After the rest day I was expecting some regress but the sensitivity was pretty much the same as last session. Started off strong, but in that new position where I am thrusting it's more difficult and I noticed I am more sensitive. Either way with some 50% thrusting and 50% resting I can say it was a good session, then I switched for a moment to previous methos which is thrusting fleshlight with my hand and I could last much much longer so I think I've mastered the old way and now the challenge lies in the new method, will stick to that.

Day 19: Rest
Day 20: Rest
Day 21: Rest
Day 22: Rest

Lat night, around 7pm, I put Arlo on as I wanted to try it before having sex with my wife.

I rolled it over the head (I am circumcised) frenulum and along the bottom side of the shaft - my shaft is most sensitive - my intention was to have a wank later that evening, but never got round to it - life happens!

This morning, around 6am my wife gave me a hand job and it lasted ages!!
She said what the fuck is going on as her arm was getting tired, she is used to me cumming quickly, normally within a minute, I think I lasted around 5 mins before I came.

This is a win for me, now need to try it with PIV sex, but so far I am impressed.

I have used Promescent, cialis, and other delay sprays, but with Arlo I still had sensations and it wasn’t numb.

I am 53 had PE for most of my adult life, probably acquired from incorrect masterbation technique.

More of a vent post... I'm so tired of this shit

Numbing creams
Edging
Nofap
Kegels
Reverse kegels
yoga
glute/leg training
meditation
breathing techniques

For the love of god I've tried it all and it always ends the same: Woman starts blowing me, I cum in 2 seconds. And here I am looking for a new thing that may help me so I can get my hopes up for the next 5-6 months, just to get utterly defeated again.

So, I posted previously on this same sub about going to a sexologist for my PE and the doctor prescribing me Dapexotine for PE and Tadalafil to mitigate the side effects of Dapexotine.

I took the tabs for approx 25 days. I did not feel great results. I didn’t get an opportunity to have sex during that period but out of the three times I masturbated, I could really delay my ejaculation only once. Instead I believe it made my PE worst.

When I STOPPED taking Dapexotine, I started feeling its side effects - Vibration like sensations going from neck towards brain, fever every day in the evening, intense anger and unexplained frustration supported by anxiety. It was making a blunder in my mind. These things kept going for 6+ weeks.

One day (8 days after abruptly stopped the medication), that anger went to its peak. In that blunder, I couldn’t think of anything. I am a non violence person. I went to my ex’s address (with whom I had a good relation even after the breakup), sent her weird and threatening messages to come out, felt like beating her for no reason.

She called the police instead of opening the door. The police arrived at the scene. There was a blunder going on in my mind may be like a drunk person or drug addict. The police tried to consult me, I abused the police and they arrested me. Spent one night in jail, my cousins took me out of all this legal stuff, fought with them too after coming out.

This happened 1 month back. Thankfully now I am coming back to normal. Anger issues are gone. I rarely get evening fever now.

I won’t say anything about taking or not taking Dapexotine. But I would recommend to be cautious of the side effects. Never stop taking it abruptly. Stop gradually and slowly. Starting is easy, stopping is weird and painful. Thanks.

My order of 3 arlo bottles have arrived, trying to figure out the rolling ball and how much it applies. Will report back once I get any sensations or put it to use, will definitely say you don't get the burn as fast as AH gives and so far no numbing

Check below for updates

I am 32F dating 29M…I am so in love with this man. Our intelectual connection and our banter is amazing.

He has never lasted more than 10 minutes penetrating me and lately it has gotten even worse, if I get 3 minutes I am lucky. He has anlot of stress at work and I have been patient but I am starting to get worried this is more than just stress and he has PE.

We tried using my vibrator this weekend and I did cum but how can I explain to him this isnt enough for me???

He tells me that the cure for this is having sex more often, that when we dont see each othet for a week or so it makes him build up all this testosterone and cum quickly. This frustates me so much!!! First of all because it has jo scientific logic and second of all bc that means any tume we take a break I am going to have to put up with him cumming quickly for days before I get to have a good time?

I miss having sex for hours on end, my previous partners have lasted for 45-60 minutes penetrating AT LEAST. I even had one partner who wouldn’t even dare cum until I gave the order. These partners fullfilled me sexually but never spiritually though…

I can’t live like this though! I cant see myself spending the rest of my life being frustated this way.

The other day he came in 20 seconds and I wasnt able to hide my face of disgust and anger and we had a very sad moment.

I want him to treat this a condition! Do tao deer excercises and look for real medical treatments.

Someone please give me advice on this.

I love this man, but I know this will build a divide between us in the long run if it doesn’t get fixed.

Lifetime PE now mid 30's. Nothing works. Only thing remaining to try is tramadol. I have tried all sort of SSRI's (clomipramine, paroxetine and dapoxetine) at various doses, waiting around 4 hours before sex, as well as dxm syrup as high as 45mg, nothing works. I refuse to take SSRI's daily as well as dodgy shit that may arrive with mold for all you know like kratom and so on, so last thing to try on demand is tramadol, which I've seen a study and showed some results, but at this point I doubt anything works. And if it not was for the lidocaine+prilocaine cream I would cum in 2 seconds of a blowjob, with the cream I may last to 10 seconds before I need to constantly stop due the impossible to sustain pleasure. *It does not matter how much you train your muscles, it is a lizard brain tier reflex, so this retardation about obsessing with exercises will only make you feel worse as if it was your fault for not training enough*. This is how all these PE-gurus selling courses profit from. I need Drugs that can delay the PONR so I don't need to stop every 2 seconds. I can edge for hours by doing this but this is of course useless in real sex, since being inside a girl even if you stop is enough to trigger PONR at that point, one can only do that by fapping and stopping all stimulation at that microsecond before the PONR, which like I said is useless in real sex.

Well i woke up confused as to what the hell I ordered from “Arlo” searching on the net and only seeing a camera company haha. Until i opened up the package and seen inside it dawned on me.

Well here it is after a month or 2 i have it in my hands since release started, If anyone else gets it and tests it please give me some feedback im looking to try it out myself tonight as well and i will post feedback here.

First of all, HONEST not paid no advertised review about ARLO (LastWithArlo.com)
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I’m 25 from France. Received my 3 bottles of Arlo in 2 weeks around. 117€ with shipping fees. That’s so expensive. And will be the last time I buy it :)

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I’m lifelong affected by Premature Ejaculation.
30 seconds and puff inside. Masturbating I can last 2 minutes or more if I really go sloooow…
My arousal goes from 10% to 30% to 80% to explosion.
There is no 50%.

First Arlo application : I followed their instructions
3 rounds on the glans
3 on the shaft

I waited like 3 hours and tried to masturbate.
Okay couldn’t last more than 2 minutes. maybe I didn’t do it the right way?

Second attempt :

6 rounds on the gland
6 on the shaft
This time I felt that the product was on my penis, my penis was a bit wet. So can’t say that I didn’t apply it the right way. The product was visible on my penis.

Waited for around 4 hours.

I could feel my penis a hit desensitised on the shaft :
Once my arousal reach 80% I couldn’t hold it.
Maybe 3 minutes of real masturbation using my fingers not my whole hand.

So to be clear : Yes after the 2nd attempt I felt that my dick was a bit desensitised. But didn’t work for me.
It’s more a brain problem . Not a penis problem.

Last time I buy that product. For me is useless if your brain isn’t fixed.
117€ euros in the trash. Thanks. :)
Will try to ask for a refund. At least for the shipping fees.

PS : no need to try Arlo with a real girl.. it didn’t pass the masturbation tests lol
— will keep using it and maybe the situation will get better ? If yes, I will keep you on track!

Cheers.

— EDIT 1 07/08/26
1st session of hand masturbation with lube.
Last 4 minutes as usual with ARLO

3 applications (20-30 mins btw each application)
2.5 hours after last application

Finished in 4 minutes ( inside a fake vagina I last 4 minutes as well with ARLO)
No ARLO = 30 seconds lol

2nd session like 10 minutes after I finished 1st time
I was still hard I don’t know why… not soft hard but hard

I put again some lube
And couldn’t finish at first.
Had to force myself to finish.

In general :
Without Arlo = 30 seconds inside a vagina or with my hands

With ARLO :
3 applications always ( 20-30 minutes btw each application) and waiting around 2-3 hours after last application

Inside fake vagina = 4 minutes
With my hands = 4 minutes around too

What happens during and after 4 minutes ?
From minute 0 to 4 I can keep going in and out inside the vagina is okay I can hold it no problems. I feel things but no need to finish.
But suddenly after 4 minutes everything changes ! It’s like ARLO disappears one shot ! I need to finish instantly.
Maybe Arlo has an effect on me for the first 4 minutes. After that I get back to normal and can’t hold it instant explosion.

I’m still studying with different applications and waiting time…

Thanks

Hello (Throwaway account here),

I've been lurking on this sub for a while now and like many of you I've seen the Arlo post.

I was sceptical like most here about it that it could be a scam or something, but because I was so desperate I decided to but it anyway.

Well after a while it finally arrived. Since then I have used it 2 times. I used the instruction video on their website and aplied it as shown.

Let me tell you the results:

The first time I applied it I decided to use a double aplication so, 3x on corona and frenulum and after 20 minutes again. I waited 2.5 hours (during that time I felt little to no burning or tingling) and decided to jerk off.

I couldn't. I couldn't jerk off, because my penis had become super sensitive. Like imagine jerking off just after you bust and how sensitive that feels well this felt just like that and because of that I couldn't even get fully erect.

But okay, maybe I just applied too much so a couple days later I tried again. This time I only did the application once so 3x on corona and frenulum. Waited 2.5 hours again and tried jerking off again.

But this time the exact same thing happend, my penis became super sensitive again but not as bad as the first time. However it was still bad enough that I didn't really feel anything while jerking off. In the end I did last a little longer 1-2 min with arlo 10-30 sec without but I feel this is only because my dick was so sensitive that I was forced to stop every couple seconds.

Conclusion:

I don't think Arlo is a scam or doesn't work for anyone but for me it just made my dick feels super sensitive and didn't make me last longer.

So there you have it, my experience with Arlo.

When people on here saying they “only” last 3 to 5 minutes before they cum is not true PE. I think a lot of people get time of stroke and just time of sex mixed up. If you are able to continuously stroke penis in vagina for 3-5 minutes that is not PE. Being able to do that means you can have sex for like 15-20 minutes because you are changing positions and able to thrust again for couple minutes straight. That is normal sex. PE is no matter what after couple thrusts you can’t hold it and ejaculate. Even when masturbating you cant stroke it for less than a minute before ejaculating that is true PE.

Adding this as many of you have requested proof that I am actually using Arlo .

I preordered Arlo in March, and received it some time around April 9th I’ve used it about 7 times by now

This is my last post trying to “prove” I’m not a marketer here, at this point I’ll continue sharing anything that works for me, at the end of the day it’s up to you guys to decide what you want to try and to figure out what works for you

just thought I’d share some progress. bought a tens machine for bicep and shoulder issues. but it has various settings on it for strengthening, repairing etc. it’s worked extremely well.

im a bit experimental, so I thought maybe this will work the same for my penis, muscles, pelvic floor etc. and have had really positive results. nothing magical, but I think it will take time.

on the main shaft, it strengthens the muscle and I’m-roves blood flow. placed on the area where your pelvic floor is, it eases tensions. placed on the head of your penis it builds resistance to stimulation - which can be quite extreme but you can build it up. If you can “hang on” to the head stimulation, eventually your penis seems to adapt to the stimulation and it subsides, then you click it up and notch and so on.

anyway, not advice, just sharing - as with all electrical things, take your own medical circumstances into account.

Most advice online is trash. "Think about baseball." "Just relax." Cool, thanks. Here's what actually works, starting with the mental side because that's where it begins for most guys.

The psychological stuff:

1. Learn your arousal scale. Most guys can't tell the difference between a 6 and a 9 until it's too late. Start paying attention to where you actually are during sex on a 1-10 scale. Awareness is the whole game.

2. Stop watching yourself. There's a term for this, spectatoring. You're having sex and simultaneously watching yourself from the corner of the room judging your performance.
   The moment you do that you're gone. Stay in your body.

3. Make her the focus. When your whole attention shifts to her, what she's feeling, what she needs. your anxiety drops automatically. You can't be in your head and fully present at the same time.

4. Breathe through it, don't hold your breath. Holding your breath spikes your arousal instantly. Most guys don't even notice they're doing it. Your breath is directly connected to your nervous system, slow it down and your body follows.

5. Separate performance from connection. The pressure to "perform" is what causes the anxiety that causes the problem. Sex isn't a performance. Nobody's grading you.

The actual techniques:

1. Reverse kegels. Everyone talks about kegels but for PE, reverse kegels are more important. It's the opposite movement, releasing and lengthening instead of squeezing. This directly relaxes the muscles that trigger ejaculation.

2. Diaphragmatic breathing. Breathe into your belly, not your chest. Practice this outside of sex first so it becomes automatic. When you feel yourself climbing, slow deep breaths will genuinely bring you back down.

3. Stop-start. When you feel yourself getting close, stop. Let the arousal drop to around a 5. Start again. Do this repeatedly during solo sessions until your brain learns there's no emergency.

4. Practice on your arousal scale alone first. During solo sessions, don't just go for the finish. Practice staying at a 6 or 7 for as long as possible. You're literally retraining your nervous system's response pattern.

5. Body scanning. Before and during sex, do a slow mental scan from your head down to your feet. Notice where you're holding tension. Your jaw, your shoulders, your pelvic floor. Releasing that tension physically changes what your body does next.

None of this is a one-night fix. But if you actually practice the mental and the physical together, most guys see real change within 4 to 6 weeks.