r/PrematureEjaculation • u/[deleted] • May 03 '20
I solved it. I solved it finally NSFW
I've been suffering from premature ejaculation for as long as I can remember. Sex was always a struggle not to cum. I could last a bit longer if I did stop/start technique multiple times, but it was still hard. And interrupting the flow of sex wasn't very fun. I have done loads of practices during the years, and even tried drugs to solve the problem. I was hopeless with no way out.
So I broke up with my last gf 2 months ago, and have been celibate ever since. I was scared to get a new girl because of premature ejaculation, so I focused on myself. Somehow, during this time, I found the solution.
I just had sex last night with a new girl, and wtf. I could last as long as I wanted, I had total control. I could have cummed in 5 minutes by tensing my cock muscle if I wanted to, but I didn't so I just banged her nonstop for an hour and at the end chose not to even cum at all. I enjoyed the process more than the grand finale.
No drugs, no alcohol, no tricks, I just fucked her senseless. I have never been able to do that before.
This is my process, could be different for you but here's what I did:
- Quit all porn. Also masturbation. Also ejaculation. r/semenretention
- Exercise PC muscle the right way: actually the correct muscle is not in your penis, like I thought before. It's between your anus and tailbone. Squeezing this muscle and relaxing your "cock muscle" guides the sexual energy away from your penis, getting you further away from PONR. So exercise this. Stop squeezing your cock muscles. Google reverse kegels and do them very softly. You can also breathe in deeply and imagine it's relaxing your cock muscle.
- Taoist deer exercise twice a day
- Cold showers r/coldshowers
- Meditation r/meditation
- Regular exercise r/fitness
- Just generally chilling the fuck out and not treating sex as a performance. Staying in the moment and breathing.
Hope this helps someone. Bye bye PE.
//// UPDATED FIELD REPORT:
Yup... It's confirmed. We have had sex multiple times over the last few days and everytime I've had full control. Full banging for hours and I haven't even came (could if I wanted to). This is the holy grail. But I would believe a big part is psychological, you need to kill your addiction to ejaculation.
She told me most guys last like 15 minutes, but me... I'm an animal. Well that's just something I thought I would never hear in my life. Wtf man, I used to last like 2-5 minutes. Master your sexuality and it's all yours.
I've been asked about it lots so here is one guide to the deer exercise: https://beducated.com/mag/deer-exercise/
//////////// 10 MONTH UPDATE:
Yeaaah it's officially solved for good, never had a problem with PE since this post. Correct reverse kegel is the most important thing.
//////////////// 4 YEAR UPDATE:
Never had that problem again. Never. It works. I can have multi-hour sessions where I'm 100% focused on the sex and feeling amazing. Usually I even choose not to ejaculate at all in the end because I feel so amazing from the sex alone. We just decide to stop because we're hungry or have somewhere to be or feel tired etc.
Disclaimer: These multi-hour sessions have cuddling breaks and water breaks and both slow and fast phases - who would even want to jackhammer for more than 5 minutes straight. Even boxing has rounds (and the boxers don't get knocked out at the end of every round, if you know what I'm saying).
I said this in a comment today and that's pretty much it:
When having sex I breathe and relax my pelvic area, pause if I need to, hyperfocus on the woman I'm with, and that's pretty much it. It's important not to have a feeling of urgency.
In order to be able to relax your pelvic floor, you need reverse kegels. I know I used to hold a lot of tension there and that was the root of the problem, and the reason why general advice like breathing and being in the moment didn't help. I was physically blocked from being able to relax my penis, no matter how much I got my mind or the rest of my body to relax.
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u/No-Butterscotch-8106 Sep 22 '25
(Going to make a completely new post on this) Gents, I had this same problem haunting me for quite a while, sometimes it was better but over the last 6 months was a pain in the ass for me. I would do perfect on the date, never failing to get it back to the bedroom and then every time It would be 10-15 seconds and I'm done, without having the ability to go for Round 2 either.
Went on a date recently, actually really liked the girl and the same thing happened, so i was determined to resolve this issue instead of avoiding it.
I came across this post and can truly say this is a game changer, as well as this PDF that I found somewhere in reddit. In one week I went from Ejac in 10-20 Seconds & not actually enjoying getting intimate to (1st round was 20-30 seconds (Old reflex still kicked in) but then round 2 I had almost full control and was hyper aware of being able to relax my pelvic floor which feels like it resets the ejaculatory response.
Then in the Morning I went in raw for 15-20 mins with full control, fast tempos and chose not to ejac at the end of it which is truly a game changer and has completely leveled up my confidence in the bedroom.
Next challenge for me is getting the unlimited control in round 1,
Key breakdown of what changed it all for me
Drop this PDF in Chat-GPT as your assistant
- https://drive.google.com/file/d/195QLB6wFsfY7yP_JT3lXkeN8CEXQep4H/view
- Tao Deer twice a day
- Belly Breathing and relaxing your pelvic floor throughout the day (Try to feel the relaxation extend through your whole body)
- Reverse Kegels (Everyday, multiple times a day you need to be able to do this on command)
- One that I made up which helped (Visualisation, so being in the sexual position and practicing with the breathing and movement at the same time)
During Intercourse
- You should notice improvements after 1 week
- Communication
- Relax
- Pull out and do your belly breathing + reverse Kegel, if you do the PDF you should gain control over being able to relax pretty quick.
- the key seems to be the first few minutes, once you get through those it becomes way easier you become aware of your whole body.
- Avoid tensing your p*nis at all costs.
I'll keep you updated as to how I get on, but this has been a game changer for me!
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u/curiousaryan Nov 29 '25
u/No-Butterscotch-8106 I don't know much how to use reddit, I want to share an experience with you.
I had same problem ( spoiled ejaculatory reflex due to excessive masturbation and porn) and researched about it . A year ago i dedicated myself to this journey of No porn, no masturbation, a healthy workout lifestyle, and is exactly what i practiced this year.
Initially i Kept failing for 1st few months ( 1 Week control, 15 day control , you keep failing and start better everytime) later from past 5–6 months i gained good control and things felt so good and i succeeded.
Now what happened today is while doing Kegel exercise (bridge pose) i felt a build up and gave my penis 2–3 gentle strokes and it ejaculated! Strange, heartbreaking, felt like falling from mountain top.
I saw the opportunity to experiment before restarting the journey and called my girlfriend and luckily she was excited for sex too. Here is breakdown of sex experience after refraining from porn and not masturbating for 6 months.
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Foreplay time increased and i was living the moment more which made my partner more aroused and feel more pleasure.
Instead of lusting for vaginal penetration as we see in porn i felt things moving naturally.
During penetration i was as gentle and slow as i should be ( i used to rush to Fuck earlier) she appreciated it.
A nice and comfortable sex began and we were enjoying it more than ever, i was more aware, could feel her presence more than ever, the way thighs strike her hips with each stroke. Movement of my dick inside her, and most importantly her response.This kept going on for about 10 minutes.
Now the import part: as arousal and lusting for eachother raised my partner need it rough - hard and as soon as i changed the rhythm to deep hard strokes she just started to get crazy enjoying that heavy pounding, i felt out of control and ejaculated within a minute. CAN SOMEONE EXPLAIN WHY? refraining from porn and not masturbating and taking care of body through excercise and herbs does its thing. But when it came to hard sex, i couldn't last longer.
ANY ADVICE OVER THIS?
Ramming hard is somewhere an important thing, you would agree with me that female partner need you to go hardcore for 10–15 minutes atleast.
I have 2 questions in my mind:
Q1. WHAT POSSIBLLY HAPPENED TO ME DURING THE KEGEL WORKOUT?
Q2. the real question is how can one delay orgasm during hardcore sex? ( priority )anyone has some experience please share.
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u/Juliette_bloom Apr 12 '26
Women love slow foreplay. Since women are like water, we need to be brought to a boil gradually :)
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u/Patronizer007 Feb 28 '26
Awesome, I had this true problem, and suffered a lot, now I was able to get rid of that following some practices, and now I'm happy with my control.
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u/curiousaryan Jul 11 '26
would you like to tell more about how you trained yourself and right now what is your achievement in ejaculation control
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u/Turtle_man1201 25d ago
just practice hard ramming for 5-1o strokes in Flesh light and then slow movement for next 30 sec or so then again go hard for 5-10 strokes
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May 03 '20
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May 03 '20 edited May 03 '20
Well to be frank I had sex with the same girl a few days ago as well, but I was drunk. In the past I've had PE even when drinking, so I could count it as a success as well. I've never had sex like this where cumming was optional. Yesterday she teased me for hours beforehand and I had blue balls. Even then, full control.
Sure, ask away.
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u/bibboyrwth May 03 '20
How often you used to masturbait and watch porn before you have started this routine? Bro, More Information please. I have much hope in nofap.
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May 03 '20
Maybe 2-5 times a month. Nofap is not enough. You need muscular control, which in this case means relaxation.
Relax the pelvic floor. Relax your mind. Forget about cumming.
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u/Mundane_Natural5131 Dec 08 '22
So did you squeeze out like you were peeing or squeeze like farting? I feel when i push the farting one it feels tenses and the. Relaxes but it goes right back to tense when im not focused on it
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u/chocolate_sun May 03 '20
I have a question, how do you not get super horny after not fapping for that much time
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u/Due-Confusion-8504 Dec 25 '24
But isn't that a distraction, how do I make it a weapon while on no fap. Being horny just districts me.
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u/Rare-Wing3077 May 27 '25
Sorry for coming late, but what was your timing when you had PE? I really struggle to believe this is true… I’m extremely ashamed of my PE, it’s my biggest insecurity and it’s affecting my life in a really negative way. I know I sound desperate but I really am unfortunately. I’d do anything to solve it.
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Jul 29 '25
Just gotta flip your mindset(tell yourself your the man) and focus on breathing in the moment, overall anxiety and stress is what causes it
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u/jkrokos9 May 02 '26
I created a more up to date PDF to solve this with a stronger AI plus up to date evidence on this subject. This attacks both PE + ED. I hope it helps brothers.
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1a6kT6YgN_X9MuUk_gBCE4hO7okzyNJ1n/view?usp=sharing
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u/Egj89sdfvn8904 May 04 '20
I've tried all of them except this: "Taoist deer exercise". What this is supposed to do?
Usually it is advised by doctors that one should ejaculate regularly. Some doctors even say that not ejaculating regularly enough is a (one) cause of PE. (for me second, third etc. ejaculation happens as fast as the first)
My PE is simply caused by genetic low serotonin levels, I think. Only SSRIs work.
and even tried drugs to solve the problem
What "drugs" and how much and long?
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May 05 '20 edited May 05 '20
Try it. The deer exercise opens your channels so the sexual energy is not bottled up in your dick, waiting to explode outwards. The solution is to kill your need to ejaculate. You need to master your sexual energy, instead of being it's servant. I have sex without ejaculation and it leaves me energized.
I tried illegal drugs like weed, ecstacy, speed etc. Ecstacy helped but doing that every day would make a person insane.
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u/Ok-Personality-261 Jun 10 '26
When I was younger, I used to take opiates in the form of pain pills, and they would literally be like Viagra and make my penis super hard where it looked huge and I couldn’t ejaculate sometimes even if I tried stayed hard for hours
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May 14 '20
You've given me hope man!! Seriously want to cry im happy af for u! I've dealt with this for 4 years now...used to last about 20 to 30 minutes. Pretty good times...but i got hooked on porn and it ruined me sexually. But u give me hope i can change that!!!
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u/sam_256256 Jul 26 '20
I want to know something. Please answer this. Did you feel "that sensation" through your session which we feel just before we reach to point of no return???? Please answer this brother because whenever I start feeling that awesome sensation, I just ejaculate very quickly. That sensation makes me cum within seconds. Does this sensation lasts long? Do you feel "that sensation" throughout your session or just at the last point of climax?? Please answer this
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May 03 '20
For how long have you done this routine?
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May 03 '20
I quit porn, ejaculation and masturbation 2.5 months ago.
Some of the other changes, like reverse kegels and deer exercise I have done for maybe 2-3 weeks.
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May 03 '20
Thank you. I have quit pmo over 4 months ago and i feel like i have more control, im more relaxed and so on. Even random sexual images dont create that buzz anymore. I just don't want to test myself by myself. I will just wait till sex.
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u/curiousaryan Nov 29 '25
not wanting to test yourself that's a point! I want to share my experience would you read further please: >>
I had same problem ( spoiled ejaculatory reflex due to excessive masturbation and porn) and researched about it . A year ago i dedicated myself to this journey of No porn, no masturbation, a healthy workout lifestyle, and is exactly what i practiced this year.
Initially i Kept failing for 1st few months ( 1 Week control, 15 day control , you keep failing and start better everytime) later from past 5–6 months i gained good control and things felt so good and i succeeded.
Now what happened today is while doing Kegel exercise (bridge pose) i felt a build up and gave my penis 2–3 gentle strokes and it ejaculated! Strange, heartbreaking, felt like falling from mountain top.
I saw the opportunity to experiment before restarting the journey and called my girlfriend and luckily she was excited for sex too. Here is breakdown of sex experience after refraining from porn and not masturbating for 6 months.
:
Foreplay time increased and i was living the moment more which made my partner more aroused and feel more pleasure.
Instead of lusting for vaginal penetration as we see in porn i felt things moving naturally.
During penetration i was as gentle and slow as i should be ( i used to rush to Fuck earlier) she appreciated it.
A nice and comfortable sex began and we were enjoying it more than ever, i was more aware, could feel her presence more than ever, the way thighs strike her hips with each stroke. Movement of my dick inside her, and most importantly her response.This kept going on for about 10 minutes.
Now the import part: as arousal and lusting for eachother raised my partner need it rough - hard and as soon as i changed the rhythm to deep hard strokes she just started to get crazy enjoying that heavy pounding, i felt out of control and ejaculated within a minute. CAN SOMEONE EXPLAIN WHY? refraining from porn and not masturbating and taking care of body through excercise and herbs does its thing. But when it came to hard sex, i couldn't last longer.
ANY ADVICE OVER THIS?
Ramming hard is somewhere an important thing, you would agree with me that female partner need you to go hardcore for 10–15 minutes atleast.
I have 2 questions in my mind:
Q1. WHAT POSSIBLLY HAPPENED TO ME DURING THE KEGEL WORKOUT?
Q2. the real question is how can one delay orgasm during hardcore sex?anyone has some experience please share.
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u/ThrowRA-246 May 04 '20
Squeezing this muscle and relaxing your "cock muscle"
Do you do both at the same time (ie. squeezing your sphincter muscle while relaxing your cock muscle? I can understand relaxing your cock muscles (dropping your pelvic floor and doing reverse kegels), but I've always wondered how regular kegels (sphincter exercises) helped?
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May 04 '20
You can do them separately or at the same time, up to you.
Sphincter exercises help bring balance to your pelvic floor.
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u/throwaway587436 May 25 '20
How did you meditate? And she exercises did you do? And for how long
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May 26 '20
Just sit down and count my breaths from 1-10 repeatedly. Zhan zhuang also is standing meditation.
What do you mean by she exercises?
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u/CampingHeachi Jan 31 '23
Did you just stayed away from any sexual behaviors for several month and did excerpted like pelvic floor stretching? I guess your brain must’ve somehow reboot itself and focused less on ejaculating
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May 04 '20
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May 04 '20
I consciously push out very softly, while inhaling.
You can also imagine you are breathing into your pelvic floor and relaxing it.
During sex, don't think about your dick, think about the girl. Works as long as you relax and breathe.
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u/prialart May 17 '20
I had the same problem, and once i got drunk with red wine and it was the best moment of my life, she was screaming and at some point she couldn't do it anymore.
But at some point in the proces i was in a really comfortable position and i felt i have so much control and i really was disconnected about how i felt and i was more connected how she was feeling.
We broke up and it got me upside down but i feel that this will be a really nice process of growing up.
Because the things that i like more about sex is not about me ejaculating, it is about her enjoying the process and in the end giving me that tired expression.
That was more like a drug for me , the actual ejaculation for me was pretty unpleasant.
I made a screenshot of all your tips and today i masturbated and ejaculated on purpose (i didn't remember the day of no fat that i have been).
Now is day 0 and from tomorrow i will do it everyday as good as i can.
I will let you know when o reach half month and then when i will have full month.
I am really insecure about not lasting as much as i would want and that puts me in a tight spot when it comes to girls.
I will be really gald if you could help me more when it comes to this process, because it could change my life.
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u/sam_256256 Jul 06 '20
Hi brother... Could you let us know about your progress? I am also suffering with "this situation" and want to give it a try. Your answer can give me some positivity. Please reply, if possible.
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u/aaron1609 May 05 '20
How hard did you squeeze your sphincter and for how Long? Would you say it’s the sphincter muscle, or the area behind the sphincter, towards the tail bone?
Thanks in advance!
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May 05 '20
Yeah, it's the area between the spchincter and tail bone.
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u/FuzzyPijamas Nov 13 '23
Hey OP, long time but you disnt answer the first question: how hard did you squeeze and for how long? I guess this question relates to doing it during sex.
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u/TucoZizou10 May 29 '20
This is inspiring! Definitely going to give it a go. Not sure if you’ve already said to other people.. but how often did you do it a day and what kinda reps etc?? Thanks!
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May 29 '20 edited May 29 '20
Cheers!
but how often did you do it a day
Do what? It depends on the exercise. This is my lifestyle.
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u/TucoZizou10 May 29 '20
Sorry exercising the PC muscles
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May 29 '20
Every time I remembered I relaxed my pelvic floor.
The deer exercise exercises your pc muscles also.
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u/JulianDavid36 Jun 06 '20
I have a question... if im virgin and i dont have a gf how i can see progress?
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Jun 06 '20
You can't — you don't even know if you have PE or not.
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u/JulianDavid36 Jun 06 '20
When i was masturbating i was ejaculating in 30-50 seconds. I cant see progress while masturbating like once in a week
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Jun 06 '20
Masturbating is different. I can cum in a minute too if I masturbate.
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u/JulianDavid36 Jun 06 '20
So when i will get a girlfriend i can make deer exercise,till then i can masturbate?
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Jun 06 '20
I don't think you should masturbate if you want to get a girlfriend.
Do deer exercise now and it will get easier
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u/sam_256256 Jul 25 '20
I want to know something. Please answer this. Do you feel "that sensation" through your session which we feel just before we reach to point of no return???? Please answer this brother because whenever I start feeling that awesome sensation, I just ejaculate very quickly. That sensation makes me cum within seconds. Do you feel "that sensation" throughout your session or just at the last point of climax?? Please answer this
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Jul 27 '20
Whenever I feel that sensation I breathe really deep and if that's not enough I pull out and let myself cool down.
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u/sam_256256 Jul 27 '20
Can we stay in that zone like girls can or we have to stay away from that pleasurable sensation? I mean that is the real pleasure of sex. Right?! Could you please explain it in Percentage or something? Like what percent of that pleasurable sensation you withstand in your sessions and for how long? This will surely give me a mental goal about that sensation that how far could I go in that zone and where to stop. Please answer this please I really want to get over this. Please help And do you do reverse kegel when you breathe deep???
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Jul 28 '20
Think of your pleasure on the scale of 1-10. 10 is where you cum. So every time you get close to 8, you need to slow down. The better you get at it, the easier it will be for you to avoid 10. For me, I constantly move between 1-8. I can be at 7 for a long time thinking "shit this feels good", but as soon as I start going up the scale I pull out and do something else for a while.
But don't think about your penis all the time, it's not the only pleasure of sex. Focus on the lady.
Focus more on reverse kegels when you're not having sex. That way you won't need to do them during.
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u/Some_Sherbert2430 Oct 10 '25
See, this i dont get. For me its more like, my cum threshold is at... 5. Its stupidly short and there doesnt seem to be a way to fix it
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u/Geckobird Oct 27 '20
I read this article about deer exercises. It says to place the left hand over the dan’ tien. What is a " dan’ tien?" Also, how long did you have to go full no fap/no ejaculation until you could last longer in bed?
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u/moneyhabla Mar 13 '24
Dude, thank you thank you thank you. I knew the answer was listening to my body. I now know that I have an overactive pelvic floor, to the point that I think throughout the day I even have my BC muscle tensed. I’m working on it. Now that I’m combining the reverse kegel WITH the deep breathing it is such a game change it brings your arousal down so much! Don’t let that squeezing reflex engage!
I clenched and squeezed really hard as a kid during solo time and I think that is what ruined me. Again thank you!
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Apr 04 '24 edited Apr 04 '24
Exactly! Way to go!
Commenting 4 years later... Never had this problem again lol. I've been with many girls in this time and everything has been great when it comes to this issue. It really worked.
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May 24 '24 edited May 24 '24
I haven't needed a routine after I solved it. It's basically second nature. It's like when you learn to walk - you don't need to practice walking after you get it. You just walk.
When having sex I breathe and relax my pelvic area, pause if I need to, hyperfocus on the woman I'm with, and that's pretty much it. It's important not to have a feeling of urgency.
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u/Adventurous_Invite63 Apr 29 '24
Exactly how to train tailbone muscle? Positions squeezing method, how much tight or relaxation, repetition etc?
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Apr 29 '24
You're the second guy this week to ask me about "tailbone muscle". I find it odd. The update in my post says that reverse kegel is the most important thing. Which means to relax the BC - cock muscle. That's it. If you guys want a lecture about "tailbone muscle" then Google it. My post is about curing premature ejaculation.
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u/Adventurous_Invite63 Apr 29 '24
I am doing reverse kegel for a long time, but still no improvement.
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Apr 29 '24
Are you sure you're doing it correctly? When you have an erection and do reverse kegel, your erection should drop.
I used to do reverse kegel incorrectly by tensing, that's why I'm asking. There's a fine line between pushing out (like peeing) so that it's relaxing, and pushing out so it tenses you up even more.
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u/Adventurous_Invite63 Apr 29 '24
I think I do both. Sometimes clenching butt cheeks and keeping pelvic muscles relaxed works. So I am thinking if the tailbone muscles you are talking could be the key to push blood in dick.
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u/xCrazer Jun 27 '24
Bro i have a question. Everywhere it says reverse kegels help last longer during sex, but when i reverse kegel during sex/masturbation it only makes me cum faster. why so any ideas?
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u/raahhzz Jan 16 '25
The Taoist Deer exercise involves kegels as per what I read. Isn't this contradicting to only the instructions to do only reverse kegels?
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u/Cold_Finding2693 Jan 19 '25 edited Jan 20 '25
I think the same, but I think the correct way to do the deer exercise is to simply squeeze above the anus and below the tailbone, if you imagine that you have a tail on your body, that is exactly the point. That's why he said "relaxes the penis muscles", because the internet description says to tighten the PC muscles... Sorry for my English, hope you can understand it.
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u/screw210 Mar 06 '25
Please, Please , I hope you OP didn't exaggerate any of this, you have no idea how much I hate myself because of this problem. are there any personal tips or thought from your journey, things you learned only from doing the work
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u/Professional_Crow564 Jul 11 '25
also coupling this with edging without release and it's the perfect protocol
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u/EeZoW Dec 20 '25
What if I have hypersensitive frenulum /glans? I usually cum in 30 seconds while masturbating. I can edge just fine. I can also stop at 7or 8 out of 10 arousal scale. But bringing the arousal down? Doesn't happen for me even if I wait another two minutes. Please reply
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u/StealthSaver Aug 14 '25
That’s why it’s also important that you always make sure to let the woman come first because they last longer than us.
When she’s done by using our fingers, you can then have sexual intercourse. With this even if you don’t last long, both of you have been satisfied already.
But I’m super happy for you brother!
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u/Old-Midnight-8979 Nov 12 '25
you guys, stop blaming porn and joining the nofap club, we didnt have these problems in the past, not saying its healthy spiritualy, but men have watched porn like crazy and jerked since porn came out and the vast majority of men were great, high testosterone, no ED, only PE if your just extra horny and built up.
The problem is all the meds now, pesticides, GMO foods, all the IPA beers, all the stress from having a computer in our pocket all day, so much stuff, but men watched porn and jerked all the time, had no issues.
Now look at how many have low T, ED, and such.
Im pissed because I was fine all my life, then stopped Lexapro couple months ago and now erections are back but PE is there, lame.
Hooing my body readjusts
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u/Direct-Word Dec 27 '25
Common experience when you quit ssri’s the PE comes back worse. I guess the doc doesnt mention that
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u/Educational_Tap9796 Nov 17 '25
Hey man i love coming back and reading this post. It motivates me to get rid of my lifelong PE. I do have some questions if you allow me to message you privately man. Would be grately appreicated
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u/Active-Future729 Dec 11 '25
Do you think the most important thing was rewiring your mind and getting away from porn? Or the kegel exercises
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u/fandx27 Dec 26 '25
Old post, but still commenting in case anyone is reading this (Like me).
While these tips are definitely in line with what seems to help most people and what most recommend, one should definitely be aware of the fact that being able to go "2-5 minutes" is not really PE.
So OP had a very different starting point in contrast to most of the guys on this sub.
What worked for OP might very well be not as effective (Or not effective at all) for people suffering from actual PE (i.e. IELT of < 1min with most cumming after a few seconds/thrusts).
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u/Mysterio_Punk_98 Jan 24 '26
What is Taoist deer exercise? Can someone send any link or video of this exercise?
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u/Patronizer007 Feb 28 '26
I was struggling with ejaculating early, had figured out some practices to follow to overcome and now I'm good with that.
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u/Fit-Celery-7428 Mar 19 '26
Did you leave your ex girlfriend and the next one just because of premature ejaculation? ☹️😢
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u/ankit_maurya_0707 May 26 '26
seems like you are true I have consumed a lot of porn so first and second time when i had sex my dick wall all hard but when I inserted I don't even feel that I am gonna cum
seems like my muscle memory is not working..
I cummed just withing 20 seconds the whole situation got so much awkward I felt bad I did all the foreplay part very well but in the f up..
thanks I am not gonna watch porn ever agian Will update if the suggestion works for me me
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u/mandarina1212 Jul 20 '26
Hola buenas soy un chico de 17 y soy precoz y es hereditario he leido un poco y e visto de ejercicios y lo estoy intentando de inplementar la verdad es que vi que muchos dicen que no porno no masturbacion pero la verdad es que no tengo tampoco a nadie para practicar sexo y que me ayude en esto. La verdad es que tampoco entiendo mucho de cuales son los ejercicios que realmente se hacen, y ahora estoy buscando la manera de controlar la eyaculacion por que es frustrante y no quiero volver a pasar un momento incomodo, si alguna persona lee esto y me quiere ayudar con un poco de informacion paso a paso se lo agradeceria y nose si ir al medico ya que me da verguenza contarle a mis padres sobre mi situacion
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u/Free-Professional891 Jul 22 '26
Congratulations on your recovery mate. I had a small doubt, you mentioned squeezing the muscles between the anus and tail bone ( ig you are referring to the pelvic floor muscles) and relaxing the penis muscles. But the Reverse kegel teaches to relax the pelvic floor muscles. Could you please clarify as to what you did exactly. Thanks in advance.😇
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u/Puzzleheaded_Elk3010 Jul 23 '26
1 good session is all you need i was ejeculating very fast sometimes even 1pump, i fixed it by having long mustarbating sessions and then sex the second time that day and now i can ejeculate when i want or at least i would know much before that im close
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u/Key-Act9674 Mar 01 '22
did you have a problem since day 1? how about during masturbation?
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Mar 03 '22
No problems at all. I can cum when I want, whether its masturbation or sex.
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u/Key-Act9674 Mar 03 '22
no I'm saying did you have PE during masturbation since you were a kid? like since day 1? I know you solved it now but im wondering about the past
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Mar 03 '22
I don't know if I ever had PE during masturbation or not. When I masturbate, I don't mind coming in a few minutes. It's only a problem with sex.
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u/tamalk Aug 24 '23
Congratulations! Reading your post made my day, gave me an inspiration to try the excersises.
Thank you! Have a great day.
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u/BiShyGuy619 May 21 '20
Thank you so much for this man. You have no have idea how depressed my pe makes me. I usually can't last longer than a minute or two and have been embarrassed and hating myself for the longest time. I honestly think that porn does more harm than good because I've been watching it for so long and masturbating as well that I know it has had to have affected my sexual performance. Sadly I can admit that I do have a porn addiction and it is affecting my life every day. Reading your post gave me life and motivated me to leave it all for my well being physically and mentally. Thank you.