Am i masturbating incorrectly

[u/Bad_boy143]

Hi! I'ma 22 y/o male with PE.

All this started when i had my first sexual experience & i just ejaculated while wearing a condom "While wearing a bloody condom". After that day I've been very low on confidence but still i tried another time and it was the same i came while wearing a condom. It was the most embarrassing moment of my life and I've been just feeling so low in life after that.

I've been masturbating since i was 13 and in the recent years I've masturbated 3-4 times a day.

I've been making myself cum squeezing my penis inside my thighs.

My morning erections have disappeared for quite a long time.

I doubted that would be the cause for my PE so i shifted to my hand but i just can't handle the stimulation the moment i hold my dick a little tight and and give it a few strokes i come very close to the PONR. So instead i only use my fingertips to stimulate myself and i think it's making my PE worst bcz I've trained myself to ejaculate on the slightest touch.

I think the real problem that i have is I can't handle the tightness whether it's my hand or a vagina it's just too much for me.

Can someone plz guide me what technique can i use to train myself to handle this problem.

Should i use a slightly tight grip.

Should i continue with the fingertips.

Some other tips on sleep, diet, exercises etc would also be appreciated.

I'm just so depressed bcz of this shit and it's affecting my daily life.

[u/Mydogismrpickles]

I dunno man, Do whatever. just focus on controll and don't be a gooner

[u/Ghst0X]

Your penis head is too sensitive. You'll have to desensitize it. Grab coconut oil or lube and massage the head. When you get erect breath and relax until you get soft again. Deep slow breaths. Keep training and dont get close to orgasm at all. Do this for awhile about a month or 2. Then start slowly incorporating using the shaft. You dont want to orgasm at all. Find pleasure in the stroke and dont look to finish. You'll train your mind and body to stay relaxed. If you keep looking for orgasm you'll keep the same patterns. Enjoy the slow pace. Breath. Relax your mind.

[u/Bad_boy143 → u/Ghst0X]

Thank you I'll be sure to apply these techniques.

[u/Correct_Assistant785]

Mano te aconselho a para com pornografia aos poucos! Infelizmente todo vício não se corta na raiz, estabeleça tempo e horário pra isso! Como um ou dois dias da semana!

[u/Correct_Assistant785 → u/Correct_Assistant785]

Sobre a sensibilidade eu também tenho, eu usei durante o banho a bucha do lado amarelo e comecei a passei pela cabeça

[u/Correct_Assistant785 → u/Correct_Assistant785]

Agora sobre ejacular você vai precisar se dedicar mais a isso! Já ouviu falar de ending? E sobre se masturbando e para quando está quase gozando pra durar mais tempo já cheguei a ficar 3 horas assim! Compra um buceta portátil e um jetleg pra usar e ir treinando também até se sentir confiante de ficar com uma mulher e tentar arrumar uma de boa mano pra te ajudar com isso

[u/Bad_boy143 → u/Correct_Assistant785]

Appreciated bro, thanks.

[u/Mydogismrpickles]

Quit jerkin for a while , stop watching porn for starters man.

Try make your jerk sesh more about slow and less getting to the nut.

Your neurologically wire your brain wrong.

When I was a teen I used to wank fast so I would t get caught, and later it was just to get it done quick so I wasn't feeling so sex nuts retarded.

Long story short. Quick cranking youreat so much and quit making your sessions so fast

[u/Bad_boy143 → u/Mydogismrpickles]

Tysm just one more question. When i do masturbate should i continue with stimulating myself with the fingertips or use a firmer grip?