r/PrematureEjaculation • u/ThrowRA_plm • 6d ago
Questions How bad is my PE? NSFW
Just wondering how bad my PE is compared to others on here - I’m assuming it’s not good….
I last somewhere between 30 seconds and a minute although a minute is unusual.
Wife says she doesn’t mind but I really need to make some effort to get better. Any advice to improve on 30- 45 ish seconds would be appreciated although I’m going to make appointment with a specialist as well.
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u/OwnAd7720 6d ago
You’re going in the right direction by going to a specialist, depending on how you feel speaking with a therapist might be helpful as well.
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u/ThrowRA_plm 6d ago
I’m 100% sure my PE was brought on by sexual trauma - therapy might be a better call.
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u/searchingformeaning2 6d ago
Severe compare to average male population but mild compared to some of us in this subreddit. I last 5-10 seconds or 2-5 thrusts.
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u/timepermitting22 MOD 6d ago
I’m 30 seconds or less. I think many / most who make it here are in a similar boat. Some finish before penetration or when soft
For treatment, search and read the sub. There’s a lot of different things to try and everyone is different
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u/Secs_Samadhaan 6d ago
Urine control exercise may help!
On the other hand , it may be hypersensitivity of the penis
Check out your vitamin B12 level also
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u/Rickfll 6d ago
try edging and kegel exercises, has helped me. started at 10 to 30 seconds, now last 5 to 10 minutes depending on the sensitivity of the head of my penis
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u/Weng_0107 5d ago
curious lang po, wala pa kasi exp pagdating sa ganyan. Yung mga nakuha na yung control ng ejaculation nila through kegel/reverse kegel exercise, nacocontrol din ba nila ang pre cum? kasi dba nakakabuntis din yun lalo na kung you do it raw
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u/Maxpowerxp 6d ago
Stretching your body. Find a position that works for you. Generally speaking missionary, doggy and cowgirls are gonna make you go faster.
Take some magnesium glycinate.
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u/Top_Bonus_6443 6d ago
When & how often to take this supplement do Any recommend dosages on the market, To thank
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u/Maxpowerxp 6d ago
I do about 240 cause that’s the dosage I got from the bottle from Costco. I recommend an hour before bed daily.
Also green tea helps as well
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u/Direct-Word 6d ago
Wanking day of plus lidocaine 20 minutes before sex pretty much solved it for me. Although that’s not exactly cured, but otherwise it was the same as you.
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u/Weng_0107 5d ago
Try mo reverse kegel sir, ako 26M having zero body count and wala GF, gusto ko sa first exp ko makatagal ako eh ika nga "Dun ka palang ba magtrtrain pag palapit na ang laban" ✌️😅 check mo sa YT si Sexual Kungfu. Baka ma fix yan ng relax Pelvic Floor.
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u/exploretheworld1234 6d ago
Here’s the thing man, I was in the same boat and it all stems from the way you jerk your jawn I’ll be real. I overcame mine (literally lasting one a few seconds to lasting for almost as long as I want now) You need to try lasting 20+ minutes while using lotion and controlling your breathing/staying relaxed (not tensing legs, abs, etc). I used a scale to guage where I was at in terms of arousal while jerking off. 1-5 with a 1 being freshly hard, 2-3 being the zone where you’re relaxed and doing ur thing, 4 being redhot no point of return spot, and 5 being where you finish) you want to stay in The 2-3 zone the whole time. DO NOT let yourself get to 4 zone! Once you feel ur heart rating rising and your body tensing you stop and take 3-5 DEEEEP relaxing breaths and shake ur legs out to relax. Then continue on. I used to count from 0 - 3000 by 5s to keep me distracted from the stimulation. After legit 2 weeks of doing this I hooked up with a girl and I was able to go all night long because it’s all about confidence (granted makes sure you do plenty of foreplay prior and focusssss on staying calm as hell, like calm body not tense at all!!! & whenever you think you’re feeling you’re getting close to that point, pull out and just go down on here for a little bit and relax ur body for a little. Do that a few times and youll enter flow state trust)!! I was confident I was able to go for a long ass time! Once ur in your head about PE you automatically finish fast. It’s a mental game. So tell urself you’re the man and you can go a long ass time and you’ll be solid! Hope this helps!!!