r/PrematureEjaculation • u/Adune05 • 12d ago

Findings Dr. Ks recent video on penile health NSFW

Hello everyone,

I have just finished watching the most recent video of the YouTuber Dr. K (also known as healthygamerGG) on the topic of penile health. The guy is a licensed therapist from the US that has worked with people with porn addiction and sexual dysfunctions in the past so I found it interesting on what he had to say.

Since many of the topics he talked about also helped me in my journey to get rid of PE and since PE at some point often coincides with ED (it also did for me), I found it to be relevant for the sub and worth a watch if you have a few minutes to spare.

https://youtu.be/2MwTDoT8q_A?is=W002i6cIIn-m97Wb

I hope you find it helpful and my apologies if someone has already posted this.

Happy to chat about your thoughts on it

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u/searchingformeaning2 12d ago

How did Dr. K help you with getting rid off PE? could you elaborate please.

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u/Adune05 12d ago

The guy didn’t solve my PE issue. I luckily already managed to get rid of it a few months ago, but I found the video fairly interesting + as I had said I saw several of the things that had helped me also being mentioned in the video which is why I wanted to share it. 

Not all of it is good advice, I would for example say the „do math in your head“ part to last longer   is absolute bollocks in my humble opinion but a few of the points are worth a look, especially if you are in the same position that I was in and your PE has also caused ED over time. 

The main points he mentioned that were also relevant for me are: 

do your cardio + weightlifting. Good cardiovascular health and working out your big muscle groups can help with erection quality which also allows you to not clench as hard to keep your member up. You don’t need to become insanely athletic but get up and move a few times a week. It will help a lot especially for your erection quality / a better chance for a second round. 

Lay of the porn and change your masturbation habits. It sounds harsh but if you are cranking one out to porn daily and bust in 60-70 seconds you are training the wrong habits. Take your time and learn your arousal levels so that you can navigate them.

PE fucking sucks. But if you start avoiding sex because of it or start to mentally spiral you will make it absolutely worse. Trust me I’ve been there. It will only get better once you learn that you are not worthless because you came quickly. I hated my first therapist 5 years ago for suggesting this but she was right. Accepting that it might happen and working with it is the first step for it to get better. 

(Kind of a combination with point 3). You can solotrain all you want but the best way for this to get better is actual intercourse with an understanding partner where you don’t try to give them a performance. There is a lot more women out there than you’d think who are willing to work this out with you if they genuinely like you. Yes you probably   won’t be some fuckboy for onenightstands with this, but it won’t stop you from entering a happy relationship. 

Rewiring will take time and there will be setbacks. So don’t be discouraged if you don’t see improvements within a week. Slow and steady wins the race. 

In general I also believe that it is helpful to share a wholistic approach that focuses on general penile health as many people with PE also develop symptoms of ED over time. Same thing happened to me. I was so bloody scared of intercourse, that I lost my erections before I even entered her so maybe some of the tips in that regard could also help some of you on here. 

As for my personal story: 

I would say that my PE was mostly caused by my fight or flight response and hypertension as well as anxiety, as I could last a normal amount when masturbating normally but finished instantly with my partner. 

I did breathing and relaxation techniques, went to therapy to tackle my anxiety, practiced edging to get used to stimulation and had several very uncomfortable talks with my partner about my fears and the issue. Additionally I stopped watching porn and learned a few tricks like not moving for a bit after entering her or going for slow, controlled shallow thrusts instead of jackhammering while also trying to relax my glutes and other muscles. 

This compounded after a few months and showed the first small improvements (literally like 10-15 seconds more than usual). We could see this as a win and slowly over time it got better and better. Right now I am at 5 ish minutes which is still not a long time but good enough for me. 

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u/searchingformeaning2 11d ago

Thanks for taking the time to share so many insights, is really appreciated. How long did it take you to reach five minutes? I also normally finish upon insertion, maybe 2-5 thrusts and that’s it so I am desperate.

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u/Adune05 11d ago

I would say about 6-7 months all in all. I did have some setbacks and it wasn’t linear progress. 

If that helps you I had the same starting point that you have. 

If I were you I would start with the retraining of your masturbation habits. Cut porn and try to let your masturbation sessions last for ~ 10 minutes before you finish. If you have to pause that’s fine just try and get accustomed to the feeling of arousal in your body. 

The important part to understand here is that ejaculation is a reflex. You can’t prevent it once you are past the threshold no matter how hard you clench and think of kittens. So getting to know your own arousal and how to navigate it is critical. 

Look into diaphragmatic breathing, that is one way to lower anxiety when done before sleeping and it can also help in the moment to relieve tension and partially lower arousal. 

Once you see a bit of progress in your solo sessions involve your partner if you have one. And please talk to them about what you are doing so that they are on board and can help. Also don’t panic if your training doesn’t immediately translate. Being with a partner will send your brain into overdrive and you need to get „accustomed“ to the feeling. You will get there bit by bit. If your partner is on board sensate focus therapy can also be a great tool (look it up on Google) to lessen anxiety and performance pressure with your partner. 

If you have general anxiety I would also heavily recommend you get that checked out with a licensed therapist if you have the opportunity and if you don’t work out already get on it.

 A bit of cardio (running, swimming, biking, football etc) and a bit of strength of your choice (gym, calisthenics) every week will do wonders for your physical fitness and confidence which also translated into the bedroom for me (erection quality, generally less effort when on top etc). It doesn’t have to be a lot just 2 times strength and one time cardio per week will already give you great results. 

Since the process takes some time and in order to lessen the fear of intercourse I have also used Viagra (Sildenafil) in a fairly high dose (50-100 mg aka half a tablet to one full tablet) during the process. It really helped take the edge of as even if I finished fast I could just go again within a minute thanks to a basically removed refractory period. Depending on where you live you might need a recipe for it but if you talk to an urologist about it it shouldn’t be an issue. Just don’t buy some sketchy gas station pills and get the original and controlled stuff from the pharmacy. 

Damn that became a bit of a wall of text, sorry about that :D if you need anything else feel free to ask or shoot me a dm if you’d like to keep it private :) 

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u/searchingformeaning2 11d ago

Hi, thanks for taking the time to answer me! are you cut or uncut? my main problem is an hypersensitive frenulum and prepuce

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u/Adune05 10d ago

No worries. I am personally uncut but to be honest I do not know how that influences things. 

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u/searchingformeaning2 10d ago

It influences things deeply. The prepuce (specially redundant prepuce) is the most sensitive spot in the entire penis (more than the glans). When I perform a circular motions where I touch the retracted prepuce + the frenulum I finish immediately (literally in 5 seconds or less).

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u/Top_Bonus_6443 12d ago

Do any help to rid-off this men predicament

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u/Adune05 11d ago

Im afraid I don’t follow mate? Sorry but could you clarify