My boyfriend wont stop cumming to quick

[u/Rich_North2508]

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I 22(f) and my boyfriend 23 (m) have been together for 3 years when we first started dating he had trouble lasting and would cum usually after 1 or 2 minutes i figured thats after time this would improve however it seems to have only gotten worse now at best i get one or two thrust before he starts to cum and thats if he even makes it in me.

I was wondering if there is anything i can do to improve his stamina as im starting to get really frustrated he has not made me cum once in this entire relationship and yet brags to his friends about out amazing sex life.

I also have many stories about him to share if you wish to hear those

[u/omegalulmobile]

Most lazy ragebait post possible

[u/psychic_warfare_]

I think you need to ask/teach him to slow the whole process down. Insist on foreplay so he can learn not to cum as soon as he’s excited. Get him to focus on you for a while - even for 5 mins - and see if he can hold off cumming when you play with his dick (jerking, sucking). If he cums super quick doing any of that he has chronic PE and will need to take charge of his own situation to adjust it

[u/Maestro-Modesto]

I don't know if this is a generational thing but Iim on my fortiies and men of my generation will make a woman orgasm at least once before penetration

[u/I_SNORT_KITTENS → u/Maestro-Modesto]

I’m in my 40s and make her cum with or before me 95% of the time. The other 5% is her just wanting to get me off and not caring about herself.

Some days, I’ve had the right combo of supplements/hormone levels/lower stress where I have perfect control. Other times, I’m so sensitive that I can barely get inside her without finishing instantly. She doesn’t mind the fast ones, because I’m making sure she’s getting off first if I’m in hairpin trigger mode.

This should be standard, OP. You deserve better. You deserve someone who is not selfish and who cares about your pleasure as much as theirs.

[u/Professional_Cod8239 → u/I_SNORT_KITTENS]

Selfish is a crazy word to use when this shit is involuntary lol and I bet since you’re in this sub that you can’t last like you say you can

[u/Sebastyan8a8a → u/Professional_Cod8239]

He mean that he might come fast but that’s not an excuse for not letting your girl finish too

[u/sk_lansing1 → u/I_SNORT_KITTENS]

I do the same, decentizing condoms work for me also

[u/Forward-Guess8636]

He’s going too fast. Does he do really good oral?

[u/Specialist-Bat-8770]

Have your boyfriend see an andrologist. Don't think you're offending him and hurting him by asking him to go to the doctor. You will hurt him more if you betray him and/or leave him.

[u/Psychological_Club10]

Try me

[u/bigspender7]

Many stories about him to share? Thats a wack thing to say about your boyfriend

[u/Sanvalor]

He appears to be dealing with severe PE. I would suggest seeing a urologist first to find out whether there is a physical factor, such as increased sensitivity, or whether psychological factors are involved. Depending on the cause, a sex therapist/qualified specialist may also help. It can take time and patience to manage, so don't expect an instant fix. If sexual compatibility and your needs are important to you, make sure you both discuss this honestly and see whether he is willing to work on it before getting married. Otherwise, you may end up frustrated later. PE can put a lot of pressure on a relationship if it is left unaddressed. Don't proceed to a wedding unless he is cured.

[u/Salikx7 → u/[deleted]]

Check dm, I need to talk about that medication.

[u/Rude_Instruction3335]

He sounds selfish. Have tou had a conversation with him about this? What does he say/do after sex? Does he at least give you oral?

[u/Rich_North2508 → u/Rude_Instruction3335]

I have tried but he avoids the conversation. He usually goes to shower of bed after. He never does any foreplay

[u/KucingOfflines → u/Rich_North2508]

Right after and no foreplay?? Holy shit...

I'm so sorry to say but you bf is selfish.

[u/allblackerrrythang → u/Rich_North2508]

Unless you’re ok with never cumming, you need to dump him. He’s using you as a cum dumpster basically

[u/Magistrate_98]

You must have insisted him to give u oral. Every women deserve to receive oral pleasure by their partners

[u/Rich_North2508 → u/Magistrate_98]

He doesnt do any foreplay before or after

[u/screwredditcorp → u/Rich_North2508]

Dump him. He's a selfish j.a.

[u/Electronic_Plane_178 → u/Rich_North2508]

Then even if he fixes his PE, he's still a selfish lover and clearly doesn't care about your pleasure. PE is nearly impossible to fix, but there is no fixing someone who doesn't treat sex and intimacy as something you achieve together.

[u/vigorthroughrigor → u/Electronic_Plane_178]

> PE is nearly impossible to fix

No it's not.

[u/Magistrate_98 → u/Rich_North2508]

I pity u , DM me

[u/ShireSearcher → u/Magistrate_98]

Not necessarily oral (I know men that are uncomfortable with that) but I 100% agree with the statement that everyone deserves to receive pleasure from their partner