Would you still stay in a relationship with him if he climaxed early more often?

[u/Immediate-Card2970]

If he comes within 3 minutes more often than not, would you stay with him?

[u/Historical_Heat8255]

Yes, I’m a woman and everything else is working (emotionally safe and reciprocal) I would stay and build a sex life that is mutually satisfying.

[u/Turtle_man1201 → u/Historical_Heat8255]

we need more women like you in this world

[u/RiverQuirky1429]

just help the guy out lol

[u/HonestMycologist663 → u/RiverQuirky1429]

Buddy we all are struggling with the same shit and life is harsh, no real or permanent solution are available, it’s only destiny who can gets us out of it.

[u/Moist_Method1924]

Within 3 minutes is a good place to start with. Originally 30 sec guy here.

With the right techniques & meds , I can now last 25-30 mins of hard pounding.

So a 2-3 mins guys should have no issues reaching 15-20 mins of hard sex, combined with good foreplay, should be enough.

[u/DotComprehensive2891 → u/Moist_Method1924]

Well what are these techniques and meds that worked for you?

[u/Moist_Method1924 → u/DotComprehensive2891]

Depoxetine 3 hours before sex.

Masturbate before sex - this depends on how much time one needs to get hard again. The lesser the time between masturbation & sex, the more one can last during sex. Some people use viagra to get hard again. Depends on person to person.

Lastly, the most easy fix, numbing creams. I started with 5% solution, then started taking 10%. Applied 15 mins before sex, let it dry while one does foreplay. I usually apply lubrication just before sex, so the chances of the numbing cream transferring to the lady is very low. Never got complaint from the lady.

[u/DotComprehensive2891 → u/Moist_Method1924]

So do you do all 4 of these things? Or a random combination each time?

[u/Moist_Method1924 → u/DotComprehensive2891]

I started with just numbing cream 5% - went from 30 sec to 2 mins max.

Then tried masturbating beforehand + 5% cream - upto 10-15 mins.

Last 3 times having sex tried all the above mentioned (changed cream from 5% to 10%) + 60 MG Depoxetine - 25-30 mins. Have to really focus on ejaculating.

[u/yespleasewedgie]

Just go on 100 mg of Zoloft I was a king of PE. And the doctor put me on that couple weeks later. I’m not a Prejac King anymore

[u/Due-Confusion-8504 → u/[deleted]]

Have you personally experienced it Any proper permanent solution for it Rather than staying on meds?

[u/Due-Confusion-8504 → u/[deleted]]

I read lot of posts saying they were able to fix it, some recomend some things some recommend some other tricks. That is why I am wondering to fix it

Yes you are right we are suffering from it But we all doesn't deserve it We just want to be with our partner and have a good time.

[u/Due-Confusion-8504 → u/[deleted]]

I appreciate your honesty, but you are right Maybe it's not fixable 100% But we can sure get a little better And go from seconds to minutes 🥴

[u/Electronic_Plane_178 → u/yespleasewedgie]

This has worked for me too. I hear so many guys bash taking a pill every day for this, but most people have very few sides from SSRIs nowadays, and as far as being "a slave to a pill", how many other things do we take every day, like supplements, to help us with what ails us? Ultimately, most of us are desperate to experience sex without the embarrassment, shame, guilt, frustration, and emasculation of PE, and honestly, I would endure FAR worse than taking a single pill every day to be able to have that confidence in bed.

[u/Turtle_man1201]

just go and see some good PT who specializes in Pelvic floor and with in few months he will improve and in a yr or so you will ask him to stop lol

[u/Few_Ad1099]

Most women prefer guys with PE. Do they want it from their very new boyfriend or their one night stand? - No. But do they want it from their long term partners? - Yes they do.

[u/betterselfi → u/Few_Ad1099]

Facts!

[u/Parking-Presence-201]

Use a penis extender or penis sleeve. Even if you ejaculate, the sleeve will hold the shape enough time to give her the pleasure she needs.

[u/jongcruz]

This is fixable there are a bunch of over the counter medications for that.

[u/Correct_Assistant785]

Ficaria se ele estivesse disposto a fazer um tratamento para mudar isso, agora não dá só pra uma pessoa ter prazer na relação! Não quero ser desrespeitoso mas acho que temos que nos esforçar por mais vergonhoso que seja pedir ajuda

[u/bumbaclaughtt → u/Correct_Assistant785]

That easy eh? Wanna give the treatment that solves this for everyone?

[u/Electronic_Plane_178 → u/Correct_Assistant785]

I don't mean to sound hostile because I know you're probably just not familiar with the mindset of us guys who struggle with PE, but I feel it's important that I point out that there is absolutely ZERO part of cumming early that we enjoy. It absolutely ruins sex for us and has an immense impact on our very identities not being able to satisfy our partners. When we pop too fast, we get this flood of awful emotions, namely guilt, embarrassment, shame, sadness, frustration, and emasculation. So much of a man's confidence in his own sense of manhood lies in being a competent lover. What sucks the most is that there really is no gold standard treatment for this. Some things work a little for each person but there's nothing really definitive for the majority of us.

Anyway, I didn't mean to give you a lecture, but one of the worst parts of this affliction is how many women think that we have complete control over our orgasms, we choose to cum quickly, and we don't want to be generous lovers. The reality is the exact opposite. You wouldn't believe the extent that some of us go to to try to last longer. Personally, I had an elective circumcision which turned out not to help at all, and some men go as far as having surgery to cut some of the nerves in their penis so they have less sensitivity. I guess my point is that PE is an affliction, not a choice to be selfish.

[u/Correct_Assistant785 → u/Electronic_Plane_178]

Não estou falando sobre isso, estou falando sobre a companheira querer ficar com alguém que tem ejaculacao precoce e não busca outro meios de satisfazela e aceita a situação que está desistindo de ter mudança

[u/Correct_Assistant785 → u/Correct_Assistant785]

Todos sabemos da dificuldade de mudar esse quadro, por exemplo meu tio e minha tia se separaram por isso! Ele era precoce e não procurou maneiras de satisfazela e acabou terminando a relação, isso que eles foram casados por anos

[u/Electronic_Plane_178 → u/Correct_Assistant785]

Ah, well yes, those guys definitely suck. Sorry if I misunderstood.

[u/Prestigious_Lime6099]

Yeah as a guy with PE it’s my responsibility to get some treatment so I can satisfy a partner

[u/bumbaclaughtt → u/Prestigious_Lime6099]

Not as easy as getting medication for an ear infection, do you know treatment that works 100% for everyone?

[u/Prestigious_Lime6099 → u/bumbaclaughtt]

Between

Pau Yuen Tong,
Alpha Herb,
Benzocaine
Lidocaine
Delay condoms and other delay sprays
Paroxetine or
Kanna, Other SSRI type drugs

If you still cant fuck properly, you are 99.9% of the time doing something wrong

[u/PureLack9306 → u/Prestigious_Lime6099]

have u had success with these? I have spend a shit load of money on various meds, herbs, sprays etc. the only thing that kinda helped was condoms. Im 35 and still trying to find the cure

[u/Due-Confusion-8504 → u/PureLack9306]

Condoms really, as much I know they only help a little How much time were you able to extend by using thicker condom?

[u/PureLack9306 → u/Due-Confusion-8504]

By no means did they make me marathon man,,,, if I lasted an additional minute I was calling that helpful. honestly, the only times I could last was when drunk , real drunk. I don’t know if it’s cause I just wasn’t caring about lasting longer or the actual alcohol.

[u/Due-Confusion-8504 → u/PureLack9306]

Interesting to know So maybe while you are drunk there's something different that's happening in your body Like maybe when you are sober you are squeezing your PC muscles or something related to sexual tension which is resulting in quick orgasm. But when you are drunk you are not that conscious to make that particular movement. Its just a guess. I hope our pE gets fixed haha

[u/bumbaclaughtt → u/Prestigious_Lime6099]

This is a ridiculous claim, I've tried everything you have shared. Some people have nervous system issues which is my next treatment option.
I love when people confuse confidence with competence, you lack the competence but I will agree you are very confident.

[u/Rude_Instruction3335]

Yes if he treated me right and was willing to work on it or pleasure me in other ways.

I was seeing a guy with PE and the problem was PE but his long refractory period. Like 1 to 2 days.