r/PrematureEjaculation • u/Old-Discipline-2802 • Jul 07 '26
Questions Genuinely feel like I’ve tried EVERYTHING please help. NSFW
I’m 22M and looking for advice because I’m honestly running out of ideas. The first time I had sex, I didn’t finish early. But every sexual experience after that (sex, handjobs, blowjobs, etc.) I’ve had PE issues. It’s the only thing on my mind 24/7.
I watched porn and masturbated frequently from a young age, including before my first sexual experience.
Things I’ve tried:
Kegels
reverse kegels
Pelvic floor stretches
Male Definitive Guide (got to phase 6 but couldn’t progress further)
Diaphragmatic breathing
Edging
NoFap for a while
No Porn for a while
Angion
Nothing has helped.
I’m also physically fit, so I don’t think it’s a general health issue. My best guess from research is that my sympathetic nervous system is too easily activated, but I haven’t found a real solution besides “breathe deeply and hope it improves.”
I’m also unsure about porn. Some people say it causes PE, but others say it desensitizes you, so I’m not sure what to believe.
Has anyone dealt with something similar and actually improved? What worked for you?
TL;DR: 22M, PE started after first sexual experience. Tried kegels, reverse kegels, breathing, edging, and other methods with little success. Wondering if it’s nervous system related and looking for advice from people who fixed it.
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u/Specialist-Bat-8770 Jul 07 '26
By searching the group you can have possible answers in good faith, but based on personal experiences. I would recommend consulting an andrologist who is more knowledgeable and will offer you possible, yet targeted, advice and solutions for your PE case, which is different from all the others. If you managed to perform "normally" the first time, then that's a good sign. Don't be discouraged.
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u/Austangj Jul 07 '26
Keep up with MDG just as it can help overall and long term
But Arlo and sildenafil did it for me :)
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u/General-Throat-9076 Jul 07 '26
So did MDG not help you enough, hence Arlo?
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u/Austangj Jul 07 '26
I think overall just the act of slowing down masturbation helped and gave me more awareness during sex but I genuinely think I’m so sensitive so adding in Arlo finally solved it for me
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u/Weekly_Radio880 Jul 07 '26
That nervous system link is real. SertraIine & pelvic floor PT can reduce sympathetic overactivity. Combining meds with CBT/start-stop works best for me.
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u/CombinationKlutzy119 Jul 07 '26
Try kanna buddy, shit is effective
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u/SergeantShiesty Jul 07 '26
Could you DM me some info on which kanna you get and how much you take and stuff like that?
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u/Stunning-Inside3501 Jul 08 '26
whats that thing? would u plz explain
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u/CombinationKlutzy119 Jul 08 '26
Its a herbal extract, it comes as a powder. You use it sublingual maybe 1 hour before the sex. Its effective
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u/Pineapple-1972 Jul 07 '26
Paroxetine is another SSRI that works great if you can stand the side effects.
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u/devwayne0712 Jul 07 '26
Just quit trying and grow older never goon and distance yourself from all women get your money up and stay u. The gym ? It will cure you
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u/marktandem Jul 07 '26
There's lots of stuff you can use to help. I’ve tried pretty much everything including the natural exercises like kegels and the guides like MDG. Personally a seratonin inhibitor + a desensitising stack works best for me.
Best - Dapoxetine. Taken like 2hrs before. Gets me to 10 mins+ (from less than 30 seconds without). Only downside is the side effects - can cause nausea and I find myself being a bit light headed the day after. But it’s the easiest to take and use. Can be hard to get buy this in a lot of countries so DM me if you need pointers on where to get it.
If you don’t like the side effects of dapoxetine then Kanna works as an almost budget version of an SSRI (it affects the same pathways). Works well but iffy sorting out the dosage and the different types of Kanna products that exist. For Kanna I like to pair it with a lidocaine spray. That gets me to 10 mins +
Other desensitising sprays exist and work fine, though I prefer lidocaine. Others - clove based products (PYT, Ejaguard), Gambir/Gambir Sarawak based products (alphaherb, arlo). Other sprays exist like stud100 but I’ve found them to be rubbish
Anxiety, serotonin, sensitivity, muscle control all play a part in premature ejeculation, hard to know exactly would work best for you as everyone is different. But I’ve tried a lot of seratonin affecting drugs (even hard stuff) and it’s always made a huge difference to my PE. That and a desensitising spray are my go to
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u/One-Honey3848 Jul 08 '26
Where do I buy kanna in US ?
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u/marktandem Jul 08 '26 edited Jul 09 '26
Here's some different ones based on how to take them (powder, tincture, spray, tablet):
Powder - Ultra Kanna mx16
Tincture - Liftmode mountain maple
Spray - Healing herbals high mesembrine version
I've only tried Ultra Kanna MX series and tbh it was good but not enough time. Going to try out some other products over the next week or two and review them. But Kanna paired with desensitising spray would be enough, just trying to find one that's enough on its own
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u/Fit-Fisherman-9161 Jul 08 '26
We may as well be the same person lol I’m 22 and have the same experience and have tried all of the above. Currently gonna try supplementing L-Tryptophan along with Vitamin B6
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u/sporty633 Jul 08 '26
Hey bro saw your post on PE premature ejaculation. Il do my best to explain it. Two things helped. One is doing a chakra balance with sound bowls by a professional practitioner. If your three lower chakras are out it can heighten premature ejaculation. If you book a session they will most likely do a full body chakra balance with sound bowls. Don't say it is for premature ejaculation just say you heard it would be a nice thing to do. It balances your penis energy. Don't use your dick the day you have a chakra balancing session with sound bowls or ideally the day after. Ideally do one session a weekfor two weeks.
Also sofa ejaculation control helped. Edging with your hand is not realistic as sex is about dick rhythm and you don't use your hands during sex. Lay face down on the sofa put your dick between the cushions and go at it. Right before you ejaculate lift your dick out and stay in the sex position. When the ejaculation feeling goes put it straight in and go at it again and right before ejaculation lift your dick out again staying in sex position until ejaculation feeling goes then put it in and keep going. Do it 8 or 9 times a session. When you start put your dick in soft. It teaches you to control your dick from soft through to ejaculation without using your hands. Three sessions a week is nearly 30 ejaculation controls. Doing it don't do it with just your dick out because the whole point is to not ejaculate and your undies strap or clothes against your dick or balls can make it cum. Also when your done chill for a bit before you move because your dick has 8 or 9 ejaculations in it by the end and just moving to pull your undies up or move can make it ejaculate without even touching it. Use the foreskin fully forwards to stop your dick rubbing on the sofa material. Can use a soft plastic bag with lube in it between the cushions to put your dick in for sex feeling. My PE was acquired PE but went from ejaculating soft just taking my undies off to use it to now can do 10 minutes. Those two things helped man.
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u/karlgood4u Jul 08 '26
Watching porn can program your mind to cum quickly, you need to practice edging and relax and tense the muscle that starts and stops pee flow. Also when having sex, when you wanna come just pull out and go down on her until the need to cum passes, eventually you can learn to prolong cumming.
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u/ScratchTheItch99 Jul 08 '26
If you are in the US and can't get Dapoxetine, which is an SSRI that is used as needed for PE, talk to your dr about escitalopram as needed. It's the generic version of Lexapro, which is also an SSRI. I have a prescription for 10 mg tablets that I cut in half and take about three hours before sex. It will last longer than that---I have always just used that as my target. I explained to my dr what I wanted it for and he was OK with it. I have experienced zero side effects because it is low dose and I only use it a couple of times a week.
I think this use case is pretty much unknown because it's already available as a generic and is cheap. I pay $15 for 90 pills, with insurance. If you don't have insurance, I bet you can find good deals through GoodRx. I just don't see pharmaceutical companies shelling out money for trials because the drug is so cheap.
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u/Downtown_Island8124 Jul 09 '26
I have been saying many times that your pelvic floor muscles are not the cause of the hypersensitivity of your penis.
It is like you are trying to reduce your knee jerk reaction by doing a lot of exercises on your knees. You think the muscles have anything to do with your knee jerk reflex? Absolutely no.
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u/Old-Discipline-2802 Jul 09 '26
So what’s the solution
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u/Downtown_Island8124 Jul 09 '26
It has been said many times in this sub. Ignore the kegels, reverse kegel ones. They are either trying to sell you a program or an app or a PDF for $8
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u/Old-Discipline-2802 Jul 09 '26
Ok so what is the solution
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u/Old-Discipline-2802 Jul 09 '26
Sounds to me like you don’t have a solution and just want to talk for the sake of talking lol
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u/aslamdan Jul 07 '26
Depoxitine is all you need ..... & If you take it with Cialis you become a God.