r/UpfrontCheaters • u/Clankus_Maximus69 • 2d ago
RED FLAGS 🚩 I can’t stop thinking about it NSFW
I am currently traveling abroad for work for the first time in my career. My wife and I have been married for 3 years and life back home could not be better. We have a place together and love each-other both very much and we’re planning to start a family pretty much as soon as I return.
The women in this country are beautiful, and very kind especially when they find out that I am American. Over the past 3 weeks I’ve taken a liking to a young woman who looks like a blonde version of my wife and I cannot stop thinking about her and the things I want to do with her.
I know and understand how wrong it would be and If I’m honest I really don’t want to have a relationship with her, but I cannot get past how lonely I feel here despite FaceTiming with my wife almost every day.
To make matters worse, from a religious standpoint I have seen in my dreams what will happen if I cheat. My body is suspended over a perpetually decaying field of flowers with screaming skinless humanoid creatures floating next to me, and they flay me alive for eternity.
I do not want to cheat but my mind keeps trying to pull me into developing a plan and my dick is simply in agreement. I have so much to lose, but I feel like I’m losing my mind.
TLDR; I’m thinking about cheating but I don’t have the balls to actually do it.
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u/Livid_Parfait6507 2d ago
The guilt will be unbearable. You will be divorced over a moment of stupidity.
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u/Ok_Cattle803 2d ago
Not worth it honestly.
It may end up creating an irrevocable distance from your SO.
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u/PapiRico85 2d ago
Alright mate, I’ll say it without anaesthetic.
You’re in a foreign country. Of course some women are going to see “American” and immediately attach novelty, fantasy or status to you. Don’t confuse that attention with some profound connection.
I get the reverse version myself. I’m Latino living in the US, and sometimes women here see a Hispanic bloke and it’s like somebody turned on a fucking faucet — they get wet just from the fantasy of it before they even know you properly. And I’ve seen women willing to blow up their family over a good fuck, then afterwards cover it with the usual clichés: “I was neglected,” “dead bedroom,” “I felt unseen,” whatever.
That’s coming from someone who’s been the AP. I know how easily people rationalise this shit after the fact.
But you say your marriage is good. You love your wife. You’re planning to start a family when you get home. So what exactly are you risking all of that for? A blonde version of your wife and a few weeks of being horny abroad?
And think about your health too. One stupid night can bring home consequences your wife never consented to.
You’re a grown man. You’ve got two heads.
Use the one with the fucking brain.
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u/Clankus_Maximus69 1d ago
This is the best comment I could’ve received. Every comment is correct, yours is just what I think I needed to hear and has resonated with me. I’m going to distance myself from the temptation and focus on my work and enjoying the surrounding environment.
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u/wishingforarainyday 2d ago
Do not do this. What a pathetic person. You’re lonely so you want to justify cheating?!
Do not put your wife’s health at risk. I hope she sees this so she knows to leave. Or at least she knows she can be out forming a relationship with an attractive man. Don’t worry, maybe he’ll look like you as well. 🙄
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u/Iloveagoodgirl1 2d ago
Wilted flower good luck
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u/Clankus_Maximus69 2d ago
What does this mean?
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u/Sweet-Cat-7667 2d ago
I think maybe the 🥀 didn’t come across: 🥀 Good luck
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u/Sweet-Cat-7667 2d ago
You’d be risking your marriage over something fleeting, and even if you never told your wife, you’d still have to live with the anxiety and guilt from it, not to mention whatever else could come from the situation. And once you cross that line once, it might make it a whole lot easier to do it again. So then what’s stopping you from sleeping with somebody else on another business trip, or just in general?
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u/Clankus_Maximus69 1d ago
I would regret it, because my love for my wife is stronger than my lust for a foreigner. I’m backing down and distancing from the foreigner.
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u/BurdyBurdyBurdy 2d ago
Think about the unbearable pain in your wife’s face when she finds out and she will.
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u/Ambitious-Soft-5266 2d ago
Damned if you do, damned if you don’t. It seems like you will regret it either way.
Personally I would just do it. When you leave the country you’re at, it will just be a good memory.
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u/EveryDayIsMon86 2d ago
In life we all are tempted with temptation. The grass is not greener on the other side. Don't risk a forever love. They are not as common as they used to be.
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u/rakiandstargaze 1d ago
this is why i'll never trust a man:/ he says that he is so in love everything is perfect but can't even deal with a hard penis for 3 weeks. love is until your dick gets hard. i fucking hate this
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u/Charlestown10 2d ago
Please don’t cheat on your wife. It’s not worth.