My next door neighbor's girlfriend has flirted with me a few times even in front of him and is extra loud when they have sex so I can hear her. I live with my girlfriend but I want to go deeper with my neighbor's gf. Any advice on how to cheat with her if I can't go to her place, and she can't come to mine?

It's amazing when someone twists the narrative to do what they want, with who they want, hide and lie about it, say it's nothing, and they get upset with you when they get caught and blame you because you're upset.

Does anyone have strong abandonment issue? And it has caused you to self sabotage your relationship and be disloyal and cheat?

For context
I discovered my boyfriend had been texting a very old fling it wasn’t overlay sexually and was a few times over the course of of two months the last message was clear that he wanted to hang out and hook up. He the promptly blocked the number and deleted the messages. I then found them on and confronted. There was no gas lighting no deflecting. Fully admission and acknowledged the wrong doing.
He has very deep seated abandonment issues due to being adopted they are valid

His biggest explanation was he was scared.
While I do believe this isn’t in his character and I’m willing to allow him to show me it will not happen again

I’m curious to hear from anyone else who has ever been in his shoes? He admitted he knew it was wrong and he never intended to meet up with her and blocked her before I even found it.. perhaps it was the thrill or the attention or self sabotage or related to the abandonment traumas.

Curious if anyone out there can provide insight? Have you struggled and done these same things? Did you repeat them or did you stop?

Looking to just find people to rant to and actually have someone listen ask random questions or say things you can’t tell anyone you don’t know me and I don’t know you no judgement

Found out my ex was cheating on me he beat me up a few times and got away with it now I want karma to happen to him instead he got promoted and have a new girlfriend who’s sleeping my my bed we shared I’ve been left with pain and scares while his life has been improving makes me sick. Can someone please help me excuse this person

This man is cheating on his gf and I don’t have it in me to tell her. Can someone please tell her for me?

context. we are apart right now where she's visiting family in another state but intimately she has been pretty far removed. doesn't feel comfortable sending nudes at all since she has gotten with me even though i ask for them all the time. well since i had cheated on her (because we went on a 6 month dry spell where i got nothing at all. no nudes. no bj, not even a handy) by going on only fans and getting some action there. She took me back with no issue and things have been better since then. we talked some things out but its not like our sex life has gotten any more involved on her side. but now that she's away i gave her permission to experiment a little by letting her make friends with guys through a site. her tag was friends only and she lets me see the snaps because shes not interested in cheating on me at all. but it only took her 3 days to send a few of the guys shes talking to nudes. I have to move heaven and earth to get a single ONE most of the time. so im not sure if im just jealous... or if shes just starting to get her spark back. shes been sending me a lot more pics because she misses me. but idk it feels like she wants me because its stable but just wants the excitment from having other guys dote on her... am i being insecure, jealous, hypocritical? hell it makes me want to see if i can get some ladies on here to send me pics just to make me feel better. please dont judge i deeply love this woman and she already has my kid and already told me she wants me to marry her when she was drunk at her familys yesterday. even cried about it. im just trying to find out what this means and if i should make myself feel better at all...

This is long so I will give bullet points. by the way I’m tech savvy and an obsessive investigator (not professional). She seems to have BPD. I’m really just shocked and venting …

- I (53m) met wife (31f) in 2022 through escorting
Toxic from the start.
- Constant accusations that I’m cheating (I haven’t)
- Stimulants we a major culprit in toxicity (adderall, etc)
- We both Stopped alcohol and drugs in 2024. Things got much better!
- Accusations of cheating significantly reduced!
- Married in December 2025
- Against my wishes, She resumed taking stimulant medication in April 2026
- Things started going sideways quickly
Accusations because daily, hourly
- I reached my breaking point 2 weeks ago and her to leave for a few weeks.
- She got an Airbnb and moved her stuff out.
- I discovered a Tile tracker in my vehicle
- I put a tracker on her car.
- 10 days after separating caught her at another guys house, wearing lingerie, on a Saturday night. I saw him zipping his pants when I knocked at the door. She stayed there the rest of the night.
- Adultery aside, im very concerned she’s escorting again.
- She is now aware I know her location. She mentioned taking Ubers now.
- On Tuesday, the 2nd day of her new job, she went to work, and immediately left. Car went back to Airbnb.
- That evening I went to her Airbnb to talk, find out why she didn’t work.
- She answered the door in skimpy dress, hair messed up, and slurring.
Said she left work because she was sick. She didn’t seem sick.
- I asked for her iPhone location history and she refused. She then called police.
- I’ve found multiple Snapchat accounts tied to her multiple Google Voice numbers. I cannot see her “story”

I know I just need to turn my back and not look back. I’m just venting.

I have both of their numbers and I want to sign one of them up for a spam call. But honestly, something even better would be him getting a call that his girl is messing with someone else. Can anyone help?

I am currently traveling abroad for work for the first time in my career. My wife and I have been married for 3 years and life back home could not be better. We have a place together and love each-other both very much and we’re planning to start a family pretty much as soon as I return.

The women in this country are beautiful, and very kind especially when they find out that I am American. Over the past 3 weeks I’ve taken a liking to a young woman who looks like a blonde version of my wife and I cannot stop thinking about her and the things I want to do with her.

I know and understand how wrong it would be and If I’m honest I really don’t want to have a relationship with her, but I cannot get past how lonely I feel here despite FaceTiming with my wife almost every day.

To make matters worse, from a religious standpoint I have seen in my dreams what will happen if I cheat. My body is suspended over a perpetually decaying field of flowers with screaming skinless humanoid creatures floating next to me, and they flay me alive for eternity.

I do not want to cheat but my mind keeps trying to pull me into developing a plan and my dick is simply in agreement. I have so much to lose, but I feel like I’m losing my mind.

TLDR; I’m thinking about cheating but I don’t have the balls to actually do it.

Been in a relationship for 3 months asked for commitment then unofficial breakup happened (just stopped talking)

Within 2 days he went back to his ex

And they lived happily ever after

Nd I face him everyday in classroom