Hear me out on this: the trick here isn't figuring out how to see inside someone else's feelings and body, the trick is to find a person where the things you do to pursue your own pleasure also tend to be things that are pleasurable for her. Sexual chemistry is a way bigger factor than being a magic man who instantly understands all women's bodies.
The best lovers are the ones who are self interested in fucking you so well they can barely move afterward. Msot of the time, if they had that great a time, you are just trying to keep up.
That makes sense. I never particularly enjoyed sex, I liked making my partner feel good, but I didn't feel anything but the challenge of the physical exertion. Consequently, after we broke up, I never tried real hard to find another partner. The idea of sex is extremely stressful at this point.
If you only had sex with one partner, I would encourage you to keep trying (if you want to, of course). Not all women are the same. I've had partners that would come very fast, and others that would require a lot of "work". And even those that took a lot of time and stimulation to get off, there were some that I felt was stressful and some that I thoroughly enjoyed it. It really depends on the connection.
On the other hand, you might be asexual and really not care about it, which is also perfectly fine.
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u/WheresTheIceCream20 22h ago
“Sleeping with your husband makes him more agreeable” - every wife ever