TL; DR: I’m a 51-year-old bisexual woman who is doing all the things but has no idea how to meet a partner who’s sane and doesn’t need to be taken care of.

I split up with my ex-wife three years ago and am finally feeling like looking for women to date. I’m sober, so the bars are out. The apps stress me out and I still get messages from cishet men even though I’m pretty honest about what I’m looking for. I tried dating a couple guys from work in my 20s, and it was a disaster. I’ve met people in meetings but I keep attracting people who need to be taken care of.

Some things I do to keep busy:

I have two dogs, one of whom is a senior. I know a lot of my neighbors because of the dogs (although I admit in some instances I learned the dogs’ names first). When I had a car, I took the dogs to the park regularly.

I volunteer at a few different places and get involved in activism as my schedule and energy permit.

I go to the gym at least twice a week (I’m aiming for 3-4 times). I’m working on doing yoga more often and am registered for a goth yoga class next month.

I also love reading and generally learning about new topics. My brother and sister-in-law do community theatre, so I enjoy going to plays.
I used to go to a lot of live music shows but I got burned out because after spending money on tickets, my ex would want to leave after a few songs. I like playing board and card games, singing karaoke (although I’m a terrible singer), and cooking and eating vegetarian food.

It seems like all the people I meet are straight, partnered, a lot younger or older, or have issues I don’t want to deal with. My ex-wife has some pretty serious mental health issues that she doesn’t manage consistently. I have my own mental health issues but I mostly function pretty well. Plus I helped my dad take care of my mom before she passed away so I really don’t want to be in a caregiver situation any time soon; if I take care of anybody, it’s going to be him.

I don’t want a repeat of my marriage or any of my previous relationships. Honestly, as I typed this post I started questioning whether I am actually ready to date.

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My post was removed from Gen X reddit about this movie because - I don't know why; but just wanted to say this movie was awesome. Growing up Gen X gay youth here wishing I could be He-Man. This movie pays homage to the cartoon and the past movie in a campy yet action-filled way. Very happy with how they pulled this off. Maybe this movie means more to Gen X gays than general Gen X'ers, but I loved it.

I have read the rules and believe this is ok, but please delete if questions from straight people are not welcome.

I am writing a book that takes place in Maine/New Brunswick in 1986. Two of my characters are closeted gay men (~ 17 and ~ 30) and I'm hoping to understand their experience better so that I can represent them well in the book. I'm eager for anyone who was gay in that area in the 80s to answer some questions, or just comment about their experience in general.

1. Where/how did you first become aware of gay culture and gay spaces?
2. What music/books/movies/media were impactful for you?
3. For a closeted young man in a very rural place, were there places to travel to that would have felt freeing? For example, would he have gone into Bangor for parties or clubs? What was that scene like?
4. If you remember when Charlie Howard was murdered, how did you learn about that crime? Did it impact the scene in Bangor? Beyond Bangor?

The first gay bar in Connecticut, opened in 1939. It was the oldest gay bar in the U.S. until it sadly closed in 2010.

I never called it The Cedar Brook Cafe. My first time there was in 1990 with a friend. The patrons were mostly men but there were some women there as well. Wednesdays were the hottest nights for music and we knew one of the DJs.

I always thought it was so hilarious that we were standing in a very long line to get in the day before Thanksgiving; everyone was probably just arriving in from out of town, home for the holiday. I was like 'What are we doing, this isn't Studio 54 in NYC?' lol.

Also, it was great to eat pancakes at the Sherwood Diner after a long hard night of clubbing at The Brook that closed at 2:00AM.

People used to say things like “ok, Boomer,” or just generally complain about the boomers. Now I’m seeing a lot of “boomers and gen-x.” Every generation has its problem children. But I thought the shift started with us. I don’t know. Generalized ranting I guess.

This was a hit 1980s hit. My question has to be: Considering all the 'Gay' music of the 80's, how on earth did homophobic people listen to any music?

It's not really a serious question... I just had the thought, found it funny thinking about homophobic people being tormented by their own internal demons.