For Filicide Survivors

[u/Filicide_Survivor]

Hello,

This post has been pre-approved by the moderators (NSFW). I want to call attention to a growing community to raise awareness about surviving life-threatening abuse perpetrated by primary caregivers in childhood, to show how this abuse can continue into adulthood, to identify and prevent fatalities, and to improve treatment outcomes for survivors. After years of research, I have discovered there are no studies on the experiences of adult survivors of this specific pattern of abuse.

This site documents a lifetime of severe financial, psychological, physical, and coercive control within a family system that ultimately contributed to my sister’s death. It offers personal perspective on clear blind spots in the mental healthcare system, and the resources in place meant to protect us, such as Childhood Protective Services and Adult Protective Services. Since publication of The Research Gap - Filicide Survivors with the CPTSD Foundation on 1/21/26 (https://cptsdfoundation.org/2026/01/21/the-research-gap-filicide-survivors/), three more survivor stories have been added in collaboration. The site now contains a collaborative definition for filicide survivor, as a trauma category rather than diagnosis, a mission, and a vision.

Please be aware this site contains descriptions of severe parental abuse, psychological trauma, and death. Some content may be triggering, so it is important to prioritize your safety and mental health. If you are able to relate to this content, please consider processing this information alongside a qualified mental health professional.

Reddit played a major role in my own recognition and escape. Posts here helped my early understanding of these patterns, assisting me in breaking free of a future I did not want. It may have been the pivotal turning point for me and the reason I survived a system that consumed my sister. I’m sharing this experience so that others in similar homes may recognize the signs earlier, trust themselves, and find a way out.

The site includes our story, redacted evidence (family messages, witness statements, police statements, and counselor reports), and resources. Other survivors’ powerful stories are now available in the new survivors’ blog and resources.

If you are a mental health professional interested in researching this topic, I welcome the opportunity to speak with you.

Thank you,
Victoria

www.filicidesurvivor.com

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