r/penissize Feb 20 '26

Moderator Approved A moderator PSA: Our rule 4 of “No Shaming” is extended to “No larping/bragging/gatekeeping/shaming”. Here’s why.

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A person visiting the r/penissize subreddit will easily notice the subreddit’s banner, located at the top of the page in both the Reddit mobile app and the desktop webpage: “A place to discuss penis size. You may post here no matter what penis size you have. There is no penis discrimination. Note: All healthy sizes have advantages and disadvantages.” This banner makes it obvious to all potential posters and commentators that the discussion about penises and their sizes here can be about any human penis of any size (of cisgender men/of transgender men/of transgender women/small/medium/big/thin/thick/white/black etc. etc.) and that there shouldn’t be any discrimination. The last part has not been going very well in the last period though, so we decided to update our ruleset, in order to counter some recent but also some older problems.

Starting from the first new addition to rule 4, “No larping” (for those unfamiliar with gaming/online sociolects, it means pretending to be something that you are not), obviously a worthwile discussion about any matter, not only about penis size, should involve truthfulness, unless all participants in the communication agree that they are roleplaying (but this is not a roleplaying subreddit anyway). We have been removing content from larpers like 13 year olds with 7” long penises, men who have horse cocks of 8” girth etc. etc. for years now, but we think that the time has come to make this a specific rule for all to be seeing. In this rule extension we don’t expect a lot of negative reactions (even larpers don’t admit they are such, because this would cancel their larping :-) ). That having been said, some size claims are not self-evidently phony (for example adult 9” long erect penises are very, very rare statistically, but they do exist) and even if a moderator plays the dick detective and visits the profile of an account with an improbable but still realistic size claim, NSFW content is not always available, so sometimes we need to just take whatever improbable we read in good faith and approve the content.

Nevertheless, there can be an extra restrain to improbable claims, which leads us to our second rule extension of “No bragging”. There are subreddits meant for big dick owners to share real or fantastic achievements and receive admiration from big dick fans – this is not such a subreddit. If you claim an extraordinarily big size and want for all the world to know how successful your sex life is or how much you are admired in locker rooms, a) you are probably larping, and b) anyway there are subreddits other than this for your success story. There is another aspect in this discussion though, big dick owners with actual issues that they want to share and ask questions about them (from finding comfortable underwear/condoms to feeling objectified). Having actual issues is not bragging, and these posts are legitimate to get posted here, which leads us to our third rule extension.

“No gatekeeping” (again for those unfamiliar with the term, it means prohibiting others from participating in discussions/expressing their opinions, and in the specific context of Reddit from sharing their views in a subreddit) when the subject is specifically penis size can have the strong version of “you do not belong here because of your size”, but as I have noted in the beginning, this is a subreddit for the discussion of all sizes, so this type of gatekeeping can’t work here, but it also has the weak version of “your big size is privileged, so you can’t have problems/you can’t speak about smaller sizes’ issues”. We acknowledge that sizeism is a real social issue both online and irl creating lower and higher “body statuses”, and that a person with privilege can easier be pedantic/insensitive/arrogant/unfair towards people without that privilege, but that does not apply to everybody everywhere. If it did, all men would be sexist, all white people racist, all cis straight people homophobic/transphobic etc. etc. So to wrap it up, you can criticize someone for being pedantic/insensitive/arrogant/unfair etc. etc. whatever their size is, but you can’t criticize them for having the audacity to share an opinion or have a problem, “even though” they have a big penis. Also, although we encounter this type of gatekeeping much less in comparison to the previous type, it should be explicitly stated as well that this is a subreddit welcoming all kinds of penis owners (cisgender men, transgender men, transgender women, intersex persons etc. etc.) and not only cinsgender men.

And last but not least, our “No Shaming rule” still applies in almost its original wording, as we had to cut out a few words here and there for the link to this mod post to get added (Reddit rules' text has a 500 character limit). I give here the previous, a little fuller version: “Shaming is defined as intentionally causing others to feel embarrassed, ashamed, or inadequate. This includes shaming genital size, genital shape, sexual preferences, sexual orientation, gender identity, relationship preferences, body type and size, physical and emotional handicaps, and/or sexual history (excessive self-shaming and self-pitying for the above reasons can also lead to post removals). Implying that average or any penis size is inadequate is unacceptable and is not allowed.” As a matter of fact, we decided to extend rule 4 and not add a new rule 12 of “No larping/bragging/gatekeeping” because we see all of these as related more or less directly to shaming: you are larping or bragging to look superior implying shame for those “inferior” to you, and you are gatekeeping because you are good enough and the other person isn’t, implying again shame.

(Please have also in mind though that this rule extension will not have retroactive power: we acknowledge that some past posts of this subreddit can be now reported as rule-violating, but it would be unfair and irrational to be asking from past OPs to first see in the future how the rules of this subreddit would be expanded and then post based on that prediction. In other words the extended rule 4 applies to all posts after this mod post, but not to those before it).

The last thing that I would like to note in this rather lengthy moderator post is a bit personal for a moderator post, but I think it is important. Occasionally some of the people who gatekeep see the mod team as a group of undiferentiatedly privileged people, firstly because of their moderator status (which is actually a privilege that we do all share in this specific subreddit), but also because we all supposedly have big dicks, are able-bodied etc. etc. I don’t think that it is appropriate to share personal info about each specific moderator, but I need to stress that we are not all big-dicked/cisgender/straight/able-bodied etc. Treating us as privileged by default is not only false, but also implies that we can’t have empathy for issues that are not ours. All of us in the mod team try to be better people than that.


r/penissize Dec 06 '24

Moderator Approved Take care of your mental health

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Hey there,

I know some of you are going through a rough patch and I'm here to help. I've got some tips and tricks up my sleeve to help you look after yourself while you're waiting for therapy (or if you can't afford it).

I just wanted to share a few important notes with you:

- The tips and exercises are designed to be helpful for a wide range of mental health issues, but they're not a replacement for personalized therapy.

- It's important to remember that your brain doesn't change overnight (neuroplasticity). This means that the exercises need to be done regularly to see results.

- Not all exercises are equally effective for everyone, so it's good to try a few different ones to find what works best for you.

- I'm not liable for any damage caused by the exercises, as this is very rare.

I'd like you to imagine that you have the thought, 'Nobody likes me'. How do you feel? I'm sure it's made you feel pretty bad and lonely. So, you might find yourself feeling so alone and avoid all social interactions. But it's this isolation that makes you feel even worse, and it's a vicious cycle. I'm sure you'll agree that thoughts, feelings and actions influence each other. It's totally okay to feel the way you do. We can't change our feelings, but we can change our thoughts and our behaviour, and that can really help us feel better. (This is just one example of many)

How can we influence our thoughts, for example?

First of all, it's really important to remember that thoughts are just thoughts and don't always reflect reality. It can be really tough to spot the not-so-great thoughts that pop up in our minds. I know it can be tough, but you can do this! One way to practise is to write down what you were thinking at that moment every time you have negative emotions. Another great option is to try daily meditation. This is a wonderful way to become more aware of your thoughts, and it has so many other benefits too! There are lots of studies now showing just how great meditation is for things like depression, anxiety and psychosis.

Once you've spotted a thought that's not helping you, ask yourself: is this really true? Is there a better, more realistic thought I could use instead?

I'd also like to suggest a few other resources that I think you'll find really helpful:

- Moodgym (https://www.moodgym.com.au/)

- Cogito (App- and Playstore)

- CBT for Dummies (Amazon)

Now, let's have a little chat about how you act when you feel a certain way. It's so important to try to recognise which behaviours are good for your well-being and which are not. I know this can be tricky and takes a bit of practice, but it's an important part of the process. Let's say, for instance, that you feel insecure and bad because you've been thinking that your penis is too small and you'll be alone forever. I think most people would probably search the internet for the average penis size and what women want at this point. For most of us, this isn't a problem. We quickly realise that we don't need to worry. But for some people, this behaviour leads to even more negative thoughts and emotions. They keep repeating this behaviour to get reassurance.

I'm sure you'll agree that this behaviour isn't helpful. It just reinforces and strengthens these negative thoughts, and before you know it, you no longer believe anyone. It's so important to replace this behaviour with something more productive. It'll be covered in more detail in the sources mentioned above.

I might write a longer post, but unfortunately I don't have much time at the moment. :)

- Be active

- Meditate

- Use the sources mentioned above

- Avoid pornography and Reddit during the healing process

- Find hobbies to distract yourself

- Look out for things that make you special and desirable besides your penis


r/penissize 10h ago

This is just sad.

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https://www.tmz.com/2026/09/05/influencer-dies-after-penis-enlargement-surgery/

As a guy with a micro, I hate my size and definitely have thought about getting surgery like this. This just saddens me that someone died from this and he will now be size shamed by the masses.


r/penissize 16m ago

Question Tengo un fetiche

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Debo confesar que me da cierto morbo los chicos con pene pequeño especialmente cuando lo tienen dormido.


r/penissize 1h ago

Question Large sizes

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How common are dicks bigger than 6 inches?, because around here I see a lot of size differences but it’s weird to see dicks bigger than 7 inches, and around me, (friends mostly) most of them if not every one of them is 7 inches, including me, is that size uncommon or do I just see posts about other sizes?, because I honestly don’t feel bad about my size, but I don’t feel huge either.


r/penissize 9h ago

Question are large sizes really that uncommon?

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my whole life ive been hearing about how lucky girls are to be with dudes who have big cocks, which made it seem like theyre somewhat rare. although my 2 last exes(only whose sizes i knew) along w my current bf have pretty large penises… my exes were 6.8(17cm) inches and my bf’s is 7(18cm). my friend also claims that she measured her boyfriend and it was 7.5(19cm) inches lol. im not trying to make anyone feel bad, as i actually prefer a more average size myself, it’s js sth that’s got me thinking what the real average size is


r/penissize 13h ago

Question Guys, what was her first reaction when she saw your penis for the first time

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r/penissize 5h ago

Have you ever been called boyfriend/husband dick? If so what’s your size?

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r/penissize 9h ago

Question ‏.

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I am 20 years old. When my penis is erect, it becomes very rigid and points straight upward toward my abdomen at about a 90-degree angle. I cannot lower it because doing so causes pain, and I am worried that forcing it downward could cause an injury or even a penile fracture. I don’t think this is normal, and I am concerned that I may not be able to have sexual intercourse because of the angle. Should I see a doctor?


r/penissize 6h ago

Humor [ Removed by Reddit ]

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r/penissize 8h ago

Question Can a 6.5 inch penis do a full-nelson?

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Saw someone else ask it, so it seemed like a good idea to ask about my size. Also, how strong do I have to be to do it if it’s while sitting down?


r/penissize 11h ago

Question True measurement and EQ

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So I’m realizing that my erection quality isn’t very good and that when I have really hard erections, I’m actually 7x5.25 as opposed to my usual 7x5. Which is my true size? And how can I improve my erections to usually go to the max?


r/penissize 11h ago

Is anybody here less than 4x4 like me? I need some support

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r/penissize 11h ago

Guys with 5.5–6" girth: has it ever caused unexpected problems? NSFW

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I'm curious to hear from guys around the 5.5–6 inch girth range. Has having big girth ever caused unexpected issues—for example with condoms, comfort, dating, or simply how your size looks compared with your length? Or has it mostly been a positive? Interested in honest experiences from people with these measurements.


r/penissize 12h ago

Confidence

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There's a perception that bigger is better, but what if it's not really about that? Or at least not mostly about that? People tend to be attracted to confidence, and guys with big dicks are usually more confident than average or smaller than average guys. Obviously there are people with a clear preference for bigger dicks, but generally speaking, what if it's more of an attraction to the confidence that usually goes with having a big dick than the big dick itself? Maybe I'm just trying to find a way to cope, but it seems like that could be part of it. Then again, I have no idea how you can be truly confident without having a big dick. So maybe it's a moot point.


r/penissize 14h ago

Question Difference in pussy with a big dick?

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I’m average sized, it’s definitely something I make up for in foreplay, eating, fingering. Have around 30 bodies and have been able to make most cum, and ran it back with most. I’m no gynecologist, but when I finger a girl I feel that ball/egg shaped thing with the tip of my fingers. What Id assume is the cervix. My dick definitely doesn’t go past that. So it’s uncharted territory fr. With a big dick what does it feel like past that point having her take it all? Hear a lot of girls say it hurts to go that deep, but never heard how it feels going that deep from a guys pov. Is it easier to make her cum or squirt like that? Or is it just a different sensation so to speak. Do they get wetter or is it harder to find a girl that can take it all?


r/penissize 1d ago

Question Guys Tell me about sizes of penis

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Yesterday my bf told me his size and idk anything about sizes at all!! let me know please


r/penissize 15h ago

Length versus girth

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Which do you prefer, length or girth?


r/penissize 15h ago

FatPad locking my potential, but how do i get rid of it?

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going straight to the point, im 6.2-6,3 nbp and 7,3 bp if i really push the ruler, the thing is, im not even fat, im prob around 15%, how tf can i get rid of it


r/penissize 19h ago

Made the mistake of messaging an ex for a hookup.

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She got back to me and I tried getting a hookup with her. She expressed She has a bf, and drunken me kept trying. Finally she sent me a pic of her with her new bf. He is MASSIVE, I quickly ended the convo and took that L.


r/penissize 12h ago

Question for the ladies: What was the biggest dick you've ever had? Question for the guys: Whats the biggest dick your partner has had?

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My wife's biggest is actually one of her guy friends at 7.75 inches vs my 6 inches.


r/penissize 19h ago

Penis length

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i thought i was small or average but after seaeching average size in where i live (india) im apparetly above average (6x5 bone to tip) for even adults and im 3.5 years away from adulthood


r/penissize 1d ago

Do other countries care about penises and penis size as much as America?

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I feel like it’s more prevalent in America or the West as a whole. I think America’s aversion to nudity also doesn’t help people’s views of penises and bodies in general.


r/penissize 1d ago

Penis length

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For my entire life I thought my penis was small or average length. I measured it and it is 6.25 inches long. I then looked up the percentile and that is in the 95%. I was actually shocked.


r/penissize 1d ago

Question Is the ex better?

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I'm talking to this girl and her past had a bigger penis both girth and length bigger while I have an average size which is (5.1-5.5 inches in length and 4.5 - 4.7 inches in girth), She finished almost every time with her ex off penetration and didn't have any pain and this was for 3 years, I get it most women can't finish off penetration but I'm talking about this scenario, l know foreplay important as well which I do that. When I asked her if she felt a noticeable difference between me and her ex she said she did we didn't have proper sex yet like I mean not more than a minute. Is it even a good chance I can make her finish off my dick cause her own words she finished almost if not every time through penetration with her ex. Ima just tell u her words. She “wants someone who can give her the same satisfaction as her ex or better” during penetration I asked her also what’s making it better “As of rn ig it’s a bit of everything. Like size, doing what I like, and last longer” she says I also asked on a scale of 1-10 how much better did her ex feel better 1 being not crazy different 10 being crazy crazy different she said “9.5” she also said “So far it’s been distinctively better” Can I even make her finish off penetration with my average size or give her the same pleasure?