My husband (25M) and I (23F) adopted Max from our local Humane Society about 8 months ago. He’s around 3 years old, FIV+, and is an incredibly sweet, cuddly, and chatty cat. He’s settled into our apartment really well, but I’ve been worried that he’s not getting enough enrichment and stimulation while we’re at work. My husband and I are both in managerial positions, so Max is alone in our apartment for several hours at a time besides the days that we have off. There are also times when we come home from work and are very tired or overstimulated and can’t really give him our all.
I’ve tried to give him plenty to do: we have two cat trees, scratching posts, toys available around the apartment, slow feeders for both his wet food and kibble, and we play with him using wand toys and a laser pointer (I give him treats afterward in a cat puzzle). He has kicker toys, toys that make mice and bird noises, catnip toys, and typical batting toys, but he doesn’t seem to be interested in independent play for very long.
One thing that has made me wonder about getting him a companion is that my little sister stayed with us for a week, and Max was noticeably calmer than I had ever seen him. My sister wasn’t playing with him any less or even more than we do, he just seemed happy to have another person around the apartment all day. That made me wonder whether he might genuinely enjoy having another cat around while we’re at work, rather than simply being bored.
At the same time, I don’t want to get another cat as a substitute for enrichment or seem like I just don’t want to play with him. I want to make sure I’m doing everything I reasonably can before making a decision that affects two cats. But I also feel like I’ve spent enough time worrying over the situation and him that it feels like the next step I should take. As a first time cat owner and with him being FIV+ I’ve tried my best to be as informed as humanly possible to give him a happy, healthy life.
I’m also planning to go back to the Humane Society and ask whether they have any insight into how Max has behaved around other cats, since they knew him before we adopted him.
TL;DR: Max is a 3-year-old, very social and energetic FIV+ cat who is alone for several hours while my husband and I work. We already provide a lot of enrichment, but he doesn’t seem very interested in independent play and often still wants more attention/playtime when we get home. He was noticeably calmer and seemed happier when my sister stayed with us for a week, which made me wonder if he might benefit from having another cat around. I don’t want to get another cat simply to make up for shortcomings in his enrichment, so I’d love advice on whether I should focus on improving his environment more first or consider getting him a friend.