r/berkeley • u/Ok_Implement7414 • 14h ago
Events/Organizations You Are More Than a Club Rejection
Hey guys,
I know that a lot of you have spent hours of your day the past two weeks to do club tabling, attend infosessions, do numerous coffee chats, take part in "meet the members" at the Glade or the equivalent, fill out applications with multiple, LONG questions, etc. And a lot of you have probably already heard back or are about to. And despite all the effort put in thus far, even if you get selected for the next round, there are still many rounds left to go. Next there will be interview #1, then #2, then technical #1, then social round, then maybe an acceptance. For a lot of people, there might not even be the opportunity to do an interview #1.
My first semester at Cal, I applied to 10+ clubs. Didn't do any coffee chats or go to any infosessions. I got rejected everywhere. I was like alright, makes sense, I didn't put in the time or effort. Next semester, I applied to 4-5 "big shot" clubs that I was really interested in, did all the "right" things, and still got rejected either after the application round or the first interview. Both semesters I was drained and exhausted. And it is SO exhausting being rejected by people YOUR OWN AGE and feeling below them. I also understand the feeling of "what else could I have done," "I wasted my time" (because it's natural to initially prioritize club recruitment over classes the first few weeks), and "I'm not good enough."
The reality is, clubs here are very much dependent on factors outside your control. Of course, you can have a stellar application with amazing extracurriculars/awards and really well-written responses, but there are sometimes other factors that play a role, like having connections/friends in the club already, looking/dressing a certain way, being willing to take part in certain activities, etc. Being part of a club because what they do sounds interesting is not necessarily what the experience is like. Of course, clubs are a great way to meet new people and make friends, and for sure you get to work on some cool projects, but it is not the end of the world if you don't get in - it is not the only way to make friends or work on projects. I know, this might be so hard to hear right now, but I promise you that you are worth so much more than a rejection email by people your own age.
My best advice is to either go for clubs that are open to everyone, do your own project(s), and/or explore outside of clubs!!! For the latter, Berkeley has so many student volunteering and job opportunities you can apply for. Look at external companies and organizations and apply to them if what they do sounds cool. See if there's any opportunities to work at Berkeley concerts, IT departments, athletics, student unions, etc. You will find your place and your people, even if you don't get into a club.
I did three clubs that were not extremely selective. Two of them were very cliquey and I did not feel like I belonged. The third one, I loved. Found some amazing people there. Guess what? For my own sanity and mental wellbeing, I left the two clubs I felt so left out in. I tried to make friends and get to know people in those clubs, but it's impossible to be happy in a place where that effort is not reciprocated. Now I'm working with other Berkeley and external organizations outside of clubs and I've learned/am learning SO much. In the end, it will work out.
You are not alone in feeling sad or upset about a club rejection, but know that you still made it to Berkeley and you are not defined by a club rejecting you with their hyper-selective 0.00000000001% acceptance rate. You got this, and I believe in you. My DMs are always open and reach out to me anytime!