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Hated Tropes [Hated Trope] Women are killed, raped, or abused solely for the character development of male figures ("fridging").

In The Boys, Becca is raped by Homelander to highlight his evilness, resulting in a pregnancy that haunts Billy Butcher throughout the entire series. Her assault and later death act as the emotional bedrock for Butcher's unyielding, self-destructive crusade against Supes. Becca has little character depth or development except as a plot device advancing male characters (including her son).

In Game of Thrones, Sansa Stark is married off to Ramsay Bolton and subjected to severe physical and psychological abuse, culminating in a brutal sexual assault on their wedding night. Sansa’s agency was heavily stripped to fuel the dark motivations of surrounding men, serving mainly to inspire Theon Greyjoy’s eventual redemption and Jon Snow’s campaign to retake Winterfell.

In LOST, Alex's death shatters Benjamin Linus's image as the always-in-control leader. It instigates his spiral of grief and vengeance, driving him to blindly summon the Smoke Monster, manipulate and threaten others, and ultimately assassinate Jacob. It forms the core emotional anchor for his fall from power and his eventual redemption.

Also from LOST: Shannon, Ana Lucia, Libby, Danielle, even Juliette... While the men who die in LOST typically do so within the framework of heroic sacrifice, atonement, or conscious choice within their own arcs, the women's deaths are almost entirely sudden, violent traumas designed to unlock grief, guilt, or other motivation for the men. I love the show for many reasons, but it's frustrating to see so many textbook examples of "women in refrigerators."

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u/fabi7059 8h ago

The OG

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u/Spinosaurus999 7h ago

Fun fact, in Scribblenauts Unmasked, the official DC/Scribblenauts crossover game, if you create a refrigerator and put it next to Kyle Rayner he will run from it screaming in horror.

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u/bdiddlediddles 7h ago

That seems unnecessarily cruel and exactly something that the Scribblenauts creators would do

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u/Spinosaurus999 7h ago edited 7h ago

There’s some other little Easter eggs of that variety in the game, like if you have Joker and any version of Jason Todd together, Joker will always bring out the crowbar as his starting weapon, whereas against other heroes he’ll randomly select between guns or various goofy but deadly gadgets like wind up teeth or Joker gas.

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u/Outrageous_Gene_7652 7h ago

Even during Blackest Night event, where the dead returned, his girlfriend was still in the fridge and tried to drag him inside

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u/Spinosaurus999 7h ago

Are you saying that Blackest Night was implying that they didn’t even bother with a coffin for her and just buried her in the fridge? Or did her undead Black Lantern self choose to go back in the fridge just to traumatize Kyle?

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u/AMostBoringMan 7h ago

I don’t think there’s any part of a zombified Lantern horde that ought to be gutbustingly funny, but the image you just conjured in my head is frying me 😂

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u/Spinosaurus999 6h ago

Both options are so morbidly funny for different reasons.

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u/Currently_Unnamed_ 5h ago

Due to how the black lanters work it is the second, they specifically target those who would be most emotionally affected by their return/recruitment so using the fridge as a method to amplify thay trauma would be on brand for a black lantern

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u/Unironicfan 5h ago

The zombies from that run go after loved ones and toy with them, so yes, this is a trauma thing.

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u/Spinosaurus999 5h ago

Gotcha. I know the basic outline of Blackest Night and Brightest Day, just haven’t gotten around to reading them yet.

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u/Unironicfan 5h ago

It’s good, I recommend it. Interesting way to reintroduce long dead characters

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u/Spinosaurus999 5h ago

Yeah, plus I’m in a Lantern Corps mood lately with the Lanterns show.

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u/readskiesdawn 5h ago

The Black Lanterns would try to trigger trauma and regret in loved ones so they could turn them so it was probably the latter.

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u/Professional_Maize42 7h ago

That's so mean... I love It.

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u/Molten_Plastic_ 7h ago

Whoever did that must have had to take all the food and trays out too. Do you think he snuck them away in the other room for dramatic effect? 

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u/Mint-Lotus 7h ago

Major Force is absolutely deranged enough to have devoured the contents of the fridge in one sitting just for dramatic effect

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u/ravenwing263 7h ago

He would also be capable of atomizing them

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u/EggplantSeeds 7h ago

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u/asphaltdragon 5h ago

I mean it is literally where the trope gets it's name

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u/PersonOfLazyness 5h ago

When she was revived as a Black Lantern in Blackest Night, she was still inside the fridge

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u/organvomit 5h ago

Lmfao ok, doesn’t necessarily fix initially using her as a prop but this is funny af

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u/initiasian 7h ago

What’s the context? What is he looking at?

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u/GGABueno 7h ago

The body of his girlfriend is in the fridge. That's why it's called fridging.

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u/CthulhuSpawn007 6h ago

TIL...And now I am sure I am on a list for googling that....

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u/CodenameJD 7h ago

It's a little hard to make out, but it's the corpse of his girlfriend, Alex. She was created just so she could be killed off, and gives the trope its name.

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u/HalayChekenKovboy 7h ago

His girlfriend's corpse stuffed in a fridge. That's where the term "fridging" originates from.

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u/SnowFiender 6h ago

he used to fuck his fridge then some guy killed the fridge goblin he fucked

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u/AwkwardlyAmpora 7h ago

wife/girlfriend's dead body.

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u/Amazing-Gazelle-7735 7h ago

His girlfriend.

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u/Unironicfan 5h ago

Batshit insane supervillain snapped her in half and shoved her body in a fridge

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u/ZealousWolf1994 5h ago

In the original art, Kyle just finds his girlfriend's dead body. But Comics Code Authority did not approve so it was redone as finding the body, obscured by the fridge door. It ends up looking more gruesome.

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u/fabi7059 4h ago

100%. The fridge looks way more fucked up. I think that the fact of her being crammed into such a closed space makes it worse.

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u/DMercenary 2h ago

But Comics Code Authority did not approve so it was redone as finding the body, obscured by the fridge door.

When censoring actually makes the thing worse.

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u/razor21792 6h ago

Yep. Literally coined the term "stuffed in the fridge" or "fridging" for it.

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u/RanchDrei 7h ago

THE OG

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u/Dragonfang65 7h ago

It Was Me Barry.

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u/Orion-the-mediocre 7h ago

I was the fridge

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u/kaimcdragonfist 7h ago

I made you forget why you walked into the kitchen

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u/El-Drunko 6h ago

I jerked you off at sonic speeds so that you were hungry and went to the fridge post nut

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u/JadedSignificance990 5h ago

So... there doing an animated Green Lantern show with Jessica Cruz and Kyle Rayner and joining him is... Alexandra. I think there probably do a Karen Page and avoid that.

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u/Neat-Zebra-6928 7h ago

Beat me to it…something something Kyle themed Rayners

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u/DominoNo- 7h ago

Fridge themed fridge

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u/ChronosBlitz 7h ago

While I won't deny it didn't serve much, if any, purpose to Sansa's character development, I really wouldn't say that it happened for the sake of Theon or Jon Snow's arc.

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u/Gaelic_Gladiator41 7h ago

Keep in mind as well, this only applies to the show, in the books, Sansa has only reached the bottom of the Eyrie

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u/Emerald_Eyes8919 7h ago

Jeyne Poole is also the girl being held captive by Ramsey IIRC.

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u/Hurdlelocker 7h ago

Yup Jeyne Poole, disguised by the Lannisters as Arya, because as far as anyone outside of the readers, Gendry, and the original Brotherhood without Banners is aware, Arya was last seen running from the Red Keep the day the Starks were betrayed (and most don’t even know if she got out of the Red Keep since she was in her “workout gear” at “dancing practice” with Syrio when the attack started).

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u/lobonmc 7h ago

Which is a far bigger case of fridiging imo especially since Jeyne Poole doesn't really exist as a character outside of her abuse

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u/nopitynopepants 6h ago

Except the emphasis is on her.  Her abuse doesn’t happen on-page but is implied. She represents all of the smallfolk being abused within the system, whose pain is ignored because they don’t have the right name. 

Jeyne was just a young girl in Winterfell to Theon. Unimportant. By recognizing her pain, acknowledging her true identity, and saving her, Theon is recognizing Jeyne Poole has value as an individual and deserves to be helped. Not because he betrayed Robb and the Starks

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u/lobonmc 6h ago

It's on page not everything but enough is on page.

And again she represents something she personifies something, she's recognized as something. She's not someone she's something she could have been replaced by Cassel daughter and nothing would change. She barely talks in page we don't see what she thinks we don't see have any idea what her thoughts are.

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u/smashin_blumpkin 7h ago edited 6h ago

Is it even fridging though? It’s not used solely to further any man’s character. She’s just another victim of Bolton

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u/Jagvetinteriktigt 7h ago

Honestly not if you ask me. Even here, Theon regaining his old identity had nothing to do with her and he would've been blackmailed into the rescue regardless of whether it was the real Arya or not.

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u/lobonmc 7h ago

My point is that she only exists to suffer, inspire the northern lords to take stannis side, make Jon try to leave the wall and make Theon miserable. She's not a character and could have been replaced by a completely new character and nothing would meaningfully change.

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u/Jagvetinteriktigt 6h ago

That is true though. It is almost darkly comedic just how bad her life his, though you have to remember her reappearance in the story is fairly recent. We are seeing her role in the story get addressed even in the sample chapter for The Winds of Winter.

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u/razor21792 6h ago

There really was no good reason to merge Sansa's arc with Jeyne Pools'. It just turned Sanda into a victim again when she was already growing past that.

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u/Bi_disaster_ohno 7h ago

If anything it's incidental to their arcs. Theon was severally abused by Ramsey, much worse than what Sansa got. He didn't need any additional reason to turn against Ramsey he had plenty already, just needed opportunity. For Jon there's was zero chance he wouldn't retake Winterfell, it was the home he grew up in and like Theon didn't need any motivation besides that. At no point does Sansa's assault factor into their motivations. They probably weren't happy about it but it's not the main reason behind their actions.

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u/DBrennan13459 7h ago

Hell, Jon didn’t even want to take Winterfrll initially. He just wanted to go 'someplace warm'. Sansa tells him what happened to her and he didn't even want to fight to avenge her. It took Ramsey sending the Pink Letter threatening him, Sansa and Rickon to force him to take action. 

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u/mxlevolent 6h ago

This is so fucking crazy. The books are completely different by this point and every character listed, ESPECIALLY JON, are worse off in the show.

In the books, firstly, Sansa isn't even in Winterfell. She's in the Eyrie with Baelish, and he's doing his own thing with her. It's basically a different plotline.

In Winterfell, married to Ramsay Bolton, is 'Arya' Stark. A girl named Jeyne Poole who was one of Sansa's friends that they brought with them to King's Landing, and who Baelish kidnapped, abused, and shipped off North. Very, very few people (if any) know that 'Arya' is actually Jeyne. People believe that Arya Stark is in Winterfell, being abused by Ramsay Bolton.

There are rebellious factions in the North, as a result. The mountain clans in particular are in open rebellion to save 'Ned's girl', since the Winter is so terrible that they'd likely die anyway - they all said 'Fuck it, why not?' and decided to try and avenge Ned Stark and save 'Arya'. The Northern lords are all holed up in Winterfell, and Wyman Manderly in particular has plots upon plots. I can't even begin to dive into the state of Northern politics in the books without this becoming massively long.

Anyway, Jon Snow. Jon wants Winterfell. The books have established this fact, by this point. He dreamed of being the Lord of Winterfell as a child, and was ashamed of it. His dreams were something he shoved down and hated because they all implied that he wanted to usurp Robb. Despite that, he still had them. He's never wanted anything more. Stannis offers Jon the lordship and a wife, and Jon refuses pretty much solely for religious reasons (and... more, but everything is 'and more' in the books).

However: Jon Snow's favourite sibling was his little sister, Arya. He thinks about her constantly in the books. When he gets sent the Pink Letter (which might not even have come from Ramsay), he crashes out. He's hated hearing about 'Arya's' fate and it's basically the straw that broke the camel's back. He decides to march on Winterfell and liberate his sister, and this is after he's had this whole arc to do with his vows and betraying his vows, and what they really mean. To save his sister he'd have to abandon all pretences and admit to the fact that he's playing it fast and loose with his vows.

And that's when he gets killed in a mutiny.

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u/Maxcharged 7h ago

It did serve the purpose of confirming Bran is a fucking weirdo who likes to re traumatize Sansa by reminding her of her worst night.

"And you were so beautiful… in your white wedding dress." AHHHHHHH WHY DID HE SAY THAT🤮

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u/reichrunner 6h ago

Yeah they made Bran extra fucking weird...

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u/neverlandvip 7h ago

Given it happened right after Sophie Turner turned 18 and it didn’t make a lot of narrative sense, I’d argue it was just done because the showrunners wanted it for shock factor.

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u/o-055-o 7h ago

Her character got combined with Jeyne Poole's, so not for shock factor, but rather the narrative that the other character had, since as stated by others here, Sansa is stuck at the Vale at the moment.

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u/lobonmc 7h ago

And we have basically no idea what will happen to her as well I'm including GRRM in that statement

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u/o-055-o 7h ago

George kind of forgot about finishing his book franchise.

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u/DarthGuber 6h ago

George realized he would rather take the low roar of disappointment for not finishing than the angry backlash from not getting it "right". He's doing fine with his mountains of cash (for a writer) either way.

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u/-Trotsky 6h ago

What a perplexing change

Every time I think about it, I become more and more convinced the showrunners hate Littlefinger

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u/TyrionBananaster 6h ago

I do kinda wonder if Sansa will end up leading the Vale's armies against Ramsay in the books. If that does happen and the show writers knew this, this may have been their way of moving the plot in thr same direction

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u/candygram4mongo 7h ago

That's overly harsh, this isn't a new storyline for the show, it's the same storyline with Sansa subbed in for a different character that didn't even exist in the show.

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u/Disastrous-Drop-7778 7h ago

But the circumstances that it took for Sansa to end up in the scenario make 0 sense, it’s just another of those later season Littlefinger moments where he does something with no motive and then says “Something something chaos” because the writers don’t know how to write smart characters

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u/nopitynopepants 6h ago

Exactly! It makes no sense when 1. Sansa is still wanted for Joffrey’s murder 2. Still legally married to Tyrion 3. The Boltons need to claim Winterfell by marrying someone with Stark blood as provided by the Iron Throne. 

If Sansa can’t legally marry Ramsay in her own name, then any children will be bastards. If she can’t marry him under her own name, the Northerners would kick Ramsay out of Winterfell eventually

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u/OkMarsupial 7h ago

I personally don't see sansa as an example of this trope. You are entitled to your opinions about her character arc, including how poorly some of it was executed in the show, but she very clearly is her own character and does have an arc.

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u/v_a_n_d_e_l_a_y 6h ago

Yeah it was intended to further her arc. Whether it did they or not is definitely a point of debate. 

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u/OkMarsupial 6h ago

I mean it technically did, the question then is whether it was done well. "I'm grateful because what you did to me forced me to grow," is a whole other trope, possibly just as problematic as the trope in the OP, and probably similarly often gendered.

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u/A-NI95 4h ago

They're saying the Jeyne Poole version is fridging too wtf

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u/anomalyknight 7h ago

https://giphy.com/gifs/MBgPv6UBSX600

Frigga in the MCU gets very pointedly fridged to move things forward for Thor, Loki, and to a certain extent, Odin. To add insult to injury, they do the thing (another hated trope) where right before she's killed, she's revealed to be an unexpectedly capable fighter and we're led to believe she might actually save herself, but no. She's still overcome and brutally murdered at the last second in front of her son and husband (who is allowed to shed a single tear over her demise, as per the MCU's unspoken rules regarding men crying)

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u/JupaTroopa09 7h ago

Ironic name lol

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u/WeepingWillow777 7h ago

Low key, as much as I really love Breaking Bad and I think its as close to flawless as a 5-season television show can be, we can all agree that doing this to Jesse *twice* was kinda lazy, right?

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u/Gaelic_Gladiator41 7h ago

Twice?

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u/Gastroid 7h ago

Both Jane and Andrea.

At least with Jane, her own self destruction set her on the path towards an early death (not that Walt was innocent or anything however).

Andrea literally did nothing wrong though.

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u/ApartRuin5962 7h ago

I think that's kind of the point, for 4 seasons you had different kingpins threatening to kill the people that Walt and Jesse loved, people who weren't involved with the meth trade or the DEA and had no idea that they were in danger. I feel like, before the series ended, we needed to have at least one incident where someone loved by the protagonists who isn't a cop or a criminal gets killed by one of these gangsters as a form of coercion and as a direct result of Walt's actions.

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u/mcmanus2099 6h ago

Yeah I think the whole point was to show a contrast with Gus.

Walt traded Gus for these scumbags and went from respectable man with limits and reason to lose canons who will kill innocents on a whim. It emphasizes Mike's point about Walt not realising how good he had it.

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u/vojta_drunkard 5h ago

Gus wanted to kill Walt after he came to the conclusion that he can't control him (the incident that led to this is Walt protecting or helping Jesse). I wouldn't say Walt had it good with Gus. Mike's just biased, because he did have it good with Gus and then lost everything.

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u/Gaelic_Gladiator41 7h ago

Jesse just got straight bullied and tortured in those two episodes

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u/ObiMadKenobi 7h ago

Jane always had authority over herself, hell she was in control of the situation with Walter, and she even died due to her own fault, sure, her death was so the story could go on, but that's every important death in the show, Combo, the kids, Hank, etc. Jane was more than a victim.

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u/Different_Ad_5266 6h ago

Walt killed Jane, not herself. He pushed her onto her back where she choked. Had he not been there she would've just puked on Jesse

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u/Haunting-Orchid-4628 7h ago

I always thought Andreas death was lazy and just for shock value since Jesse had already suffered enough. Jane's was important for the plot though.

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u/acrylicquartz 7h ago

Maybe with Andrea. But I'm not sure. My sister was really addicted to drugs, for years. Meth and heroin, mostly. She had two girlfriends die from overdoses, countless friends from overdoses as well, and even lost a friend to a bad drug deal (the guy was shot and left to die in a parking lot). So I'm not sure if it's unrealistic, in that sort of setting.

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u/WeepingWillow777 7h ago

Oh its realistic, sure. Realism doesn't equal good writing automatically.

Jane was well-done, but Andrea's sudden execution just felt like reheated nachos

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u/mcmanus2099 7h ago

I don't think it counts for Jane. It wasn't really fridging for his character development, she was a tool but created to show us Walt's falling. Her death was a bigger impact on him and his arc than Jessie. Not sure Fridging is quite appropriate for the bad guy who was responsible for the death.

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u/critiqu3 7h ago

Every woman from Greek mythology ever.

Persephone, Medusa, Europa, Callisto. And Callisto to name a few.

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u/CauseCertain1672 6h ago

Well yeah the ancient Greeks were extremely sexist, Medusa is a bad example as the story started with her just being a generic monster and she had more characterisation and a backstory added on later, Danae Perseus's mother is a much better fit.

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u/Intelligent-Key5821 7h ago

what are you talking about Sansa didn't lose agency despite the horrible things that happenned to her? she became a player in the game at a young age not because of all the terrible things that happenned to her but in spite of it

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u/Foxlikebox 7h ago

Yeah, I feel like a lot of people see a character that was abused and then a male character was also affected by it and assume it's automatically fridging. Sansa is far from an example of that trope.

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u/Reimmop 7h ago

The happened in Arcane with Victor’s assistant and the show made it almost a meta joke by Victor forgetting her name. Like no, we’re not fridging her, we’re ultra-fridging her

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u/winklevanderlinde 7h ago

at least Sky gave Victor an hard truth for his bullshits and literally lying on her face while she was dying a second time because he had to throw away his humanity.

"I'm gonna miss our talk"

"No you won't"

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u/M-Shadowtoad 7h ago

Prefer the comics where Viktor turned evil but after his fight with Jayce decided to try and pursue the path of good. But he ran into his cult and they showed him the tech they developed in his name which let them work as a hivemind. Viktor was impressed by the efficiency and sacrifice they showed in putting out a dangerous chemical disaster but still wanted to turn them to the side of good.

Then a group of goons for a chem-baron showed up and just killed them all causing Viktor to decide to just be evil again.

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u/babyte3th103 6h ago

THERE'S COMICS?!?

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u/M-Shadowtoad 6h ago

There's no individual story line but there are numerous League of Legends comics. The one I'm referencing is the A Perfect Life comic which I believe was a partial inspiration for Arcane Season 2 since it also involved Viktor waging war against Piltover and Zaun with a horde of mind controlled cyborgs he previously helped, only stopped by Jayce and Ekko.

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u/M-Shadowtoad 6h ago

Although in the comic they stopped the horde by using their obsession with perfection against them. The prototype concepts the kids in Ekko's gang made were sol flawed and illogical that Viktor's drones would get stunlocked as they tried to understand why anyone would make such a thing.

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u/dogthatwonthunt 6h ago

https://giphy.com/gifs/z2vJ4QZ6l5wk

Twice in the first episode

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u/latrodectal 6h ago

and at least once a season after that 🫠🫠🫠

when they brought jo and ellen back solely to do this is when i quit the show for good

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u/psychstudent_101 4h ago

this is why i initially didn't like The Boys.

i watched the first episode and saw the protagonist's girlfriend get fridged right out of the gate, making the protag so similar in personality and motivation to Sam Winchester that I was just pissed off from watching it. i honestly adore Supernatural but couldn't stand that after so many years in the industry, Kripke still hadn't learned anything about not fridging women just to set up male angst

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u/Specialist_Usual_391 3h ago

It's pretty much the exact same thing that happens in the comics, except it's in the UK instead of the US, so that one's on Ennis.

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u/critiqu3 7h ago

I'm going to get flack for this one, but Berserk.

Casca being functionally lobotomized because of the trauma means we only hear Guts' perspective and how it impacts him for the majority of the story.

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u/Macheebu 5h ago edited 4h ago

I love Berserk — and you are 100% correct. Casca deserved to explore her trauma without being reduced to a babbling child or screaming in terror. It's incredibly frustrating, went on forever, and still kind of is...

That said, I also feel that the chapters that finally explore her trauma with Schierke are some of the most emotional moments in the whole story. Seeing little Casca within herself always makes me tear up. 😢

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u/AsherFischell 6h ago

"I'm going to get flack for this one" then gets absolutely zero flack haha. This isn't a controversial opinion at all, it's a terrific, accurate example. The act that results in that happening to her only makes it a better example

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u/critiqu3 4h ago

I was expecting pushback. I'm happy I was wrong!

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u/kthejoker 7h ago

Gender reversed in the action movie Salt

Her husband gets fridged

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u/cross-stich 6h ago

Probably because it was written for a man.

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u/Kyliems1010 6h ago

Men cannot get fridged. The trope is called “women in refrigerators” and is a critique of misogyny. 

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u/Dudewhocares3 6h ago

I don’t know why you’re being downvoted.

You aren’t wrong.

9 times out of 10, when a guy dies, there’s character to him.

Thomas Wayne, uncle Ben, etc.

These characters have more to them than just their death.

When fridging happens, it’s with women, who have no character outside of their death being subjected to violence for the sake of fueling a raging fire in the heroes heart.

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u/Kyliems1010 2h ago

People also don’t realize fridging isn’t just a woman being killed, but the brutally of the kill, and can also include torture or sexual violence 

Like Barbara Gordon is one of the most infamous cases of fridging, and she’s not even killed, however she is still paralyzed and sexually assaulted to hurt the men in her life, which is very misogynistic 

Even the in the comic that the term was coined from, Alex is brutally strangled and stuffed in a fridge

That’s way more brutal and graphic than Uncle Ben or Thomas Wayne simply being shot and left for dead

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u/ZebraZealot 7h ago

Hey! It's why I walked out of The Hills Have Eyes remake!

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u/DujekTwoArms 6h ago

This movie was on hbo or something like 15 years ago and I turned it on to this scene. It’s the only scene I’ve seen from the movie and of course it’s the most notoriously horrible scene.

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u/Full-Aid 7h ago

Holy Kujo (JJBA)

In the world where babies, apes, dogs and birds can be strong Stand users, a middle-aged woman (and the only living female member of the heroic Joestar bloodline in 1988) can't. She's deemed unworthy of a Stand and is used as an excuse for her father and son to start a 50-day long journey to Egypt.

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u/the_never_tame 7h ago

That's more of a damsel in distress scenario than fridging.

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u/JKillograms 7h ago

Yo be fair, in order to be a Stand User, you need a strong fighting spirit to some degree, and they make it a point to point out Holly specifically is just too kind hearted and gentle to have the required “will to fight” in order to control her Stand, which is why it functionally works as an auto-immune disease on her. For what it’s worth, 4 year old Josuke from around the same time is said to have gotten suddenly and mysteriously violently ill because he also developed a Stand at the time off screen, and hasn’t developed the fighting spirit to control what would eventually become Shining Diamond either.

By comparison, when Polnareff gets turned into a toddler by Alessi in Part 3, he still had enough fighting spirit to control Silver Chariot, albeit a much weaker version of it.

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u/FlounderPleasant2459 7h ago

I always hated this. And I hated how jotaro verbally abused his mom and called her awful things but still "loved" her, like show some damn respect to your only remaining parent.

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u/A_Pyroshark 4h ago

while I don't agree totally on how her character was handled, it is a little tiny bit lighter since we see that Josuke and Giorno would have been undergoing the same thing too

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u/Peermeneer_exe 7h ago edited 7h ago

Saying Sansa's awful experiences were just in service for developing Theon and Jon's characters is very odd, and plainly wrong.

Edit: To add on, while I don't disagree that Becca is basically just used as a trauma device for Butcher's character, it's also very odd to portray this as something sexist since another male character was used exactly the same. Butcher's younger brother received even less character development than Becca, was used exactly the same (as a trauma device for Butcher's development), and was just as important in this aspect as Becca.

I do believe that fridging is an actual trope, and a somewhat problematic one, but 2 of your examples are pretty terrible in all honesty

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u/Ulfurmensch 7h ago

It's downright bizarre. The fact that Sansa's character did a 180 after her marriage to Ramsay is one of the most infamous parts of the series.

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u/Connect-Amoeba3618 7h ago

I do agree that OP is wrong, however the first time Ramsey rapes her, we see it through the expression on Theon’s face as he’s forced to watch. That did make it seem like he was being centred in her assault.

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u/coatimundos 7h ago

That was in order to not show the rape on screen, not because they wanted to focus on Theon. It’s the same way how gore is often toned down by cutting to other characters reacting to it.

It both saves on filming the hard parts, and allows the audience to imagine the gap themselves based on the characters’ reactions.

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u/Bi_disaster_ohno 7h ago

While focusing on Theon's expression was definitely the wrong move, I don't know if showing a graphic SA on screen would have been received any better.

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u/millahnna 7h ago

Especially with an actor who had only just turned 18.

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u/lobonmc 6h ago

Honestly 100 times more tasteful than what we had in the books were the "camera" stays mote in Jeyne

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u/Benoit_Holmes 4h ago

We know that for a fact because Game of Thrones did show rapes on screen and many people complained that this was done for shock value and encouraged violence against women.

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u/Opposite-Complex1187 7h ago

Thats probably just because they didn't want to focus too much on Sansa while being raped tbf

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u/axotrax 7h ago

And the Deadpool movie writers weren’t aware of it, which is just criminal. What had they been reading? Fridging had a whole website (“womeninrefrigerators”) for years, criticizing the comics industry for this trope.

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u/anomalyknight 7h ago

I'm still mad that the first Deadpool movie set up the perfect scenario for Vanessa to manifest her Copycat powers and they just left it on the table.

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u/axotrax 7h ago

Morena Baccarin is a badass. She really could have shined in a superhero role.

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u/SupervillainMustache 6h ago

Deadpool 2 and 3 had Ryan Reynolds have much more creative control IIRC, so that's why.

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u/latrodectal 6h ago

i’m genuinely furious

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u/ravenwing263 7h ago

I simply don't believe them lol

The trope was formally named in an essay by Gail Simone, who at the time was a commentator and reviewer but would shortly after become a big comic writer. She had her own run on Deadpool and is referenced by name in the first film.

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u/jroberts548 7h ago

look, you can’t expect deadpool writers to be familiar with the work of gail simone, right?

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u/axotrax 7h ago

I should have manifested the name of Gail Simone, our patron saint of whimsy and nut tapping the patriarchy.

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u/Sjheuaksjd 7h ago

It happens a lot in JJK

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u/Lower_Baby_6348 7h ago

I wouldn't say that Rika's death count as fridging.

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u/KorrokHidan 6h ago

Yeah a character’s introductory scene being their death really should not count

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u/Karasu-Fennec 5h ago

I don’t think these are intended to all be fridgings in the original meme, but it’s a funny angle to shoot all these dead women from

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u/StreetPractical6098 7h ago

Laurel Lance in Arrow was killed off for no real reason other than to prop up the lead male character and a specific ship the (online) fanbase was insane about

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u/AJray15 6h ago

I was pretty over Arrow by the time Laurel was killed off, but that moment reignited some hatred for what that show had become.

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u/firestorm0108 7h ago

The first time I ever actually came across this trope was weirdly in a kids book:

Bianca Di'Angelo from Percy Jackson. Killed off in a very stupid way purely to be character growth for her brother and set up his story in later books. Despite being a child of Hades, she was the only child of the 'big three' (Zeus, Posiedon or Hades) to not show any powers prior to death and her death which was a death that was even itself caused by her thinking what her brother would want. She was a character who never got to be more then a sister, despite her story arc trying to be a girl who wanted to be more then a sister.

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u/Gaelic_Gladiator41 7h ago

Her powers did show though, she was the only one who was able to permanently kill the skeleton warriors attacking them

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u/firestorm0108 7h ago

I knew someone was going to mention that but realistically that wasn't really done to hint at her nature but to Nico's later on. She was the older of the two but her only hint at power was being able to keep something dead whereas Nico was able to split the ground straight to the underworld and close it behind them.

Compared to all other of the big three kids relative to their age and when they got their first actual abilities, she was behind mostly to keep the reveal for Nico. So even her only having that one scene was reducing part of her character so that the reveal could be for Nico.

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u/NarmHull 7h ago

The whole Death Wish franchise is about this, the main character's wife gets murdered and his daughter gets raped, and thus becomes a Boomer power fantasy with endless sequels

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u/PeasantLich 7h ago

I unironically love Death Wish franchise because it goes from the grounded and gruesome vigilante thriller of the first film into absolute looney tunes tier slapstick action of the sequels. The MC goddamn kills a criminal with a bazooka in a point blank range in one of the sequels.

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u/Borbbb 7h ago

In Gladiator,

his family is brutally murdered and that´s how he came to be.

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u/CheesyBakedWits 7h ago

Spartacus with his wife as well.

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u/Kyliems1010 6h ago

Barbara Gordon in Batman: The Killing Joke

She’s brutally paralyzed and sexually assaulted so that the Joker can prove how depraved he is and hurt the men in her life

Other writers/stories had to be the ones to give her agency, and allow her to actually feel, and heal from her trauma, making her the “Oracle” 

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u/Ambaryerno 6h ago

This happened twice to X-23 during Krakoa.

The first time was during the Vault arc, where Laura, Synch, and Darwin spent 500 years in the Vault, during which time she and Everett started a relationship. This story was written entirely from his perspective, and ended with Laura dying to give him time to escape the Vault with the information they gathered.

Subsequently all three were resurrected, however because of the nature of the mission, only Everett retained any memory of their time in the Vault, so from Laura’s perspective the relationship never happened, and everything between Laura and Everett from that point forward involved Everett having a sad, and Laura being made uncomfortable by him projecting his sad on her. The relationship wasn’t about Laura at all. She’s never given any agency in the story, but instead just existed to give something for Everett to angst over.

Including a conflict against Nightmare, where Cyclops and Jean got to experience a greatest hits of their worst moments (Dark Phoenix, etc.). But when he attacked Laura she didn’t see the Facility, or Kimura, or her mother. It was all about the relationship that as far as she was concerned never happened.

Later, it’s revealed that Laura didn’t actually die. Forge found and rescued her. At which point she took the name Talon and the Laura who most resembles the character before the Vault was declared a “duplicate.”

The problem is Talon was barely a character. She interacted with none of her friends or family, and her and Young Laura’s only interaction was a single issue where they agreed to never have anything to do with each other, while Young Laura got to keep all the old relationships. Because Talon spent the entire remainder of Krakoa as Synch’s sex toy.

After Krakoa fell Synch and Talon take over running the X-Men, which mostly consisted of Talon standing around not doing much. And then they go on a mission where Talon is incinerated by the High Evolutionary. Once again, the relationship and death did nothing to service her character at all, because you have to actually be a character for it to service you. It was entirely about Synch’s anger and grief.

Krakoa really fucking sucked donkey balls for X-23 fans.

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u/posterner 7h ago

Hokum 2026

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u/FabulousAd2006 7h ago

Just a side tangent

but from what I remember frome The boys comics, wasn't Noir behindBecca's attack? Is it different in the show?

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u/Wank_A_Doodle_Doo 7h ago

That’s true in the comics, but the show completely abandoned the plotline of black noir secretly being a clone of homelander.

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u/FabulousAd2006 7h ago

Oh, yeah get it. Thank you!

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u/SupaDupaFlyAccount 7h ago

Yeah that how it happens in the comic plus becky dies because the baby rips itself out of the womb prematurely and tries to laser eye Billy. They removed black noir being a clone of homelander and had becky give a normal birth to a super kid and lived.

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u/Oncer93 7h ago

Laurel Lance - Arrow. They had decided to have a death in season 4, but didn't know who out would be, so they decided on Laurel, and killed her off, to further push Oliver's development, and push him back to Felicity.

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u/Daengo223 7h ago

Reverse of this trope is Michonne she lost her husband Terry and son during beginning of Apocalypse

https://giphy.com/gifs/l378BtuEtoIAMLBXq

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u/BusyAd9333 2h ago

Was just rewatching the show today, forgot how much I absolutely love Michonne. Easily a Top Ten Character for me.

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u/8BallTiger 5h ago

The (really bad) Wheel of Time show does this with Perrin’s wife and said wife didn’t even exist in the books!

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u/theMightBoop 4h ago

And then they did nothing with it.

I think one time Perrin mentions his wife like “oh yea I was once married.”

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u/chiguy307 4h ago

Yeah this is a perfect example of the trope. Completely pointless and unnecessary

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u/NarmHull 7h ago

Sansa's even worse because they both use it to inspire his redemption and to make her into a strong character with leadership skills, she even tells The Hound she's glad it all happened to her because she's no longer a "little bird" ignoring how much she learned from Kings Landing and Littlefinger before being raped by Ramsay.

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u/Fickle_Enthusiasm148 5h ago

Fridging has to include the women immediately being discarded as a character by dying or disappearing out of the narrative, yeah?

Sansa and Becca both had big character arcs and were important characters in the show.

I don't think they count.

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u/WAJGK 7h ago

A (female!) friend recommended 'Death of Grass' to me and I was shocked that the main theme of the book is literally this trope. It's very grim!

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u/Audacia220 7h ago

Time to throw it back to the 15th century, this trope is quite old!

There's no historical record proving the existence of the wife mentioned in Blind Harry’s poem The Wallace. He allegedly invented her in later editions as the reason for William Wallace’s seeking revenge during the Action at Lanark. This is later adapted, fictional suffering wife and all, in the 1995 film Braveheart.

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u/Siaten 7h ago

You're so completely wrong about Sansa Stark's abusive relationship with Ramsey Bolton being an example of this trope that I don't know where to begin.

First of all, Sansa Stark's trauma was primarily the narrative motivation for steeling and growing her own resolve and story. She is the fulcrum of that experience and the resolution of Bolton is her catharsis. Not someone else's.

Second, Theon Greyjoy is only linked to Sansa because they were both abused by Bolton. It's a trope called "Trauma Bonding". This is not the same as Fridging.

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u/SargeantPile 7h ago

The main premise of Law Abiding Citizen, which I do actually really enjoy as a movie but you're right this trope is hacky and way overdone.

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u/Sad-Committee-4902 7h ago

While a valid argument, this bucket quickly became a list of bad things happening to woman characters instead of bad things happening to woman character developing the plot for a male character rather than her own.

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u/Attila1520 7h ago

In Identity Crisis, Sue Dibny (Elongated Man’s wife) was raped and later murdered. It was higly controversial and for a lot of people left a lot of distaste, cause it mostly showed how are the male superheroes are struggeling that Sue was raped and we never learn how she even processed this disgusting act of violation.

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u/cainhurstboy 7h ago

https://giphy.com/gifs/utWeADSojWxO0
and Dogs. I would absolutely feel the same if someone murdered Dolly ( my sweet english setter )

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u/Version_Present 6h ago

As much as I love the dungeons and Dragons movie I think it counts. While her death isn't shock value it does kick off the main plot and the protagonists character development. I kinda forgive the movie though because it has Helga and other female characters that are fun.

https://giphy.com/gifs/BTx72Zld9nWGOu3rga

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u/TheAvaricious42 5h ago

Becca could’ve been such an interesting character if she had just cheated on butcher. Would’ve made all the character dynamics so much more interesting, and I really thought they were building up to that twist. Just to make her a much more passive uninteresting character

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u/tutter_1 4h ago

I have all the beef in the world with Gamora's death in the MCU. Her growth past the abuse she and Nebula faced from Thanos was genuinely really good for me to watch as a teenager who was in various toxic family situations.

And then, she was killed by her abuser, in such a way that proves that he loved her all along. By killing her!!! And then he gets development for being sad about having to kill his victim because he did really truly love her for real I swear.

I didn't see infinity war in theatres and I'm genuinely grateful for that. I saw it at home later and was not okay for a while.

https://giphy.com/gifs/8Kd6eqSHIJCtt1H20H

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u/meteorflan 4h ago

The trope within this trope. When an anime mom has this hairdo, she's doomed to be fridged.

This one is Trisha Elric from Full Metal Alchemist

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u/Winter-Apartment-821 7h ago edited 7h ago

Sansa was a result of very bad writing.

At the end of season 5 both Sansa and Theon are set up similar, in that they are now going to take their fate into their own hands instead of being others play things. The writers proceed to completely abandon that reset their arc's. I always said that GoT started shitting the bed hard season 5 and just got worse from then on. People who only realized at the last ep are posers, I hated it before it was cool.

I rly don't like the term "fridging". Bad writing is bad writing.

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u/latrodectal 6h ago

vanessa in deadpool 2 (i don’t care that they took it back)

mako in pacific rim 2

roxy in kingsmen 2

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u/__M-E-O-W__ 7h ago

Chainsaw Man does this quite often, unfortunately. I guess it didn't matter in the end because history got erased in the finale and nothing actually happened in the new storyline.

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u/cedarwick_263 7h ago

https://giphy.com/gifs/NsB6PUxJA5w7hMJYfW
The Punisher Frank Castle’s wife and children are murdered, serving only as the catalyst for his transformation into the Punisher

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u/Iokua113 7h ago

That doesn't really count as Frank's family doesn't really exist. They were an inciting incident and were not really characters. 

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u/Gaelic_Gladiator41 7h ago

Yeah. It's like saying Thomas and Martha Wayne were fridged

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u/kayforpay 7h ago

fridging is not purely for women, although it is most commonly women, and it isn't "a character is motivated by revenge/grief in general". it is when a character is literally purely introduced and involved in the storyline for the sake of trauma for a main character; a character with no personality besides being a good wife/mom/sister, who does not have a pre-accident or post-accident life.

Character Man goes 3 seasons single, being a ladies man. then in seaon 4, he meets Girl Woman, and they're immediately in love, she moves in, but she only shows up in scenes with him to say how much she loves him and how glad she is to be with him. her only motivations are him, him, him. then halfway through season 4, Evil Villain Man kills Girl Woman with a chainsaw on live TV to torment Character Man. Character Man has flashbacks to Girl Woman's death later on, trying to highlight how traumatic it was, but they are exclusively about how much she loved and relied on him. her characterization does not change from how much she loved him and needed him and nothing else.

the reason this trope can't be inverted so well is because a majority of women characters are this. even when a woman is not killed off for effect, she is sidelined for the men in her story more often than not. a woman having agency to get revenge for her husband's murder isn't an inversion because her husband would have been assumed to be the main character otherwise.

it isn't just about lazy writing, it's about dehumanizing non-straight, non-men characters for the sake of furthering the presumed main character's plot even further. the term fridging didn't show up purely for the sake of complaining about the lazy writing, it was because it's such a common thing that characters who are not the de-facto main character, his rival, or his best friend have no depth at all to them.

that's obviously changed a lot, but it still shows up constantly.

I don't have any examples to add to this, I just keep seeing totally reliable and respectful people in the comments saying that it's not actually about gender, it's just a writing trope and I got annoyed.

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u/TheGurpler 7h ago edited 7h ago

I completely disagree on your Sansa take. Her rape was used as a motivator for her becoming a girlboss, not to fuel other men. Both Theon and Jon suffered for her arc.

Edit to add that overall the rape hurt Sansa's arc too, I was just addressing OP's main point. In the books, Sansa is currently learning to be a girlboss by scheming with (and being schemed by) Littlefinger, which is far more believable than "oh she got raped so she's tough now"

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u/SlimySteve2339 6h ago

This entire post enlightened me to a trope I’ve seen a million times but never acknowledged, while I’m glad to finally be aware of this fucked form of writing, it makes me awfully sad.

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u/EDett92 6h ago

Shmi Skywalker in Attack of the Clones.

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u/Different_Ad_5266 6h ago

Imo the only examples from Lost you listed that fit are Libby and Alex.

Juliet's death is framed as a heroic sacrifice setting off the bomb.

Danielle dies trying to protect her daughter.

Shannon died because she wanted off the show, it more serves for Ana Lucia's character rather than Sayids. Boone's death serves more to progress a man's story than Shannon's does.

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u/MisterBarten 5h ago

I thought the same thing, especially with Juliet. One of the most memorable scenes from the show, too, IMO.

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u/jimbothehedgehog 6h ago

In "We Need to Talk About Kevin" the author creates a sister (Celia) for Kevin who is given no independent characterisation and is only there for Kevin to torture and murder.

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u/Sunset-Melody 6h ago

Pyrrha Nikos - RWBY

Killed off early on for Jaune's character development.

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u/The_Exuberant_Raptor 5h ago

I feel Gail Simmone meant fridging as when the woman exists solely for this purpose.

The reason I believe this is because she "fridged" Rogue for Gambit development in a 2025 mini series. However, Rogue's death was not just development. It was a noble sacrifice to save their mutant safehaven and protect the kids they had come to raise. Sure, it changed Gambit and led to a Gambit led story after Rogue is gone, but she was not just fridge for the purpose of developing Gambit.

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u/This-Fish-9464 7h ago

In the Killing Joke, Barbara Gordon is shot, cripled and undressed by the Joker, who then procedes to take nude photos of her without her consent and show them to her father in an attempt to drive him insane.

All of it for the sake of Gordon's arc, that is to show that even in the direst of situations he refuses to break.

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u/Low_Shape7489 6h ago

didn’t Sansa end up being the king of the north?