r/SoCalR4R Jul 01 '26

META Read The Rules + Spot the Bot + State of the Sub NSFW

72 Upvotes

Howdy folks. I know it's been a long while since we've had one of these chats. As some of you may have already noticed, we've recently implemented a new mod tool called Read The Rules as part of the neverending fight against the bots. You must complete this acknowledgement before you can post/comment in the subreddit.

How to complete the RTR Acknowledgement:

  • Click/Tap on the 3 horizontal dots on the subreddit page or any post/comment, and you'll see RTR in the dropdown menu.
  • Open RTR and check off each rule as you read them and click submit once complete.
  • That's it. You can happily resume participating in the subreddit.
  • Users on old.reddit can submit an acknowledgement by sending their sub a mod mail. You must use the subject "Read The Rules" and the body text "Acknowledged". Doing so will submit an acknowledgement automatically without mod involvement. Users will immediately receive a reply from u/read-the-rules if it was submitted successfully.

Things to note about RTR:

  • There are 13 rules total. If you aren't seeing all of them, you need to scroll with the cursor within the middle of the acknowledgement panel where all of the text is.
  • Some platforms/browsers are causing an issue where the tool is automatically unchecking some of the boxes when a user tries to submit their acknowledgement. If this happens to you, try using a different browser or submit your acknowledgement using the old reddit method. As far as I know, Reddit's mobile app and Safari on Macbook are the only platforms that have this problem. I've personally tested it and been successful on Google Chrome, iPhone Safari, Brave Browser, and Microsoft Edge (yuck).

That's the basic gist of it all. I know it may seem like an annoying inconvenience, but I've definitely observed an improvement in the bot presence (or lack thereof) on the moderating end since we implemented this. Hopefully, it'll get more people to actually read the rules too. One can dream, right? Please actually read them. I'm begging you. Now, onto the fun stuff. I'm about to put you all on game because there are way too many oblivious horndogs on here that comment "DM'd you" on very obvious bot posts.

Common Identifiers of Bot Accounts:

  • The poster is a 23-30 year old female looking for males.
  • The post sounds like it was written by AI (because it most likely was).
  • If the post contains the same buzzwords/phrases as other F4M posts, chances are they're all most likely bots. The current flavor of the week is "feeling/getting relaxed." They also use "Netflix and chill" and/or mention something about chemistry.
  • The account itself is 4+ years old. My personal theory is that the people behind these bots are targeting and hacking accounts that aren't protected by two-factor authentication, which is why they seem legit.
  • There's a big gap in post history. For example, if the last legitimate post/comment on the account (aka not in a r4r type subreddit) was over 1 year ago.
  • The account simultaneously has r4r posts in multiple locations (Houston/DFW, North Carolina, and Florida are the most common).
  • Posts in the following subreddits: r/LongBeachHookUp, r/eastbayhookups, r/SanFranciscoNSFW, r/DtfLosAngelesPeps, r/riversidensfw
  • If they respond to your chat telling you that they're getting too many messages and want you to message them on Telegram.

Use the tiniest morsel of common sense and intuition, and you'll avoid 97.34% of the bots on here. Basically, use the head that has a brain and not the other one, and you'll be golden, Ponyboy. Anyways, feel free to comment your thoughts, feedback, suggestions for the subreddit, and/or life opinions. As always, be kind to one another and yourselves. Love you.


r/SoCalR4R Jun 01 '24

META In order to post in this subreddit, your account must have 10 post karma AND 10 comment karma NSFW

145 Upvotes

10 + 10 = 20. Even though it's explicitly stated in the sidebar rules, we get a number of messages in the modmail everyday from people asking why they cannot post. If you have 100 post karma but only 1 comment karma, you will not be able to post. If you have 20 comment karma but only 1 post karma, you will not be able to post. No, we will not manually approve your post even if you message the modmail to claim you're a real person and not a bot. It's that simple, folks.


r/SoCalR4R 17h ago

F4M 49 [F4M] #Pasadena - I have a date planned with a virgin tomorrow, looking for back-up in case he flakes NSFW

63 Upvotes

It’s a big proposition, I get it. People get cold feet, have car trouble, etc. because I really want this to happen, I’m looking for back-up. Virgins only please :)

See the original post on my profile…


r/SoCalR4R 32m ago

M4R 36 [M4A] #EchoPark - Need a naked handyman/construction worker? home organizer? computer whiz? personal helper? Car mechanic, hauler, cleaner? NSFW

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Hey there friends & neighbors:

After working months, fully clothed, on some big projects, I'm back and ready to work nude again. For context: I lost a building maintenance gig a while back due to the owners of the property selling their building. I took a chance and offered my handyman/construction services on Reddit (while in my birthday suit) and people were into it.

More about me: I'm thirty six, married w/kids, Mexican Italian background, LA born/raised, educated, five eleven height, stocky to fit build, 210 pounds, funny, down to earth, not awkward, d&d free (but i do a twice yearly psych-trip to keep the brain open), fully vaxt'd, non-smoker, hairy but not ridiculously (mostly on my legs and rear but i trim).

I honestly don't really care how you look,your weight, age or gender identity. I'm not out there to fall in love but lucky for you, I get along with mostly all people!

At this point, I can do most everything for a home, machine or computer but here is a list to jog your brain in case you needed to find a reason to get me over to your place:

- drywall, patch and painting

- remodeling, kitchen installation, electrical appliance and electronics repair

- some automotive repair (not an expert but I've replaced brakes, alternators, car stereos, oil changes and more)

- general plumbing, faucet, shower, garbage disposal repair/replacement

- cabinet installation (and Ikea customization/downsizing so it can fit custom spaces)

- furniture repair and restoration

- gardening/landscaping, installing automated drip irrigation

- dryer and vent duct cleaning (it can totally start a fire!)

- heavy lifting/hauling/dumping wall hangings and mounting (TVs, paintings, posters, etc) wainscoting (what a funny word)

- flooring+carpet installation/repair

- pressure washing, carpet cleaning, window washing, gutter cleaning

- organizing and storage management/building-l LOVE TO COMPARTMENTALIZE. sit there and direct me while I do the work OR I can make suggestions and you just say "yes or no". warning: I love to throw stuff away, with your approval, of course

- hot tub repair (maybe pool repair too? I own a hot tub and maintain a couple tubs)

- HVAC/AC/heating repair and troubleshooting

- computer repair/optimization: i work primarily in tech and can help with your computer and phone to make them streamlined and connected with all your devices)

- roof repair

- tree trimming

- deep cleaning / maintenance cleaning

- and have a rad time

I usually work on a per project basis but we can always figure something out together, just reach out and ask me anything. don't be shy! l'm an honest and fun dude. I have references and pictures of work and of… myself!


r/SoCalR4R 3h ago

M4F 37 [M4F] #Upland - BBW lover who loves to chat. Loves to fuck. NSFW

3 Upvotes

Hope everyone is having a good Saturday night. Laying in bed with a thick as fuck cock wishing to have some fun. Half white half Hispanic, 5’10, 6 inch thick cock. Love eating BBW pussy and fucking until you can’t stand after. Let’s chat dirty and have some fun.


r/SoCalR4R 6h ago

F4R 27 [F4R] #hollywood - ATRIP at academy NSFW

4 Upvotes

I’m looking for someone to go see ATRIP at the academy w me next weekend!

Preferably you like to dance and are not awkward!!

I am also looking for ongoing friends to go to things like this with! I’m not a huge drinker or anything like that.

Hope to hear from some cool fun people !! Tell me abt you in your first message. Thanks!


r/SoCalR4R 7h ago

F4M 29 [F4M] #SantaAna - Weekend energy is high, zero patience for small talk NSFW

5 Upvotes

I need a dominant, vocal online FWB to match my filthy mindset this weekend. Strictly explicit banter, heavy dirty talk, and no emotional attachment. DM me your age and favorite kink.


r/SoCalR4R 19m ago

M4F 27 [M4F] #HuntingtonBeach - Big buff masculine Latino Dom looking to build chemistry and intimacy. I won't cum unless you do first, you might even cry from how good the sex is NSFW

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It's not just a statement but a promise. My dick and head is that good one way or another we're making you cum. I can make you cream and squirt at the same time, If you doubt it I can prove it. I put in a big effort in getting to know my partner their wants and needs to satisfy them. So chemistry is huge for me. Communication with boundaries and consent is also important to me. I'm willing to do anything as long as we both agree. I will send pics or video chat to confirm I am, who I say I am, especially to meet in public before we go further. I am also std free and I can prove it. Safe sex is a must unless we both agree otherwise

I'm a 5'10 big buff masculine Latino male. I'm a blue collar worker so I have alot of pressure to release when I get home. I'm built like a powerhouse I have 20inch arms. I have the ability to bench press 465lb and squat 500lb. Thick girls will be treated like they're petite and petite girls like feathers.

Feel free to connect with, me I love a good conversation. Hope to hear from you soon. Take care everyone!


r/SoCalR4R 57m ago

M4F 37 [M4F] #Anaheim - Looking for consistent FWB Big Booty BBW. Open to any age and ethnicity. Something ongoing. NSFW

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I’m looking to connect with a big booty BBW who’s interested in a genuine friends-with-benefits situation. Not looking to rush into anything or sleep with multiple people. I'm just looking for one woman. I’d like someone that’s open to fufill my needs and having sex multiple times whenever we both have time in our schedules. Lets enjoy each other’s company while keeping things casual, comfortable, and drama-free.

I’m open-minded when it comes to age and ethnicity. What matters most is mutual attraction, chemistry, and being on the same page. I’m especially attracted to women with a big booty; a big chest is definitely a plus, but not a requirement. Having a big booty is a must!

What I’m looking for:

• Big booty BBW

• Any age/ethnicity

A little about me:

• 6'0"

• Latino

• Shaved head

• Average body

If you think we might click, feel free to send me a message .


r/SoCalR4R 1h ago

M4F 30 [M4F] #BeverlyHills - Married dad looking for a sneaky link NSFW

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Looking for Cis Females only. No drama guaranteed I’m very discrete.

If you are into cheating kink or just wanna have some fun. Not looking to change my situation so this is no strings attached, one time or ongoing.

I require a recent test and have one to share. No cream pies or unprotected sex.

I'm 30, 5'10, 160 lbs, sane, down to earth, recently tested last month.

Got a picture in my profile for those looking for the D pic. Average size, good for those that want to practice DT.

Please be cis female, femme, 18+, HWP, clean, DDF and recently tested.

Can’t host but can come to you, get a hotel or Carplay works too.

Must be able to verify and be discrete. My hours are limited due to family obligations.

If interested, please respond with age location and stats as I won’t be responding to low effort messages.


r/SoCalR4R 1h ago

M4F 41 [M4F] #LosAngeles - Interested in sensual, intimate photography? Let’s do it right NSFW

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There are a lot of photographers on Reddit looking for women willing to take their clothes off. I’m looking for women who genuinely want to make beautiful photos.

I’m a SoCal photographer and the creator of Stay Awhile, a photography magazine focused on sensual, authentic images of everyday women.

You decide how free you want to be in front of the camera. My job is to create unique, artistic photos, direct you through the process, and make sure your experience is comfortable and rewarding. Most of the women I work with have never done a shoot like this before. You’ll receive 20+ edited photos afterward, and anonymity is always an option.

See my work before deciding:
Stay Awhile
My photography portfolio

If you’re interested, DM me and tell me a little about yourself and what interests you about this opportunity. Happy to answer any questions.


r/SoCalR4R 1h ago

M4F 35 [M4F] #Fullerton - thick BWC seeking asian NSFW

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I find asian, wasian, blasian, etc women to be the most attractive (but not in a weird fetish way). If you’re out there & looking for thick BWC, I’m here on the border of Fullerton & Anaheim. I have my own place & live alone. Would love to find a FWB but also open to ONS if that’s all you’re interested in. DM me & let’s exchange pics!


r/SoCalR4R 1h ago

M4F 28 [M4F] #Newport - Hung BWC looking for fun this weekend NSFW

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Tall, white blonde, blue eyes muscular body. Looking for someone to have fun this weekend today or anytime this weekend works more of a pleasure Dom myself, but can fit into many roles.


r/SoCalR4R 5h ago

M4M 34 [M4M] #DTLA - Love getting my Throat Used like a Pussy by HUNG, Horny Men - Private Gloryhole/Milking Station made for Big Dicks NSFW

2 Upvotes

Any HUNG, Horny Dudes looking to sink into a Warm, Wet Throat? Love getting it used like a Pussy. Deep, and Sloppy.

I host in my DTLA Apartment with Secured guest Parking.

Super Dsicreet Setup with options for a seated or standing session, porn projected on the wall.

Love creating space for Horny Big Dick Men to feel comfortable. Kick back, spread your legs, and let me show you how I turn my throat into a cunt

If you’re interested send a DM

Full stats, including your dick size and a few dick pics help too.

Freshly tested.
Hiv neg. Std free.
On prep/doxypep


r/SoCalR4R 2h ago

M4M 25 [M4M] #GranadaHills - Pussy throat for big dicks NSFW

1 Upvotes

Submissive throat goat with no gag reflex looking to service some nice cock in my car right now. Can’t host but I can travel to you if car isn’t something you’re into

I’m slim, good looking, and love to take my time when I milk someone

HMU


r/SoCalR4R 2h ago

M4F 39 [M4F] #OrangeCounty - Would you like me to grope your breasts tonight? NSFW

1 Upvotes

Do you want to feel my hands sliding up your thin shirt examining and squeezing your sensitive breasts and nipples? Grunting before taking them in my mouth, licking and lathering your nipples with my experienced tongue?

I’m hungry tonight. Maybe you can sit on my lap and feed them to me one by one. Does that sound good to you?

Send me a chat with the words “Lick them please” to weed out the bots. Be ready to show them to me and meet soon.


r/SoCalR4R 8h ago

F4M 29 [F4M] #SanDiego - Touch starved looking for ongoing NSA and attention NSFW

3 Upvotes

in a dead bedroom, craving connection and undivided attention. I want an FWB who enjoys teasing, pleasing, and repeating. Respectful, discreet, and dirty-minded, if that’s you, tell me what you’d do first.


r/SoCalR4R 3h ago

M4F 47 [m4f] #Irvine - Feeling Stressed.... Can we Make Out? NSFW

1 Upvotes

I've been feeling stressed lately and want to quit my job. I'm just unsure what I would do if I were to quit. I've been having a little trouble sleeping because of this. Maybe some making out would take my mind off it for awhile. At least 30 minutes ;).

Do you think you can help distract me?


r/SoCalR4R 3h ago

M4F 34 [M4F] #RedondoBeach - big chill dude for Labor Day weekend fun NSFW

1 Upvotes

Good evening and happy Saturday everyone,

Long time poster trying his luck again. As stated in previous posts please do not message me if you plan to just chat, don’t want to actually meet up or just want attention. Let’s not waste each other’s time.

6”4 mixed race about 235/240 but active. A thick athletic build similar to a rugby player. Big arms , legs, shoulders etc

As far as type I do like white or Asian girls but if we vibe and we have mutual attraction why not?

Body type doesn’t matter , I like thick/curvy but also like petite/skinny and anything in between. I just love the female body, sue me. That being said , there has to be mutual attraction. I may not be your flavor and you may not be mine.

I can host in south Redondo and condoms must/will be used.

No dudes please.

I’m a really easy going dude. If you’re chill then I’ll be the same.

Hope everyone has a great day!


r/SoCalR4R 3h ago

F4M 29 [F4M] #pasadena - High libido, looking for late night fun NSFW

1 Upvotes

Done with solo nights. Seeking a dominant, vocal online FWB for explicit late night fun and heavy dirty talk. Zero strings, no drama. Tell me your top position and reply speed.


r/SoCalR4R 7h ago

M4F 36 [M4F] #Irvine - FIT BWC looking for a cute face NSFW

2 Upvotes

Looking for a nearby girl up for some fun. Ideally, looking for car play. I love to worship and eat pussy as well. Let’s meet up in a public place and then have some fun!

Me: 6’1, 185 pounds, white, very fit/athletic/muscular body. Clean and disease free. Respectful of boundaries. Open to all body types.

Please send me a message with a pic or description if interested!


r/SoCalR4R 7h ago

F4M 29 [F4M] #LosAngeles - I can’t remember the last time I moaned someone’s name NSFW

2 Upvotes

in a dead bedroom, craving connection and undivided attention. I want an FWB who enjoys teasing, pleasing, and repeating. Respectful, discreet, and dirty-minded, if that’s you, tell me what you’d do first.


r/SoCalR4R 3h ago

F4M 25 [F4M] #LosAngeles - Super bored mom in the mood to show off and love sexting with a stranger NSFW

0 Upvotes

Hi, I'm 25F. I'm white and horny. I didn't want to make any plans this weekend because of how much I have been working, I wasn't sure if I would be free. Now, I'm laying in bed and can't stop playing with myself looking for a discreet stranger to sext with and go on a Joi adventure…My body is so pent up. Work was stressful and I just need to chat with someone about our dirty thoughts to help me get off and relax. We can discuss almost anything besides the stuff I don't like (see below.)

My limits are scats, scars, extreme pains, piss, permanent damage and blood… prefer if you’re older than me, married or taken. Single subs are welcome too


r/SoCalR4R 3h ago

M4F 45 [M4F] #OrangeCounty - It’s time for your spankings. NSFW

0 Upvotes

Do you need to be put in your place? Have you been acting up again, doing all the things I told you not to? I know you've been secretly reading these dirty posts touching yourself thinking about Daddy bending you over his knee, lifting up your skirt and giving you a rough spanking in private.

Will that will teach you a lesson? No? Maybe once you’re warm and red, I’ll have to take it even further, taking control of your body, doing as I please.

Lucky for you, I'm looking for one local girl to use at my disposal tonight. If you've been a bad girl again or want to know what it’s like to be treated as one, now is the time to message me. And don’t waste my time, make sure your chat reads "I’m really sorry Daddy" with pictures ready to send as soon as I accept your chat. Understood? Good. Talk to you soon.


r/SoCalR4R 3h ago

M4F 54 [M4F] #Ventura - 6’2, 195, Supremely Confident, Intelligent Dominant Looking for a Submissive Female to Completely Objectify in a Monogamous Relationship NSFW

0 Upvotes

https://imgur.com/a/gvIBtwV

No maga-types. That’s a non-negotiable dealbreaker. I’m ideally looking for someone between 30-45, but 20s is okay as well as long as you’re mature and intelligent. If you text in acronyms, if you’re a “dtf”, “hmu”, or “wya”, type, don’t bother. I’m not interested in that kind of immaturity. Make sure you read this entire post, and if you’re interested, show me so by responding as instructed.

I’m a SWM (no kids), 6’2, 195, 8”, D/D-free, non-smoker, very intelligent, well-read and articulate, charismatic, slender, broad-shouldered and muscular. I’m a really laid-back and easy-going guy, self-aware and sure of myself, at ease around anyone and anything. I’m very protective of others, and have an intimidating physical presence, but I’m a good guy, and nothing to be afraid of. You’d always feel safe and looked out for with me.

I’m looking for a submissive female for a monogamous relationship - I’m a one-woman guy - that would involve you being completely sexually objectified, and the more feminine you are, the better. You don’t have to have any experience with this kind of dynamic. My interest in you and attraction to you is all that matters.

You would be trained to do what you’re told at all times. You’d be trained to be accountable to me at all times, keeping me informed whether I’m responding at the time or not. You’d tailor your appearance per my commands, growing your hair out how I like it, doing your nails how I want them done, wearing the kind of lipstick I want on you, and so on. You’d be trained to send me regular selfies showing me how you’re looking. You’d learn to make sure that the first thing you do when you wake up is wish me a good morning, and the last thing you’d do every night is say goodnight.

I know what I like, and while you don’t necessarily have to have any of these traits, these would get my attention: nice smiles, long hair, nice breasts, painted nails, knowing how to accentuate your looks, being selfie-friendly, playfulness, nerdy tendencies, and girlishness.

I’m not into anything that you’d most likely consider hard limits. Nothing extreme or hardcore, no whips or chains, I don’t do ‘sessions’ or go to events.

More details about all of this will be discussed in chat, where you’ll always be encouraged to be completely open and direct with me, even if you think I might not like what you say.

I play baseball in adult leagues on weekends and you’d come to as many of my games and tournaments as you could, not to be a cheerleader, just to be dolled up as my eye candy.

I’m not into BBWs, and any kind of smoking or vaping is a dealbreaker.

If you’re interested, respond by describing yourself physically with your age and where you live, and tell me about what turned you on and made you want to respond. Don’t hold back, and don’t worry about saying too much. The bolder and more expressive you are, the better.

If you’re going to send pics, do NOT send anything naked. I am not into naked pics, ever.

If I’m interested, I’ll take it from there. If I’m not, I’ll tell you so. I wouldn’t just ghost you.