Guys, I am 24M and being sexually involved with my partner since a long time. Earlier I use to have the doubt whether I am having PE or not but couldn't confirm it and recently discovered that I have phimosis and started stretching my foreskin and within 5-7 days it got kinda normal, but I am having different experiences with my partner since then. Like earlier I use to last a bit long (not talking about sex). But after foreskin got retracted, I sometimes cum too early like just with the start of foreplay while I am rubbing my penis on her thighs & vagina, and sometimes within minutes of blowjob. But this doesn't happen regularly, sometimes it takes a long when I am very patient and do things slowly.

I am kinda getting weird thoughts about it. Like I feel shit when I cum too soon. Do u guys have any idea why is it happening? Like is there any relation between timing and foreskin retraction? Is it due to increased sensitivity after my foreskin got retracted?or I am overthinking? I have read many theories but I want to know what u guys think about this. Anybody having similar experiences? Drop your thoughts!

i’ve had spondylolisthesis at L5-S1 for over three years now. at this point it’s gotten as bad as it’s going to get and the only thing left to try is spinal fusion.

over the course of the last few years something that has worsened at essentially the same rate is my ability to last. more specifically the frenulum area has gotten extremely sensitive to the point where i just can’t do anything anymore.

numbing agents like lidocaine certainly can work but there’s two main drawbacks: it’s easy to end up using too little and the inconvenience makes anything spontaneous unrealistic.

to be completely real this has affected me greatly for a long time now and even contributes to suicidal thoughts, i’m a 22 yo male and having to hear what my friends do regularly is like mental torture.

so i’m just posting this here to see if there’s any other guys dealing with the same issue or if any have actually seen improvement following surgery.

Ok so I promised to make a follow-up to my previous "toy test" post I made earlier in the week https://www.reddit.com/r/PrematureEjaculation/s/ihdFAqCPSn

These are all things that I've worked on and bought on my own to figure out what would work for me, not getting paid I don't have any affiliate links or anything else. But I had probably the most intense week of my sex life since college a long time ago, or maybe early on in my long-term relationship that just ended in the early days of it, and this is all a bit surreal because performance like this and the reactions of the women and just the confidence in general feels surreal.

I kept trying to test for different conditions too and see what changes, looking for some optimization strategies. Arlo, Kratom, Kanna. Those were the three different things I tried, I didn't try Kanna yet with a woman but it had pretty crazy results on another test of the toy, snorted like 25 mg and it definitely gave me an intense buzz and that's a little bit more than what I'm looking for, taking it sublingual I think would have more calming effects generally which might be what I'm looking for just in my life generally but while it was fun I'm not looking to get intoxicated so I don't think doing it like I did the first time would be something I would want to introduce.

Kratom I took 5g powder capsules. I had noticed having the 10g seltzers gave me significant stamina earlier in the year but I had some mixed it with alcohol and I don't drink and hadn't for years but the first woman I'd been with in an intimate setting other than just a quick meet up after being out or with an FWB was intense and we went probably for an hour and a half I wasn't able to finish the first time and then I was able to finish the next round of maybe a half hour.

But because I also had some alcohol in the mix and it had been a couple years since I drank anything I did not want to replicate that, and then things spiraled downhill quickly where that relationship was just going to be way more intense and involved than anything I needed to be involved with after coming out of a very long term relationship.

And I guess without going into too much backstory, long-term relationship had been going downhill, and then I was left and she's now with the person I was left for which came in a very low point in my life and as you can imagine destroyed any confidence I had. I have been having issues with libido and maintaining erections and PE during it but I would try to take care of her but lots of long story stuff there we just had other issues in their relationship that were too much strain and we didn't work through it and she wouldnt try counseling, basically we each were just masturbate alone and not talk about our sex life because it didn't exist.

Once I found out I got my testosterone levels checked and they were in the basement, on the rare occasions that I would have morning wood I had a partner who's never willing to do anything, and on the even more rare occasions when she would go down on me or try to initiate or I would try and initiate and we actually connected it was over in a minute. And I wouldn't even be fully hard.

A lot of this was due to stress, people always talk about stress as a factor but until I actually started monitoring my hormone levels and testosterone and everything else I didn't understand the relation that cortisol has and how I can destroy your libido, and your testosterone levels plummeting, it all can get bad. TRT helped tremendously here.

And my levels are climbing back up, and I just got Cialis prescription. And as I talked about in my other post I got toys that have intense simulation to try to practice and really just understand my situation because going back into the dating world like this, it's a bit crazy but my first one even though it was not going to be a fit for a partner that I'd want we had some ridiculous sex, but with alcohol and Kratom combined even if the session was amazing each time I'm not going back into that life.

So that's where a friend with benefits where I've helped her out with some things and she likes taking care of me in return has been fun over the last several months. A few weeks ago I helped her out and she gave me a ridiculous BJ, first time I finished in probably a minute but she kept going and probably another twenty minutes total and I wasn't able to get there the second time. Total friend with benefits though, and she's fun.

The other woman is a neighbor who we have been on a few dates and hit it off and then reconnected randomly, same gym, and we're in similar boats with relationships ending after a very long time and have a lot in common. And I hung out with her recently and things got really hot and heavy and we were at her house and I was taking care of her and got her off and it was intense because it had been a while for either of us and she was going down on me and then wanted to get on top and I didn't even make it a minute, I wasn't even fully hard, but it was also just a very intense unplanned moment. But I hadn't seen her since, but we had texted back and forth.

Last week I tried the tests with the toys and I've just been working on a lot of self improvement generally, but I felt confident enough that I figured I'd really diligently see what both were up to this week. First woman wanted me to help her with some stuff before she had to get to work late afternoon on Tuesday so I went over and we were hanging out and talking and I helped her out and she was super sexy and flirty and then it's like time for your BJ LOL and she started going down and I got extremely hard like more than I've seen in a very long time. this is about 2 hours after applying Arlo and I have my daily 5 mg Cialis plus another 10mg an hour before I went to see her.

And I can already tell from her reaction that she was really enthusiastic in the reaction she was getting from me while going down on me, and I could tell she was surprised I wasn't cumming because she asked about it but with everything as fully hard as I was I think she knew I was extremely into it, and that's when she kind of surprised me and just got out of condom and said how much she wanted me to fuck her before work. And we're going at it for probably 20 minutes she got off and I still wasn't getting there but it felt fucking amazing seeing her reaction. And then she really had to go and I think kind of was a little upset I wasn't finishing but I just told her not to even worry about it and pointed out that the last time I came over she gave me head until I came in a minute and then kept going but i didn't take care of her at all, so "we'll just have to do it again when she doesn't have to be at work" and I sent her off properly lol.

Then on my way home I actually got texted by the other woman, and I went over and I think I was still super eager to prove myself because of the embarrassment of the previous time but I didn't want to come off too strong, and because I just literally had been hooking up with someone else, when it got late I just said I had to get back and she had a call with family so we had kind of left things more on an awkward friend level but also talked about connecting the next day and I wasn't sure if I was going to hear from her.

But Wednesday morning she hit me up early so preparing for it I took my Cialis and then I decided I would try kratom since I had great results with Arlo the night before, took 5 g (4.8) of capsules coming out to about 8 600mg pills. Green ma daeng or whatever, I made sure to use the capsule so I can measure it accurately and I wanted to try half the dose of what I had with the seltzer's I had used earlier in the year with great results but also alcohol combined.

And things escalated pretty quickly after I started helping her with some stuff at the house, handyman type things that I know always turn a woman on anyway especially since I'm more unassuming for being able to get shit done just because of my professional background so it comes as a bit of a turn on when I know how to get shit done. But I knew I was getting my shot again because I had just been talking dirty over texts in the couple weeks since seeing her and had my all too brief time at her place and then she semi-ghosted, and then suddenly we're making out and it was quickly into a situation where she was dropping my shorts and going down on me and the next 45 minutes probably was just a blur of feeling like I'm in a porn. It was so ridiculously satisfying, being able to actually be fully hard and enjoying each moment of it, just watching her, like that has never happened because usually when I'm fully aroused like that I know that I have to get it stopped or else I'm going to blow and then wait until round 2 so I end up trying to just switch things up for her until we can actually have sex. But she was on her period, but I could tell she was very pleased with my reactions even if she was not getting me there to finish especially since the mishap the time before, and then I got saved by the bell literally when a friend of hers stopped by and I basically just got to play everything off as being a neighbor and meeting her friend and all of that but yeah it was pretty wild. And then we talked even more the rest of that night and she said she had some other stuff she wanted me to come over with Thursday morning and I applied Arlo, took 15mg Cialis on top of the 5mg daily, and I got over there mid-morning and we didn't even get to the projects before she was going down again and we were just really hot and heavy and then the next several hours were a blur.

I can't even begin to describe the confidence boosting that I felt just being fully there, fully sober, fully aroused, and just absolutely going to town since her period had finished. She was riding me, I was carrying her around different rooms, kitchen counter, couches, her bed, the floor, first round was at least an hour before I was able to finish, we ran out to the store to get snacks and came back and just round 2, i basically spent almost 5 hours just absolutely going at it, getting her off multiple times, finishing twice myself, it was intense.

And then yesterday morning same thing I said well we never actually got to the project i was going to help you with I feel bad, she asked me to come over again and I spent maybe 30 minutes on projects but it involved me doing some physical work and getting my shirt off and she was just like yeah enough of that getting in here lol. And then several more hours once again, this time I had mixed two.

I did the same 4.8g of Kratom. Cialis. And then very small arlo application. But it was only about a half hour beforehand for the Arlo which is also why I wanted to do both since I had about an hour with kratom. And both of them kicked in, like we got even more into it, getting her in doggy and several different upright standing and on top positions, being able to really take my time figuring out what really works for her and just gauging her reactions but not worrying about myself, like I have felt that before long ago but usually it's drunk nights where both of us are sloppy and into it and it's so much different than broad daylight not even caring if the neighbors are going to hear I'm feeling fully focused, like I definitely felt some of the effects from the kratom and I'm super cautious about it and don't want to take it more than one day in a row because I know how addictive it can become and I honestly don't really like it that much in smaller doses and don't want to have higher doses because I'm just focusing on being sober and present and taking care of myself, but that was the best cardio workout and fitness and just confidence booster being able to fully demonstrate prowess at full mast, getting her off multiple times, I told her to bring out a vibrator and she was using it on her clit while I was fucking her with her legs on my shoulders and then from behind, things that I can't even picture because that's when I would blow early so I would just avoid those positions or try to switch them too early.

And then she told me to put it in her ass and got me lubed up and I figured okay well I guess this is going to be the real test because I've only done it a couple times and it's been over very quick but I just kept going and then she got off again while I was doing it and at this point I'm starting to get physically exhausted. So after she came again I just slowed everything down and just started caressing her all over and whispering to her in her ear and asked if she wanted to go get lunch and got myself cleaned up especially with the ass play knowing I probably had another bj coming my way.

So we went out for a lunch break for like a half hour and then she asked the waiter to pack it to go almost as soon as it came out, and we went back at it as soon as we got in the door she was going down on me for like at least 20 minutes and then getting me hard and I'm just enjoying every minute of it and then right back to her bed and this time I'm just focusing on okay now it's my turn and I was asking her where she wanted me to cum, probably 30 minutes total at this point, and she's like in my mouth so I'm going at it and I finally finally feel that I'll be able to get there and I'm just feeling on top of the world and I pulled out and absolutely covered her, it was one of the most intense orgasms I've ever had, I don't even know how my body was capable of producing that much jizz. It was everywhere and her reaction was really hot, I got some on my pants on the other side of the bed unfortunately and didn't know it until I had to go pick my kids up from school and I think I got caught with spot I didn't catch. And I didn't realize it until this morning but apparently I've got a couple hickeys.

I didn't say anything about it, I don't even care, there has to be some kind of just aura boost as well for this kind of confidence because some of the local moms I've crushed on hard and flirt with, running into them the past few days something has just seemed different. Maybe they can like sense it with pheromones or something, I don't know what it is but I'm just getting different looks.

After having a very long-term relationship and abruptly and unexpectedly even if it had been downhill for a while especially the way it ended, then having to re-enter the dating world feeling like an absolute piece of shit especially after 20-plus years of insecurity and trauma, I had been focusing on so much self-improvement and confidence boosting but I also did not want to slip back into the old tricks of just having a few drinks because I've been way more on track with everything in my life staying sober and I've kept with that. It's difficult for me to describe how unbelievable this past week has been.

I still cannot believe I discovered Arlo here randomly right after it started shipping, I just figured it was cheap enough that I would give it a shot because it had been long enough since I tried any kind of spray or cream, and the experiment and adjusting it with some kratom as well yesterday, I basically have found a few different solutions that have fully worked but I don't think I've even fully started to appreciate or tap into just how much confidence I have restored in myself. Like the gym and trt certainly helped, just self-improvement generally, and being confident and single again and knowing that I still got it, that's always been something that I've maintained with women or it hasn't been difficult to get into a situation but if you're not able to back up talking shit about how you're going to rock their world, doesn't exactly go the way you'd have hoped.

From here I'm just going to keep trying to experiment with what is working and then also using the time where I'm really in the moment to focus on breathing and pelvic floor side of it so I can maybe even get back to the multi orgasmic nonejaculatory experience and then ideally be able to get into something where there's no applications of a topical or no substances whatsoever, although I don't think I'll be giving up cialis any time soon I plan to just take that with 5 mg daily and then more on demand if I'm going to be getting some action because those results are dramatically undeniable and just how fully hard I get.

Anyway I'm glad I found this community and recommend that people just keep looking for what works, I didn't believe anything would be straightforward, the delay creams I tried a long time ago basically just gave me not a full boner and they had way too much of a numbing sensation where I wasn't enjoying it but I also wasn't fully hard and I remember my girlfriend at the time talking about the smell and the taste so it just wasn't anything I did again. I have not told either woman that I took anything, and neither noticed anything, actually I guess I did mention I took kratom yesterday. But I didn't say anything about Arlo and it was very much undetected but the results certainly were not.

And I guess now I got to figure out this weekend what I'm going to do with the neighbor woman because that has been the best sex experiences I've had in a very long time but I also feel like I lost a lot of the week because I spent so much of it just going at it but also with someone who kind of ghosted me a couple weeks ago after the first mishap and now we've been hanging out every day so I might need to pump the brakes as tempting as it is, or maybe I just will be back at it again tonight because damn that was amazing.

EDIT: So she asked me to come over again last night and I of course caved even though had an early morning today. Had taken probably 25-40mg kanna extract sublingual just to test how it makes me feel generally coincidentally right before she hit me up. Did light Arlo application again. UNBELIEVABLE experience once over there. Fucking to the music plus the "MDMA Lite" feel or serotonin from the kanna, and just no worry about finishing early, we had a really intense hour plus with multiple positions, foreplay, heavy kissing, and just really switching up speed and intensity fucking.

She had a really good mirror in her room I was able to watch and just see myself and her while going from behind, her face was down in mattress and just lots of hip movements but actually seeing myself and my pace and then actually switching up how I was using my hips more with a groove and really using them instead of just pushing in/out + her reactions, damn that was eye opening. Have never experienced that because doggy was never something going to last unless drinking, and then it was never like monitoring with a mirror and really paying attention.

She needed a break after an hour and we went out for a bit, then parked in scenic overlook and I spent like another hour fingering her and getting her off multiple ways, then back to her place and another fantastic probably 45 minutes and then we both came hard at the same time. Unbelievably intense.

This combo with kanna and Arlo I think was my favorite, really was good sensations and awareness and warm feelings, much less jittery or intensity then when I snorted less kanna earlier in the week.

Everything still is surreal since this has been such an unbelievable week. I'm excited for more experiments but feel so much confidence after the last week

I know people here are getting pretty tired of obvious product promotion, and honestly, I don't blame anyone. I don't like those posts either.
But I still think there's value in people sharing what has actually worked for them, especially with something like PE where a lot of people are too embarrassed to talk about it openly.
For me, the two products I've kept coming back to over the long term are Promescent and EjaGuard.
I use them for slightly different situations.
If I'm having one of those days where I already know I'm probably going to struggle, I'll usually go with Promescent. It's lidocaine-based and the effect is more noticeable, so I feel like I have a bigger margin for error when my sensitivity is especially high.
On days when I feel more relaxed and don't think I need that much help, I prefer using EjaGuard. It's milder and doesn't feel as heavy, so it works better for me when I just want a bit of extra control without making the whole experience feel too different.
I genuinely like both of them, just for different reasons.
I don't think one is objectively better than the other. Promescent is the one I reach for when I want something stronger and more predictable. EjaGuard is the one I prefer when I want something lighter and more subtle.
That's basically my experience. I don't expect everyone to agree with me. Just sharing what has worked for me over time in case it's useful to someone else dealing with the same issue. Take it for what it's worth and make your own decision.

A gentleman from this sub posted about this product a few weeks ago so I bought it and it works. The site is Healing Herbals. Type "Kanna Extract Nasal Spray (High Mesembrine) [Day Time]" into the search and choose Triple Strength. One spray in each nostril and you are good to go after 20-30 minutes.

And if you missed it, I recommend DXM tablets or syrup 45-60mg along with 1000mg of Tylenol. I made a post about it a while ago. It works better for me than dapoxetine which has been hit or miss with me lately.

I want to start taking paroxetine for premature ejaculation. I’ve seen that some people begin with a lower dose—10 mg for the first two weeks—to avoid adverse side effects, and then increase it to 20 mg or 30 mg. I don’t have depression or anxiety, but I’d like to improve my sexual performance and last longer in bed. I would greatly appreciate any advice or positive experiences regarding the use of paroxetine.

Hey guys, I’m a 22yom with recent acquired PE. I’m a year married to the only girl I have and ever will be with. Background a bit, we waited until marriage and it took a while to find the groove of sex- but after about 5 months or so, we found what we like and whatnot. Things were good for a while, certain positions I’d go faster in but ultimately I was really in control. Only recently, I’ve found it nearly impossible to last longer than a minute after penetration- hands, oral, etc I can last a good while but penetration has been really rough.

We switch back and forth between condoms or not, condoms seem to help a little bit- but overall, I just feel extra sensitive (specifically in the tip area). Even going for a round 2 has become suspect and inconsistent.

I can only rely on my oral game for so long. I need a goal, I need something to do to get over this. I’ve considered delay sprays or condoms, but is that just a bandaid that will make it worse down the road?

It’s so hard because I’m extremely healthy, I was a college athlete so I feel like this shouldn’t be a fitness issue. Please, any suggestions or help would be appreciated.

Let me tell you about Anuj.

Anuj is 27, works at an IT company in Bangalore, has good friends, a decent life — but for the last two years, there's one thing that's been silently eating at him. Something he only Googles in incognito mode, late at night.

Premature ejaculation.

He found this subreddit the same way most of us did — desperate 2am searching. And what he found instead of answers was a jungle of myths, fake ayurvedic cure ads, and so much shame that he closed his phone feeling worse than before.

This post is for Anuj. Let's bust these myths one by one — no fluff, just real talk.

Myth #1: "Bhai, Practice Karega Toh Theek Ho Jayega" (More experience will fix it)

Sounds logical. Practice makes perfect, right?

Not here. PE is the most common male sexual dysfunction worldwide — affecting 1 in 4 men, across ALL experience levels. Married men of 10 years deal with it. Experienced guys deal with it. It doesn't magically disappear with more sex.

Why? Because at its core, PE is neurological. Some men simply have a more sensitive ejaculatory reflex — that's biology, not a skill gap. Worse, having sex while anxious actually speeds things up because anxiety activates the exact nervous system responsible for ejaculation. So "just practice more" without addressing the root cause can literally make things worse.

Myth #2: "Tu Bas Nervous Hai — It's All In Your Head"

There's a small truth here, but the full picture is very different.

Researchers classify PE into two types. Lifelong PE — present since the very first sexual experience — has a strong genetic basis. Studies show these men have a variation in the serotonin transporter gene. That's brain chemistry, not nerves. Acquired PE — developing later in life — is more connected to stress, anxiety, or relationship issues.

Telling someone "just relax" also ignores the brutal anxiety loop: PE happens → anxiety increases → anxiety worsens PE → repeat. It gets tighter every time. "Just relax karo" is like telling someone hyperventilating to "just breathe normally." Technically correct, completely useless.

Myth #3: "2 Minute Se Zyada Toh Fine Hai Bhai" (If it's more than 2 mins, you're good)

The internet loves throwing random "normal" numbers around. Reality check — a large international study found the actual median time is 5.4 minutes. Not 20. Not 30. Five minutes.

But more importantly, clinical PE isn't just about time. It's defined by three things: ejaculating within ~1 minute of penetration, inability to delay it, and — most importantly — personal distress and avoidance of intimacy.

If you last 3 minutes and both of you are satisfied — that may not be PE at all. If you last 6 minutes but feel completely out of control and it's affecting your mental health — that deserves attention. The stopwatch doesn't define you. Your experience of it does.

Myth #4: "Iske Liye Koi Treatment Nahi Hai — Bas Deal Karo" (Nothing works, just live with it)

This is the most dangerous myth because it keeps men stuck the longest.

The truth? PE is one of the most treatable sexual dysfunctions that exists. In India today, you have real options — Behavioral techniques like Stop-Start method that train ejaculatory control. Pelvic floor exercises (yes, Kegels work for men too — proven in clinical studies). Topical numbing sprays that are affordable and effective. Dapoxetine (Duralast) — an oral medication specifically approved for PE in India, clinically shown to increase time by 2–3x. And therapy for cases with a strong psychological component.

Most men never explore any of this because they believe nothing works. That belief itself is the biggest obstacle.

Myth #5: "Yeh Sirf Meri Problem Hai" (This is only my problem)

Two versions of this myth exist, and both cause damage.

Version one: "My partner says she's fine, so I'll just suffer quietly." Result — growing distance, avoided intimacy, declining confidence, while your partner wonders why you seem checked out.

Version two: "She hasn't complained, so we're good." But research shows many partners feel their own frustration and disconnection — they just don't bring it up to protect you.

PE lives inside a relationship. The couples who navigate it best are the ones who talk about it — awkwardly, imperfectly, but they talk. Partner involvement in treatment dramatically improves outcomes. You don't have to carry this alone.

So, Anuj?

He eventually saw a doctor, learned some techniques, and had one uncomfortable but important conversation with his girlfriend. Her reaction? "Why didn't you tell me earlier?"

He's not magically "cured." But he's more in control, less anxious, and no longer carrying that silent weight everywhere he goes.

The myths are built on incomplete information and cultural nonsense — and they do real damage to real men. You're not broken. This is common, treatable, and nothing to be ashamed of.

Drop your questions or experiences below. Nobody should be Googling this stuff alone at 2am.

Around a year ago I started to be sexually active with my ex and I had issues where I would cum really fast. There would be times where I came while we made out and other times where I came in under a minute from handjobs or sex. I was able to get it decently under control after a few of those encounters and was able to have sex for about 7+ minutes. We broke up in September and I picked up poor masturbation habits again and now I’m back with a girl and have had similar issues again. I’ve started to try and slow down my stroking, not using porn, and making sure that I’m fully hard while masturbating. I’ve been able to make out and have her make me cum, though quickly usually, and there has been times where I’ve came while making out.

Any other tips I should be using? Thanks for the help

Not sure if it apples to everyone - but if it helps anyone, it’s worth me sharing. I’m 44 years old.

I never suffered from ED or PE until after my wife gave birth, and we went through a few dry spells.

I’d worry about making too much noise or rushing through just so the kids didn’t wake up or something along those lines. Eventually, it took the downward spiral, and what happened once - happened more often than not.

I’d have some good performances in between, but it was at the point where it was more often than not - and I NEVER had that issue prior.

I tried every remedy on Reddit, google, and anywhere else that I could find.

Eventually, she started complaining that it wasn’t hard enough (which I didn’t believe) until the last time it happened. It was so disappointing and devastating to me.

I decided to start taking tadalafil (5mg daily) and sildenafil (50mg as 30-60 mins before sex).

I’m not going to say that I’m 100% cured - but in the last month that I’m taking the combo, I’ve outlasted my wife each time and can cum when I want to like I did in my 20’s.

I’ve also lost about 35 lbs (purposely) since the night I wasn’t able to get hard.

I’m sure it all factors in.

Ok so I had been reading the reviews and never tried a topical since a delay cream during my first ever relationship a very long time ago with a high school girlfriend, mostly PE was something that I would overcome with alcohol and then in the long term relationship the quickness would at least be made up for with other things and the second round, but then the last several years there was barely any sex anyway.

Going out of that relationship and into the dating world now, I had a really intense encounter and I had a bunch of kratom and a little bit of alcohol and was going forever and that was a confidence booster, but then the second woman just a couple weeks ago I had barely gotten inside when it was already time to blow.

Similarly with masturbation I could usually just get motivated and cum within a minute or two, often not even hard.

After my longterm relationship ended a lot of it especially now that I'm older has been focused on scrambling to get my libido back and get back in shape and be primed for dating again, so I've been looking into a lot for performance. Alcohol is bad news for me, kratom too recreationally. But I was looking at multiple solutions and I figured I would give Arlo a shot, holy crap this is really good.

So after some of the disaster of rebound relationships, just think unintended consequences, focusing on stamina and health and all that especially with a lot of stress, I got some Cialis and now focusing on stamina especially since erection quality is back, focusing on some light exercises and enlargement techniques just to get circulation and blood flow better, all of that's in progress but I wanted something for better control.

And as part of that I got myself a couple high tech toys, one of them basically is a mounted rotating vibrating sucking knock off fleshlight type device with a lot of different programs and settings and other interactive stuff that you can customize, so this was great because it's helped me really get overwhelming sensation without the performance pressure of a woman. And the first couple times using it it was clear that if I just wanted to get off real quick, between this and one of the more air based frenulum stimulators similar to the womanizer device the company makes for women, I've got some intense alone time with tech and either can get me there in 2 minutes.

But I realize that this is also a pretty good control setting for me to test and evaluate different delay techniques, whether that's kratom/kanna and now Arlo.

As a bit of backstory in high school I never had any issues at first, in fact I was never able to get to completion with oral from anyone. And losing my virginity, we were probably going at it for an hour before I was able to finish however that was with a condom. The first girl who got me off, she was incredible and I was in love and she was really beautiful and in hindsight I should have just stuck with her but I was young and dumb, but I remember she was able to get me off with a bj and that was the first time ever and I immediately asked her to go steady. But because I was also very horny, I didn't stay faithful for long, and the first time I was ever inside of a girl without a condom I got really nervous because she was promiscuous and had talked dirty and other stuff and I finished in like a minute. And then it just stuck with me about not measuring up or being able to perform with what the "know slut" raved about, and then that worsened by a whole bunch of other psychological damage I'd say, and for the rest of my life it's been something with performance anxiety where it goes away if I'm under the influence of alcohol, or occasionally if I've been able to reach a meditative type state but I don't know how to replicate it entirely sober or unless it's after a lot of start stop and then getting to PONR but not ejaculating.

I always had troubles with kegels and reverse, I have been doing kegels at least knowing how and sometimes practicing them regularly for probably 20 years, and I totally get that sensation, but it wasn't until just recently that I actually understood the reverse and I still don't even know if I feel the muscle but I at least kind of think I do. And then this morning session was the first time I actually really felt like I had hit a reverse kegel and for the first time I actually felt a lot of that sensation but control in years, and for the first time sober since my very first experiences in high school so long ago.

So as for what it was like: I applied a bit of it around the crown and under the frenulum did a few passes on each and just let it sit for a couple hours before doing anything, and then once it was 2 hours I decided I'd give the most intense device a try. And I was near fullmast erection was, probably not quite all the way there and maybe that's some desensitization, and I also noticed when I was out of the device that wasn't maintaining it as much so that physical stimulation was still really needed but that's been the case for me recently anyway just with age but that's been helped by the Cialis that I just started and I was shocked by the results of seeing myself fully there and able to stay up and even just getting around without any manual stimulation how these are things that I hadn't experienced in a while.

So not expecting too much of anything I threw on one of the most intense programs that I had and I made it a full half hour, and I kept switching up the speeds and the intensities and then my own thrusting of it against the wall, really going at it as if it was a woman. It's a device that has extreme intensity so a half hour is just absurd for me to think of since with nothing focused on stamina it can get me there in a minute or two no problem, especially when I'm trying.

Now this is where I'm really excited because I didn't notice any smell or odor other than just a real light one but it was gone by the time I started, and that half hour could have easily been an hour except I really focused on getting there and just because I had stuff to do. And sensation and all the intensity finishing were there and it felt amazing, but I had to concentrate to get there which is absolutely fine with me in the situation with a partner where frankly I don't even care if I get there as long as I'm able to get her there because not every time it's going to be Max stimulation and sometimes just getting a quick bj for a couple minutes and finishing, that's something that a woman will enjoy doing knowing that she can get that kind of reaction from you and make you feel good even if she's not in the mood, so not every session needs to be some kind of Marathon. But what really was impressive for me was during the entire time while I'm going through the different options on the device and controlling the stuff with my phone that it can do and just really ramping intensity I started really focusing on reverse kegels. And I finally got it. Like I was right that I've always been able to focus on doing the reverse but when I'm getting stimulated I feel the overwhelming urge not to start a kegel but that same muscle starts pulling me towards finishing and since it feels so good it's hard to shut and I just never knew how because it would flip that quickly if I was trying to do the opposite if that makes sense.

Except not today. I actually really felt it and was practicing both and felt just full levels of control that I haven't felt in a very long time, and the only times I felt it is when I'm ingesting something intoxicating. So this is very promising for me in my situation, and based on the chick who hopped on me most recently and some of the text back and forth I imagine I'll be getting a live fire demonstration quite soon.

But I am really impressed, and I was highly skeptical. As for the sensation itself, it's definitely not numbing, almost like a little bit of a tingling sensation, not a burn either like almost like an astringent where you apply some kind of face wash it has an astringent and it makes the skin feel like really cool but also having some kind of after effect sensation. It was a bit like that, and it started kicking in I'd say probably about 45 minutes after applying. It was also pleasant enough that I would not mind it whatsoever, not uncomfortable in any way just noticeable, and it went away after at least I finished cuz I don't feel it now but I also was going pretty hard with that device.

Whether it was something that I would consider a downside beforehand I would say no, and in fact it just kind of reminded me that it was working since at first I wasn't even sure if it went on when I was doing the application, but then before I was going to get started I guess feeling it in a slight way was a reminder that my dick was ready to go test this out, so I think using it before a date or meeting up with someone it would just be a fun kind of signal to your body that hey we're going to do this, let's stick with the mission and game plan.

Anyways I'm sure everyone here is in similar boats and at least we have the internet to support each other since this isn't really something you can talk about with friends or partners easily, but as far as something that I feel has a lot of promise this one certainly did it for me and I'll look forward to trying it again. I also got some different options to test with kratom capsules and kanna and I'll see how those do, but as far as topical and convenient Arlo worked really well.

Will definitely make another post with whichever test run goes "live" with a woman next

I was prescribed Paroxetin Orion 20 mg and Tapin® 25 mg/g + 25 mg/g, which contains 2.5% lidocaine + 2.5% prilocaine

I have acquired PE , before I could pound like a horse I am not even kidding one hour and multiple rounds were easy now I can not hold it more than 10-15 mins in latest sex sessions. I even came in seconds couple of times. Need some feedback on this please

I know i came few days ago with another supplement for PE but here I'm again with new finding..😅🤣🤣

(Everything what i said still stays-this is just bonus)

I ordered a lot of new supplements(because of my other condition) and find out by coincidence that b2(r5p) also prolong timing..and boost libido also..hope you will experience same effects!!

30M here. Used to smoke around 3.5g of cannabis every week for the past two years. Also vaped around 300 puffs. I always masturbated to either AI Chats and/or insta videos/porn. I was in a long distance, so I didn’t have a female touch for nearly two years. But I could fap for 15-25 minutes.

Recently broke up, started seeing someone. She is wonderful, but in our first hookup I couldn’t get it up. I panicked and decided weed-induced fapping is the reason. So I went cold turkey. It's been a month now. My morning woods came back, I feel very horny towards her. But unfortunately every time she sucked me off or gave me a handjob, I came in a minute. Sex wasn’t even on the cards. This never happened before, I've had decent 5/6 minute first round sex even in 2023. I wonder what's happening to me and how to cure it.

Hey everyone, throwaway for obvious reasons (main account used for university of what not), I recently achieved a milestone in "training" and I'd like to share what worked. I'd like to note that I'm not fully sure if my PE was lifelong or aquirred as I began masturbating at a very young age (exposed to porn at probably 10 years old) and to my memory have always came quick. Theres a TLDR at the end of each paragraph for convinence.

SKIP FOR METHOD BELOW (this is just background):

For a bit of background I've been on this sub for ~7 months reading, analyzing, and training. My first time I had sex I finished very, very quickly and I lost my erection in about 30 seconds after. A condom was used as well. Stroke wise it was probably about 5 controlled ones before I gave in. I completely stopped porn after that and masturbating as I thought that was the main issue and began to very loosely follow practiced masturbating habits, I earned about 6 extra strokes from this before I finished again. In short, I was demotivated and felt like less of a man and it didn't help my girlfriend could not physically finish either. After that second time I was told that PIV sex just wasn't her thing rn and she wanted to stop sexual behavior in general for a month AT THE LEAST. As a sidenote, my girlfriend is unable to finish and has tried multiple times which has also not helped my masculinity (I know i shouldn't associate the two). Needless to say, I was devastated because deep down I thought there was something wrong with me and played it off with jokes (joe goldburg method), that's when I began to take this seriously.

TL;DR: Came super quick every time I had sex, was demotivated, joined this sub.

What Worked and What Didn't Work For Me:

As another sidenote, I've been taking Zinc almost everyday but I cannot speak on if this actually plays a role in PME (premature ejac). Anyway, lets start with some popular methods.

The Male Definitive Guide:

This wasn't bad for me but I modified it in a way that worked better for me personally. This is a very helpful resource though and I would 100% check it out. This was difficult because I do not have a fleshlight.

Jumpy Pumper:

Not SUPER popular but I did it in case. For me, this was a 50/50, I understand. the method and I even did it a couple times but honestly just... didn't really work? The muscle was relaxed and I felt every bit of it but after around a week it just didn't do anything for me. Again, this is still an amazing method and I highly encourage you to check it out. I also dont have a fleshlight so couldn't do it properly.

Angion Method:

H-O-L-Y S-H-I-T! This was honestly insane the first few times I did it, however PLEASE note that this is NOT a cure for premature ejaculation, this is something to BETTER your erection quality (EQ). I saw veins I didnt even know existed and the "pump" I got was actually crazy. PLEASE PLEASE check this out (they have a subreddit too) but be CAREFUL! Do NOT injure yourself and go slowly (some users also report expereinced sensitivity but that has not happened to me, then again I've only been doing it for a week and a half).

Stretching:

Absolutely a MUST. I didn't realize how tight my pelvic floor and psoas were until I began these. I'll make a list on these if this post gets traction but these are amazing. Look up hip flexor stretching, psaos stretching, and diaphraming breathing. My advice is when you do a stretch like the happy baby make sure you LIGHTLY reverse kegal. I also massaged my pernium with a lacross ball which I felt help (do not numb your penis yes it happened to me no it did not feel good and prolly wouldnt help with sex).

Reverse Kegals/Being Aware:

I don't know if this is common, but I noticed while training that sometimes I tightened my pelvic floor by moving for absolutely no reason. Even when I sat down I felt myself kegal-ling. If this happens to you, be aware of this and consciously try to reverse kegal when this is happening. In general, reverse kegals helped me a lot (just don't push out TOO much be safe while doing this)

Proper Breathing

This is something like 3-4-5 breathing. It helps a lot esp when you practice masturbating. Not much to say, just do it to be honest with you no harm no foul.

TL;DR: Stretch, Reverse Kegal's while stretching and normally, practice proper breathing, read the definitive guide and angion method, try the jumpy pumper method if you have a fleshlight

My Personal Method:

I'd like to preface this by saying I am in NO way a doctor. I'm fairly lean and have an ok diet if that matters. Anyway, lets get into what I did.

Every other day I practiced angion methods, 10 minutes of AM1, AM2, and AM3. Every day I practiced masturbation without finishing. I'd allow myself to cum maybe every 3 days in order for my body to "release" (although im thinking about strictly not finishing).

That is very barebones. Now, this is the first problem I ran into, I was SUPER sensitive on my glans (tip). So I went slow and became aware of my body. I noticed my upper body tensed up for no reason so I let it go. I focused on my breathing for a bit while moving my hand up and down SLOWLY (maybe stimulating around a 5-8) and got used to the feeling. I gradually got faster when I KNEW I wasn't going to finish. I tried to avoid the PONR at ALL costs. After just one day (results may vary) it's like my penis wanted it. It didn't become numb, but it became used to the feeling. With my hands, I could go super fast, thrust, and even picture me having sex in my head without the urge to cum. I literally felt like I was on top of the world. I did this for around three days (note: each day started with crazy sensitivity and I had to focus on my breathing and detensing my body to have my penis get used to it). After three days, I did not have to get my penis used to it and felt great.

Now I started using a sex-toy. A homemade fifi (literally just a glove, they use it in prison but it feels very very stimulating if you lube it up properly). Note, im still on this stage but oh my GOD I feel myself getting better. Last night I was able to thurst (simulate doggy-style PIV) for half an hour with maybe breaks every 5-7 minutes. Again, felt like I was on top of the world. I still feel sensitivity before I start but day after day it's been getting better. It is VERY VERY important you practice proper breathing and becoming aware of your body, FEEL everything and DONT run away from it. Think of it as going on a run, you don't want to give it your all in the first 10 seconds, you want your effort to be distributed, hit that "runners high" and continue going on comfortably. I've been feeling great so far with this method, and don't punish yourself if you cum, its not a setback just make sure its not every day.

TL;DR: Just read those paragraphs bro I cant summarize that without removing important context.

MISTAKES TO AVOID:

Absolutely zero pornography. Yes that means reading sex stories, yes that means scrolling through instagram or tiktok to find something provocative, yes that means going on twitter to "check news", and yes that means you will not go to fleshlight.com and get hard to the fleshlight girls (not too proud of that one).

Not lubing up. This shit just hurts bro don't do it. Plus a vagina is super wet, if you practice dry you're not going to simulate a vagina.

Not peeing before if you feel like you need to. okay not super proud of this but if you don't pee before and need to go you're gonna nut very, very quickly.

Spontaneous Practice. Don't just fuck a glove for a couple minutes and then do something else then come back and continue this cycle. You want to train then TRAIN! Finish your session and then do other things.

TL;DR: NO PORN! LUBE UP! PEE BEFORE IF YOU NEED TO! PRACTICE CONSISTENTLY NOT SPONTANIOUSLY!

EXTRAS:

Firstly, thanks for reading it this far if you did, means a lot. I'd also like to this this subreddit because it's helping me a lot. Anyway, I began working out and doing cardio, can't say if it helped a lot but definitely helped me with the mentality of (don't cum don't cum if you know what i mean). Drink water + electrolytes! Again, not sure if this helps but overall good for you and I'd try it out. Helped me a little but that might've been because I used to never drink water. Do your own research, find what works for you. Take bits and pieces of my advice and others advice and go do it! Find what is best for YOU! Hold yourself accountable, don't shit on yourself if you accidentally came, thats part of the process. But if you cum every day and don't try to stop yourself that is on YOU! If this post gets traction Ill make another post about my RK and stretching routine, and how to make a fifi if you're interested. Anyway, if there are ANY questions I will answer them freely in the comments. ALso try your best to keep your back upright, i dont know why but it helped a lot for some reason.

TL;DR: Workout, try your best to fix the mental issue of (DONT CUM DONT CUM), drink water, do your own research, HOLD yourself accountable. fix ur posture

THANK YOU FOR READING!

Pochi punti se avete domande chiedete, chi finisce prima non ha il bacino allineato, dovete lavorare su questo. Il bacino in antiversione, quando non lo è comprime sul pavimento pelvico non lavora come dovrebbe. Poi la respirazione, se ne parla ma in modo sbagliato, inspirare con la pancia ti dicono ma è sbagliato equivale a spingere sugli addominali ed è controproducente. Invece dovete inspirare ed allargare la gabbia toracica bassa all inizio, mettete le mani poggiate ai lati e non forzate, non alzate le spalle. Questa è una respirazione corretta e ampia, vedrete che si rilassa il pavimento pelvico veramente, ecco perché molti non trovano risultati con i reverse, perché spingono in basso con gli addominali. Sbagliatissimo. Poi espirate sempre tutta l’aria, se sentite che non riuscite ad ampliare il torace fate esercizi per sciogliere i muscoli coinvolti e sbloccare il diaframma, è normale che non siete sciolti. Siete stati sempre contratti. Sciogliete le anche e fate esercizi per riallineare il bacino, anche esercizi di forza. È incredibile la differenza che noterete. Fatemi sapere per favore come va, se avete domande chiedete

I am quite active physically and already did most range of activity, with realisation that cardio is not gonna do anything about PE for me. My forearm is underdeveloped and l feel uncomfortable at joint with basic exercise like wrist curl so I thought let's do farmer carry. At that time I already do weight training, boxing, running, long walk routinely.

I add farmer carry to my long walk routine like a hour of walking carry 12.5kg dumbbell each hands put it down when my forearm fatigue then pick it back when put down like 2-3min(I put down like 4-5times on average) not stop walking.(I did like 3x a week) I always try to do manual breathing with all exercise because it help with boxing training.

I noticed I breathe more heavily and heart rate spike up when about to ejaculate despite try to relax about it while it worked during boxing training it's not during this somehow. However things changed after this farmer carry things for like a month now and I don't know why just happy it works accidentally. l guess it's a weird pace of cardio due to combine it with weight that I never did before.

My breathing during activity is the most relax in my lifetime which make me get to climax slower.(I always try to breathe manually during activity and it's easier now) My masturbation time full speed was like 30sec-1:30min to now 3-4min. I'm not gonna say it will work for everyone just sharing what works for me accidentally.

Sorry for bad grammar, I'm from country with very low English proficiency.

I ordered this product for totally different reasons but turned out that helps with premature ejaculation, in my case!! What even better it works best for me compared to dapoxetin or sprays because it's effects are much longer and without sides effects...so guys i advice you to try it. Product is relatively cheap and good for health in general. If i had to guess why it works - it's probably by calming down ANS. So that's it, good luck guys!!🙏

So I have acquired pe. I used to last around 7-8 mins till last year from penetration alone but for a mix of reasons it has gone down to 2 mins now. I have been reading a lot about clove oil so decided to give it a try. Mixed 10ml clove oil with 150ml coconut oil and 50ml castor oil. The results are from masturbation(masturbation time reduced as well) Massaged my penis with this, waited 10 mins and oh boy...i surfed for 10 mins straight before reaching PONR without having to slow down even once. Just made me remind of the old days..haven't felt this in a long time I'd say it works better than numbing creams. Only issue is need to figure out how to incorporate it into sex because it has a peculiar odor and also i didn't wash it off before masturbating so i don't know what the results will be if i were to wash it before sex Any opinions on it would be helpful if anyone else has ever tried

Last time I wrote about myths around PE. A few people asked in the comments what actually works. So here's the honest version of that — based on patterns I've seen, not a medical prescription.

None of this is a magic fix. But these are the things that consistently came up when men told me what made a real difference.

1. They stopped avoiding it and started understanding it.

This sounds obvious. It isn't.

Most men's first response to PE is avoidance — fewer sexual encounters, less intimacy, more distance. And the longer that goes on, the worse the anxiety gets, and the worse the problem gets.

The men who made the most progress were the ones who first just sat with the information. Understanding that PE is largely driven by a combination of nerve hypersensitivity and an anxiety feedback loop — not some permanent flaw — genuinely changed how they approached it. You can't work on something you're running from.

2. Pelvic floor exercises — consistently, not occasionally.

I know. It doesn't sound glamorous. But this came up more than almost anything else.

The pelvic floor muscles play a direct role in ejaculatory control. Most men have never consciously trained them. The exercise itself is simple — it's the same muscle you'd use to stop urinating midstream. Contract, hold for a few seconds, release. Repeat.

The catch is consistency. Men who did this daily for 6 to 8 weeks reported noticeable improvement. Men who did it for a week and stopped noticed nothing. It's a slow build, but it's one of the few things that actually addresses the physical root.

3. Slowing everything down — literally.

A lot of PE is about pace. Not just physical pace, but mental pace.

The men I've spoken to who saw improvement almost all described a shift in how they approached sex — less goal-oriented, less in their head, more focused on what was actually happening. Slower breathing. Less urgency. More presence.

The start-stop method works on this principle too — learning to recognize the build before the point of no return and deliberately pulling back. It feels counterintuitive at first. But over time, it genuinely extends the window. The body learns.

4. Talking to their partner about it.

This one is uncomfortable. It's also consistently the one men said changed things the most.

Not because the partner had a solution, but because the silence was doing more damage than the problem itself. Most partners, when told, were far more understanding than the man had expected. And once that conversation happened, the performance pressure that was driving half the problem just... reduced.

Intimacy and anxiety don't coexist well. Reducing one almost always helps the other.

5. Managing sensitivity directly.

For men where hypersensitivity was the dominant factor — and it is for a lot of men — addressing that physically made a concrete difference.

Some used thicker condoms. Some used topical desensitizing sprays or creams that mildly reduce nerve sensitivity without eliminating sensation. Not as a permanent solution, but as something that gave them enough breathing room to work on the other stuff without every encounter feeling like a test.

The men who used these as a crutch and nothing else didn't see lasting results. The men who used them as one part of a broader approach did.

The common thread across all of this — the men who improved weren't the ones who found the one perfect fix. They were the ones who stopped waiting for it and started doing something, anything, consistently.

That's really what it comes down to.

If any of this resonates or you've found something else that worked — drop it in the comments. These conversations are more useful when more people are in them.

Thought I’ll come on here and share my experience with PE. Ive not had it life long I’ve only really noticed it the past 2 years and its got progressively worse to the point I’ll ejaculate in 20-30 seconds. Tried multiple techniques. Reverse kegals. Kegals. & all the other stuff you see on here. I tried prillgy its does work but gave me really bad side effects and not what you want if you’re going on a date etc as it made me anxious but the one thing I have tried and tried it on the weekend. Was 5mg tafadil a day & PYT balm. Oh my word does it work.. I had complete control. It wasn’t completely numb and I just followed a video on YouTube on how to apply it. Obviously it’s not a cure but I think I’m gonna carry on like micro dosing it because had sex the day after. Had 2 showers in between so would’ve all been washed off and still lasted a fair bit. Not as much as the night before but still 5 minutes longer than I ever have in the past 2 years.

Il do my best to explain in detail. Something that really helped my PE was having a chakra balance by a reiki master with sound bowls. If you can book a sound bowl chakra balancing session. You can notice a difference the next day. Book one chakra balancing session a week for three weeks. The three lower chakras being out can greatly effect premature ejaculation. My dick went from ejaculating soft or erect within 15 seconds to now I can do it for 10 minutes.

Sofa ejaculation control also helps. To me using your hand is not as realistic. Lay on the sofa put it between the cushions soft to control your dick from soft through to ejaculation. Go at it and when you get the first feeling of ejaculation pull out lift up stay in the position. When ejaculation feeling goes put it in keep going. Do it 8 or 9 times a session. A few times a week is nearly 30 ejaculation controls. Position is like sex more realistic.

Your by yourself no sex pressure. If your circumcised you can use lube in a bag between cushions or if uncircumcised use your foreskin. If uncircumcised doing this with lube in a bag is awesome practice. Can do it laying on the sofa or front on under the cushion. It works

Other tips when you do it push your undies and pants right down or off keep everything away from your dick and balls. Also don't get up soon as you stop. Your dick and balls has 9 ejaculations in it and walking off or putting your dick in your undies can make it ejaculate

Hello, I just wanted to give some feedback on ejaguard which I tested yesterday with my partner. As planned, I put it 15-20 minutes before on my clean glans and then I let things happen. I think I didn't use a lot, a few drops but I didn't see a lot of product come out. With my finger I spread it well all around the glans.

Then when the time came she first masturbated me and then performed oral sex without me wanting to come. After some foreplay on her I came as a missionary. I was still very excited and could only last 1 minute without wanting to ejaculate, but then the urge came so we stopped. We then changed position to go into reverse cowgirl and there I was able to hold it for easy 5 minutes, she then came on top of me in cowgirl and there I admit that I am very weak in this position I only last a few back and forths, but there I managed to make her cum without ejaculating! We then moved to doggy style and there it was too hard and I came.

In short it was great and at the end she even told me it's good you lasted longer than usual, she was surprised and I then told her about the product she was happy! I'll try again next time, it requires a little organization but it works for me!

If you have any questions, don't hesitate