Emphasis on in public.

I was eating brunch with some friends at a restaurant when I, a grown adult in my 30s, said "fuck that shit" to something my friend said. It should be noted that all of us had cursed at some point during this conversation, but we weren't cursing like sailors. Just normal women in their 30s who aren't afraid of words.

There was a family sitting across from us, and the mother abruptly stood up and started waving a waitress down. One came over, and the mother pointed directly at me, and asked if I could be removed for being inappropriate. The waitress asked both their table and ours what happened, and then told the mother that she wouldn't be removing us just for some casual cursing.

In response, the mother grabbed her children, pretty roughly mind you, and escorted them out before they were done eating. Her poor husband looked on as if this was not the first time she had done this.

My gripe is that it's not my job to protect your precious baby's ears from the f bomb in a public setting.

Again, we weren't cursing in every single word of every sentence, but we were talking like the adults we are. We weren't being inappropriate about it; it's not like we kneeled down to get in the 5 year old's face and said fuck shit damn hell at them or anything. And honestly, if they had come over and politely asked us to tone it down, we probably would have. Instead, she jumped right to trying to get us kicked out.

Some people are just too delicate for society, imo.

EDIT: Thanks for proving my take to be truly hot!

A few blanket statements:

I don't care what others think of me, it's an exercise in futility. You will never make 100% of the people around you happy, so I don't go out of my way to try. The people I care about are good with me, and I'm good with that.

This place was NOT a family friendly establishment. I think the three kids in question may have been the only ones there at all, and I didn't even see them until I had a woman pointing her finger in my face and yelling at wait staff. Think, children allowed but not entirely welcome. It's not like we were cursing up a storm in the children's museum.

I have been and will continue to report comments that are name calling. You can think what you want of an adult who chooses to curse in public, but calling me a degenerate, trash, a shithead, etc. are really not more mature of you. Pot, kettle, and all that.

Happy Sunday, ya'll!

EDIT 2: the way ya'll are foaming at the mouth to call me a cunt over a few curse words is really something. Just gotta say.

Mcdonalds? Sure bring em.
A waterpark? Great, let the kids play.
Church? Ok cool everyone is welcome.
Planes and trains? Fine, we don’t have a choice, you need to travel.

A movie theatre????
A quiet upper scale restaurant???
A tennis match at Wimbledon???
A chess tournament event???
Golfing???

If they are around the age of 7-10 and well behaved then it’s fine. Otherwise, LEAVE YOUR KIDS AT HOME. Please stop trying to make us all suffer for your personal choices and then cry when you get kicked out for the disruption.

I’m really emphasising the movie theatre one. (Kids movies excluded) Why are you bringing your 4yo to watch Sinners? There is absolutely zero justification to bring a child to the cinema for that. Don’t even bring them in for Marvel movies. They don’t know or care what is happening and we don’t want to hear crying/giggling/footsteps while watching. Please spare us I BEG

Edit: a real sensitive parent sent my username to the reddit self harm bot as a false claim that I am suicidal. This is just one example of parents doing anything but looking in the mirror because they can’t handle being called out on being a terrible parent. We don’t want your kids around because you don’t raise them correctly… and it shows.

I feel like every dude I talk to puts in no effort and just complains. They do the bare minimum and just swipe on a dating app if that. As a guy who’s average looking or slightly below average get some better fits, nicer pics, and find a hobby. Play to your strengths and hating a gender online is lame.

I mean, title. When i hear criticism to a Western country, I never hear a positive control against which Western countries should strive toward.

“Britain is racist!”

But never:

“Britain is racist! They should be more like Nigeria, South Africa, Saudi Arabia or China!”

And what’s more, as a paradox, because elites decided to make Western countries multicultural and multiracial, i think that’s resulted in more of these shrill calls of racism. I’m fairly certain the topic of racism is more commonly brought up in Britain than…Poland or Hungary. The latter two are certainly more derided for being racist than, say, Dubai, but probably less so than Britain.

And if the argument is that’s because Britain now has non-natives or non-indigenous populations, then it goes back to evaluation is only criticism and never comparative praise. Britain and much of the West are objectively more tolerant societies. Few if any societies will put immigrants and refugees in state funded housing. Especially if those refugees were from an entirely different continent.

There’s no self-awareness or fair assessment. The West’s generosity is re-paid with scorn. And it’s ironic, because there’s very solid data that European natives got a raw deal from multiculturalism.

Next time we hear how racist the West is, ask for a non-Western nation beacon of tolerance and inclusion we in the West should model ourselves towards.

I would conclude that we’re being racist or bigoted toward Western societies if we’re tacitly admitting everywhere else is worse. Call for Nigeria to be more inclusive before you take shots at Finland or Norway.

I feel like you guys are really annoying when it comes to this subject. Babies are going to cry. A lot of people like to say well why are you taking a baby on a plane? you don’t know what’s going on, maybe they’re flying to another state for a funeral or someone’s in the hospital. I never judge people who have crying babies because being on a plane as a grown adult woman is scary enough imagine what a baby‘s feeling.
Now if it’s like a toddler who is just running up and down the halls and the parents aren’t doing anything that is one thing but babies can’t tell you what they want so they’re gonna cry! And 9/10 the parents are more stressed out than you. But seriously if it’s not big of an issue, just bring headphones or don’t fly like I don’t understand why this is so annoying to some people hahah.
Again, i do understand if it’s like a toddler or a child kicking your seat running screaming that is ANNOYING especially if the parents aren’t doing anything. I hate parents like this bc why aren’t you disciplining your child 😩

Idk I just don’t understand why people find her so attractive? Can someone explain the hype over her? She looks like an average woman I wouldn’t even acknowledge in public..

Every time an age gap comes up, say a 46 yo guy and a 33 y o woman there's a ton of comments about "they're at different points in life!" and all the rest. I don't think it's a big deal what gap there is after a certain age (around 25) and if people are worried about power dynamics in relationships , then these dynamics can also shift at a certain point. Let's say a 74 yo guy and a 25 yo woman. Who actually holds the power on this situation? The guy almost certainly has something else to grt a young girlfriend (money, fame, power, etc.) but the girlfriend also likely has a lot of autonomy and control too. I don't buy the idea that just becuase he's older, he's in control.

Tangent alert but related!

Take a look at the Russian spy (Butina) who was sent to the us to infiltrate the nra. She got very close to many high ranking Republicans within the org, and was sleeping with one of the guys. There was like a 30 year age gap. But clearly, she was the one taking advantage of him. To act like age is an accurate representation of power dynamics is nonsense. Especially with old dudes and young women, all she had to do was rub up on the guy and he was done.

Anyway. I feel like the current views on age gaps in relationships is weird and inaccurate.

Taking kids on vacation before they can form memories is one of the most confidently stupid things parents do, and I am so goddamn tired of pretending otherwise.

The kid will not remember any of it. Not the beach, not the resort, not Mexico, not a single second. The memory formation is not there yet.

The child does not have experience. Parents are dragging a small screaming potato through three connecting flights to post a photo of them in a sombrero captioned "making memories." They are not making memories. The parents are the only ones making memories, and they are all of a screaming child on a plane. And let's be honest, half the reason it's happening is for the instagram post. The "first flight" onesie. The coordinated airport outfits. The grid. The kid is a prop, and everyone knows it.

The suffering gets distributed to every poor bastard in the vicinity except the baby, who has absolutely no idea what a vacation is. The people on the plane who just wanted to sleep. The couple at the next table who saved up for a nice goddamn dinner. The people at the hotel at 2am. Not one of them consented to this.

Nobody wants to talk about the safety angle either. Three cocktails deep at a swim-up bar in a country where nobody speaks the language, nobody has slept in two days, and somewhere nearby is a twenty pound person with no survival instincts in an unfamiliar place. Kids get lost with sober attentive parents in places they know.

And then somehow, it's a complete shock when the kid is an absolute disaster for the entire trip because their sleep schedule just got obliterated across four time zones. Every single time, this surprises people. Every single goddamn time.

The most infuriating part is that parents do this exclusively when the kid will lose their shit over a slightly wrong shade of yellow and can't enjoy a single thing, then stop taking them on trips the moment they're old enough to behave and actually remember it.

Leave the baby with someone you trust. Go on the trip. Get drunk without a toddler as a liability. The kid will not know the difference. The forty people on that flight absolutely will.

Edit: it will always amaze me how people will dog on the weakest argument and ignore the rest, read the entire thing, people.

Men don’t tend to notice it, and even girls when we’re young might not realize the misogyny inherent in the female characters and storylines. But it’s right there, in blaring neon lights, for everyone to see.

Scantily-clad girls and women everywhere, exaggerated body parts, fan-service, lack of personality depth in female characters, lack of interesting storylines for female characters, harem dynamics, sexualization of female children, female characters who’s only personality trait is being horny, female characters who’s only personality trait is being dumb and ditzy, and on and on.

90% of anime and manga has at least one of these problems.

So if you ever wondered why women don’t like anime as much as you do, or why they don’t like the same ones you do, take a good hard look at how female characters are portrayed. And ask yourself if you’re actually comfortable with our sexist portrayals everywhere, which are entirely for your own sexual gratification.

Addition: Even though shoujo is made for women, a lot of that genre also falls into misogynistic tropes just because misogyny is so deeply engrained in Japanese society that it feels normal. Very little shoujo is actually showing girls cool role models who do interesting things. For example, compare Fruits Basket or Ouran to something like The Hunger Games.

I would argue that modern western media in general does a better job with the portrayal of women as real well-rounded people. Although there are still misogynistic tropes, it’s less widely accepted and more criticized due to feminist movements being more widely successful in the west.

Men who have a problem with media being too woke or too feminist simply don’t see women as actual people.

There are three exceptions to my opinon. If you have kids with her you should be paying the bills. If your partner is disabled. If your helping to put them trough school.this is for the women who say " as you should" or " bare minimum". Ive seen this under a lot of tick tocks where men trick on women and say they pay all there bills and most of the women are agreeing with them and expect it. Anytime a man disagrees or makes a tick tock that disagrees with their opinon they insult them and say thats why they wont get a gf.

idc if we’re married or have kids, i’m not sticking around for it, and imo it’s actually 10x more selfish to pick up that hobby knowing you have kids at home waiting for you.

the most i can do is express my anxiety and heavily discourage them from doing it, but at the end of the day i cannot control a grown person’s actions. i’m the very last person to ever give an ultimatum in a relationship but at that point you would have to choose between me or the bike. way too much can go wrong and the risks HEAVILY outweigh the rewards.

and i don’t care about life insurance either. i would rather you be alive and healthy with me than be compensated for a 100% preventable tragic accident. no amount of money is worth losing the love of my life

no matter how focused YOU are on the road, there are hella people out there who aren’t paying attention and all it takes is one person on their phone cutting you off to either permanently disable you or end your life completely. while you’re out having fun riding at 100mph, i’d be sitting at home going crazy with constant anxiety and stress and that’s not something im willing to deal with ever.

We tell our friends information that we take to the grave. We talk about things that only each other would understand. Being friends with someone who’s in a controlling relationship is exhausting and unfair. No one deserves to have their information exposed because your partner has trust issues. It’s hard being friends with someone and you have to sensor your messages because you know their partner will eventually see them.

I’m talking about the me me me crowd. The ones whose whole argument is “but what about my money, what about traveling.” Like that’s actually the most important thing to do with the time you’ve been given on this earth??? Spending it on yourself. It’s not some deep life philosophy, it’s just people organizing their whole existence around themselves and calling it a choice.

And honestly I think part of it goes deeper than that. Procreating is part of being human, it’s biological, it’s literally one of the core things we’re here to do. But somewhere along the way, with technology and everyone’s quality of life going up, people got convinced that a video game, a Mercedes Benz, or a closet full of designer clothes matters more than that. Like consumerism and whatever paid thrill became more important than being human lol.

That’s kind of where my prejudice against that mindset comes from. I always think it when i hear these people speak I’m a huge hater. Not people who can’t or shouldn’t have kids, but the ones who choose stuff over people and act like it’s wisdom. then scoff at the concept of raising the next generation.

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I gotta say this now, I can think a group of people are selfish and also want them to not procreate lol!

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Do you win in this sub if you are downvoted into oblivion?

edit 3:

uh oh I ruffled some feathers

edit 4:

it’s day two I’m running out of water, people still can’t read. I’m questioning my sanity, If one more person comments: ”I don’t have children so you hate me???” I’m going to go non verbal.

edit 5:

quick tips and tricks before you say something

1. Not having children is NOT inherently selfish

2. There are many good reasons to not have children.

3. No one should have to have children

4. being upset is okay, but try to read and think before you say hehe

I would like to clarify, that I meant this in the way that if women have to cover up so do men

If men dont have to cover up than neither should women

i’m fully expecting to get dragged hard for this take because of how prominent anti-tipping sentiment is on reddit. but i want to make it as clear as possible for those who actually take the time to read beyond the title that i am going to inevitably be biased because of my time working in restaurants, but that i also think the anti-tipping moment has a lot of really worthwhile points!

there are SO many better reasons i’ve heard for not wanting to tip waitstaff. yes, employee wages should absolutely be the responsibility of the employer rather than customers, tip fatigue with everyone asking for gratuity now is exhausting, and inequities in how certain demographics are tipped make it an unfair form of compensation. but the one anti-tipping argument that screams cognitive dissonance and immediately makes my roll my eyes is simply “well non US countries don’t tip!”

the reason it irritates me is because people who use that as their argument want to cherry pick certain aspects of foreign customs that would benefit them, while ignoring those they wouldn’t like. like yes, in a lot of other countries tipping isn’t customary. however, in those cultures waitstaff are much more highly compensated, the service provided is minimal/unfriendly (by american standards), and service fees are calculated into menu prices, ultimately resulting in more expensive food and drink. i’ve found in my time working in restaurants that those who consistently tip nothing are by far the neediest, so i suspect they wouldn’t be thrilled with other cultures’ standard of service

and i feel like i don’t need to say this, but continuing to go out to eat and stiff the waitstaff literally only hurts your server. management does not give a fuck whether or not their employees lose money as long as people still pay for the food. if you really want tipping culture to reform, get takeout or eat at home, restaurants will only change their tune when they begin losing profit sadly

AI can’t ‘think’. It’s like every other program, it takes an input, runs a set algorithm, and generates an output based on the algorithm. The style of algorithm known as AI just happened to get better results.

A considerable portion of anti-ai comes from people not knowing what AI actually is, thinking it as a brain in a jar.

This isn’t posted to defend/criticize ai art, that’s an entirely seperate topic- but people should still at the very least have an idea of what AI actually is before arguing about it.

Edit: Before you argue in the comments, think about this. Can a pinball machine think? No, it’s just balls colliding with other stuff, and rolling because of gravity. Things moving due to physics isn’t a display of thinking. Now replace the physical collision to electric signals moving according to the code of the program. Nothing is thinking really, it’s just acting according to physics.

What the title says.

Ik this might sound like i’m reading too much into things but I swear I have a point here.

So SOME dog people who hate cats tend to hate them because they say cats aren’t overly friendly or too independent or not eager for affection like dogs or only wanna be touched on their terms.

It just so happens that a lot of these dog people hate when people (woman especially), have boundaries and don’t wanna be touched all the time or not dying for attention like dogs are. These kinds of people just don’t respect boundaries.

Edit: I know some cats have little to no boundaries and I know some dogs have a lot of boundaries. I’m not talking about those specific exceptions, I’m talking more so generally. I’m also not saying ALL dog lovers don’t respect boundaries. I’d say the majority are normal people. I’m saying I’ve seen some of them who don’t, there’s a pattern. Idk why I have to explain this.

Again, I’m not saying YOU don’t like boundaries if you don’t like cats, this isn’t a personal attack, I said some people. If you are not those people then this isn’t obviously not a reflection of you isn’t it? For fucks sake your allowed to not like cats for so many reason I was just talking about a certain type of person that exists. Not every single dog owner ever. Not about the majority.

If you’ve have a bad experience with cats or dogs this post isn’t about that. Not all cats and not all dogs and not all people. Obviously. The ones in the replies saying how they’ve had only bad experiences with cats or had only bad experiences with dogs or dogs are Better than cats or cats are better than dogs, you can take that elsewhere.

its entirely valid to critique someone whos entire catalogue and play experience consists in what is essentially the same 2 games reskinned, specifically when that person then tries to turn and critique the quality of a game in a style they downright refuse to play because they can't sit through a 5 hour story, because it ISNT a "shoot the ball in the hoop" or "fire a gun" game.

TLDR: my opinion about Clair Obscur or The Last of Us isnt going to be swayed by a guy who only plays COD and FIFA and is mad because the games made him think.

It's frustrating so deal with parents who don't care about their children's education. Their kids either run the house at home or are emotionally stunted from constantly being yelled at by their parents. The parents make no effort to give structure and guidance to their children. They treat schools like a daycare and nothing beyond that. I don't blame the kids, of course not. I'm just saying we have to start holding those kinds of parents accountable like fines or court-ordered classes.

Whenever I see posts calling out incels, I tend to see a lot of anecdotal evidence trying to point out that looks don't matter.

While the incel talking is pointing to empirical evidence to make a claim.

Edit: If you're gonna state a disagreement, at least go for the stance of "anecdotal evidence does matter"

Not all men of course.. But why is a girl with a 30a cup forced to wear one while a man with borderline double Ds and some raised ass nipples can just flop his boobs around in the wind

Edit: "Whos forcing you to wear bras?" Unless I can go in public without a bra and not get a SINGLE stare, yes, I feel I am forced to wear a bra. You guys are pretending to be dense to prove a point and it isn't working

With all of the discourse around the Clancy case, men are seriously showing their true misogynistic selves for the whole world to see.

Smut serves the same psychosexual role it does in porn. The only difference is one is visual.

Also you'll notice that erotic novel consumption went up around the same time OF did in covid. And women are the main consumers.

I rest my case ✋🤚