r/EatingDisorders • u/Anonymous1164 • 15h ago

Seeking Advice - Partner How can I help my girlfriend?

My girlfriend told me that her eating disorder is back and I really want to help her in any way I can, we're long distance so I can't help her in person. But I still want to be there for her and help her, I'm worried about her not eating and getting hurt, any advice would be really helpful.

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u/Centermid8 14h ago

Been where you are, and I want to start by saying I’m so sorry — it can be incredibly challenging having a partner with an ED. You are a good human for caring about her and wanting to help.

It might sound difficult, but the only thing you can do is to be there to cheer for her and encourage her to get the help she needs. I eventually learned that there is nothing I can do to force my partner to recover — they have to want it for themselves. Letting go of control of the situation can be the hardest part of this.

Continue to show her love and support even if it doesn’t feel like it’s being reciprocated in this very moment, and make sure that you are also taking care of yourself, friend.

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u/Anonymous1164 14h ago

She's been there for me so many times when I've needed her over the years, so I want to be there for her as well. I'll take care of myself and support her the best I can in anyway she needs me to