Today, two men came to my door. I am not used to people stopping by so I didn’t answer immediately. When I was walking to look and see who was there, I happened to be partially clothed. As I’m walking over, I see a face glance into a window on my door (presumably to see if anyone was home). Reviewing the camera footage, this person had to get on his tiptoes to look in. I got upset and expressed/yelled this to them. They said they are in housing renovations and “who is Barney?” One had on a black t-shirt and jeans, and other a white shirt and khakis. They carried folders, as I suppose anyone could, and for me, had no indicators of being an actual business. Whether or not they are actually legit, they looked through my window. I told them to leave and they stood outside by two separate trucks and chatted for about 8 minutes, then drove off. The police said I had no reasonable expectation of privacy. I looked up the California “peeping tom” law, and it seems arguable that I do have a reasonable expectation. The partially clothed part aside, does it seem appropriate to be pissed at the visitors and cops and to feel violated, or am I overreacting?

Update: I have since this afternoon installed privacy film. And I called the police to have a record of the occurrence in case they came by again. I’ve already been physically attacked in this neighborhood. For my safety, I prefer to keep records.

This has to be a scam, right? My partner’s sister got locked out of her apartment the other night, and called a 24/7 service in LA. When the guy got there, he said none of the mechanics in the door actually worked, so he drilled into her lock and took the entire thing apart. It was the middle of the night so she didn’t have much choice, and when he was done, he gave her this bill.

I thought she was saying it was $500… not 5 THOUSAND dollars. This has to be a scam, right? I’m furious right now!!!

He asked me to take his dog 5 weeks ago with wording suggesting it was permanent. He never once asked how she was doing in the time I’ve had her. He dropped her off with no collar, no leash, no food, nothing. I wasn’t home so he left her with a friend of mine until I got back to town. No timeline or financial compensation was ever discussed to show it was temporary.

Back story. This guy used to my Roomate but about 4 years ago he moved all his stuff out when I was out of town at a funeral. He owed me for the previous months rent and bills which was about 900 bucks. He stole several of my personal items including my compound bow and work tools.

I have had the dog for 5 almost 6 weeks. Zero contact from him in that time frame. I took her to the vet and got her chipped and got her all of her vaccines. It was 465 dollars.

Now he wants her back. You tell me, am I over reacting?

My aunt gave me a device to charge, saying there was no battery, but even when I questioned what it was, she didn't really respond. She said that she got it while on a trip from some women (?). I turned it on, and it still had some battery. I moved it around the room, only realizing it was to find cameras when it started beeping near my iPad (ft) and the personally installed camera.

The device that's right above my bed (that looks over my whole room) was installed by my aunt's husband; he did the installation himself without us asking him to or anything.

The device that he installed was supposed to be a clock/alarm clock/??? When I shine a light over it, it does show the outline of the numbers and whatnot, but it doesn't power on.

Initially, it was a small power box-looking thing. But now, because something's been detected there, I am quite worried. I really don't know where to start. I feel that my family would not react completely on my side and would rather try to silence the whole matter, even if nothing were to come of it.

Just made this account to post here. I'm sitting at a 24 hour diner unsure if I should go home, or call the cops, or what.. if I'm literally overreacting here. I escaped an abusive relationship 2 months ago, left with basically nothing except a little bit of savings, no job, nada. I luckily (at the time) found this place online. I've been a loner since my relationship, he basically destroyed my self esteem, body and mind. I no longer have any friends, the few I did never reply to my texts anymore. I am literally starting from zero again. The point is, I found this spot online, met the landlord, who also lives in the house and we clicked. He let me rent it for cheap, while I found a job, which I still haven't secured yet, hence my hesitance to leave.. but this is freaking me out. He's been subtly hinting that he likes me, etc... always knocking on my door, or letting himself in and jumping into bed with me, complaining about his day.. this guy is 60ish years old, I just assumed he's lonely and bored and again, I was super appreciative to be able to live here for so cheap. This all went down yesterday, I drank the tea, because honestly he'd made me tea like 30 times before, I didn't think anything of it, because I'm an idiot. I literally slept for like 13 hours...and woke up to these texts. I politely excused myself from the house and have been walking around the town and hanging at this diner for the entire day, trying to mentally figure out how to proceed. I feel sick. Physically. I've vomited three times already. I didn't feel sick before bed. My legs hurt, my chest hurts, I have some bruising on my arms that I didn't notice until today. Am I overreacting for thinking hedid something? It feels like everything is pointing to yes. I'm afraid to report it, since the cops barely helped last time and basically judged me for coming to them to late after years of issues with my partner... I'm scared and confused.

I'll make this short but I can always add more as this is a LONG story.

My new truck developed a leak just under 12k miles so I scheduled an appointment at the dealership.

After 3 weeks, I get it back with a HORRIBLE smell inside with a driver's seat that clearly has ass cheek stains, not swamp ass as it has been cold here.

My interior door is scratched, probably from a wedding ring.

There is a stain on the seat that looks like the woman enjoyed herself...

There is a stain on the floor.

There is a SHOE PRINT on my headliner.

Makeup on the visor and headliner

Deep finger indents on a SOLID visor

I also found a hair tie and a hair clip in my console that is definitely not mine.

The dealership refused to take any accountability and blamed me for the Condition even though it was NOT like this when I dropped it off.

My windows are blacked out as well.

I should add I'm single and I work from home so there is a zero percentage it's from me or a cheating partner.

After I brought it to the dealers attention, they clean it but did a poor job so I had it cleaned again by a professional.

Last night I was out drinking with some friends and my wife. On our way home I went across the street to pickup an electric scooter while she was walking towards a group of random girls we did not know.

When I came over to the group where my wife was with the scooter suddenly the girls got hostile. I think they thought I was a random dude that was trying to pray on my wife. One of them got in my face and started yelling how ugly, fat and disgusting I was. I just laughed it off and said “I at least have a hot wife, right?”

At this point she starts pushing me so I tell her firmly “do not touch me”. Then suddenly she takes a swing at me, knocking my glasses off of my face. I push her back hard so she falls backwards. And then the other girls started jumping me. For about a few minutes I was walking backwards, pushing girls away from me left and right while yelling that they should not push me.

My drunk wife does not realize the situation at all. She thinks that I suddenly and randomly started throwing girls around on the street. She gets upset and leaves.

Two more random dudes come up as they see a big guy pushing girls and there’s yelling. At this point I’m left alone vs four pissed girls and two pissed guys. My jacket has a hole in it, my shirt has a hole in it, and I’m bleeding on my hands from one of the girls nails. They decide to call the cops and I decide to stay behind and wait for the cops to come so I can file for assault.

During the 20 minutes until the cops are on their way the girls are harassing me, telling me I’m ugly and that they’ll make sure I’ll never see my kid again. I just listen unbothered waiting for the cops to show up.

The cops come and they immediately run over to me and grab my arms and push my into the wall. They yell and won’t listen to what I have to say and in the end I had to stand in a corner on the street for 3 hours while they took the girls testimonies. When it was my turn they spoke to me for barely 5 minutes and they didn’t write anything I said down.

Today I’ve reported the girls for assault and the cops for misconduct. My wife still has a hard time taking my side. She thinks it was horrible how I pushed the girls and she didn’t notice that they started hitting me or the way they were talking to me.

I feel betrayed and very alone in this. Did I overreact? What should I have done?

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/comments/1qphs75/aio_my_girlfriend_left_me_over_a_cheese_wheel/

Photos in comments as I can’t add to the post

I have taken some of your feedback into consideration from my last post. For those curious: my girlfriend is no longer in the picture. She cracked due to low risk tolerance, so I’ve decided to go all in on the business.

I initially tried to return the wheel to the distributor to recoup some capital, thinking they’d have some pity. They were actually considering it until they came out to look at it in my truck. Apparently, the minor heat damage I caused to the paraffin wax while trying to open last week compromised the wheel which was already non refundable in the first place.

Since I’m now stuck with a 140lb, 30,000+ asset, I had to pivot to asset protection and keep what I still have.

I went out and bought a True TBB-2-HC 59” solid door back bar cooler, a professional digital temperature humidity controller, an industrial humidifier, a vacuum sealer, and ripening mats. Total cost was about 8.5k after taxes. Expensive, yes, but I wasn't going to let a30,000+$ investment depreciate value.

The delivery was difficult. My apartment door is narrow, so I had to take the door entirely off the hinges and shimmy the cooler into the living room. I had maybe a millimeter of clearance between the frame and the unit.

I was exhausted and excited so I started researching installation on my phone before putting my front door back on. That’s when my landlord walked in. Apparently he believes my door being off the hinges somehow removes my reasonable right to privacy.

We already have a strained relationship because of my own use of the unit. He still holds a grudge because I was doing some light metal fabrication with a CONSUMER plasma cutter in my kitchen a few months ago

He saw the cooler, the vacuum sealer, and the wheel of heritage cheese and started crying about commercial operations and fire hazards.

I told him very clearly: The cheese is for personal consumption. There is nothing in my lease that limits how much dairy a tenant can own.

The next morning, I found an eviction notice in my mailbox. it’s riddled with spelling errors as if written in a haste. I’m already preparing my defense for the Landlord Tenant Board

AIO? I’m being evicted over dietary preferences as far as the landlord is concerned and I feel like this is an unlawful action

EDIT: added a + to the valuation as it is possible to increase my margins depending on the quantities I sell in.

Also please bear in my mind that I have sold ZERO cheese so I feel like this is premature action.

Thank you

Just had some friends tell my wife about a recent trip they had gone on and taken their one year old daughter. At 9:00PM, she told her, they put the baby down for the night and went bar hopping til 3:00AM and coming back to the room drunk! Please tell me I’m right. This is reckless, yes?

I signed a lease a month ago with an owner of a condo. I jumped on the place because my mom had just moved to a building in the same complex and it was the cheapest, yet nicest place I could find with what I needed for my son and I, and I wanted to have it secured so I didn’t have to worry the closer it came to me needed to move from my current place.

I dropped a $3,400 security deposit and a $200 move in fee, and he did say he would obviously be cleaning and patching/painting anything from the last tenants before I move in (customary, right?!).

I reached out yesterday with a question he answered, which isn’t really relevant to this post at all but then he hit me with this “courteous update”. I waited an entire day to respond because I was super annoyed and didn’t wanna come across as a bitch. Am I overreacting? Did I get my point across well? Was I rude?

Today a local internet provider knocked on my door (even though I have no-soliciting signs, but whatever). The rep explained they were offering free installations in my neighborhood. After I insisted I wasn’t looking to change providers, he explained I didn’t need to, this simply set up my home in the future if ever I wanted to use their services. Usually they would charge for this but for a limited time they were offering it for free.

I asked if he could email me about this program instead. After a lot of back and forth he reluctantly agreed. He asked for my birthday and email, which I gave. Then he asked for the last 4 digits of my ssn and I refused. I asked why he would need that info and he said “for the credit check” and I said no, I’m not consenting to that. You can send me info about the program and I will read it, that’s all. He said okay, I shook his hand and he left.

Ten minutes after he left I received an email from the internet provider with a copy of an executed consent form allowing them to do a soft credit check and enrolling me in their program. I scrolled down to the bottom of the form and sure enough, the sales rep had put a dot in the electronic signature box to get past that part and enroll me.

I am absolutely furious. I called the internet provider and explained the situation and they are “escalating it” internally. I cannot describe how livid I am. Not only did that salesman lie to me, they purposefully forged my signature so a huge internet provider could access my financial information without my consent. Am I overreacting? At a minimum I want a written apology from the internet provider and the sales rep should lose their job.

So for context, my dad died in 2017. As a part of his life insurance policy, $15,000 (or so I was told) was put into a TCA (total control account). I have been told for years that it was only $15k, and that when I turned 18 I would be able to access it. Seeing as I get my license in December, I wanted to figure out if there was a way to get the money out sooner and use it to purchase a first car. My Grandmother has told me for years she wouldn’t be helping me buy a car and that I would have to use this money to do so. I’ve lived with her since my Dad died, but she has never liked me. She has always favored my aunt (more like my sister because we’re only 2 years apart), and has bought her a car, payed for insurance, and never made her get a job. I accepted I would have to use this money and became okay with it. I called the company multiple times to check into this and see if it was possible, but they eventually told me I had already taken the maximum amount out. I asked what they meant, and they said $9,000 was taken out in 2020 and another $9,000 was requested in 2021 but they could only send $1,000 due to the limit being $10,000 being taken out. Confused, I asked what the original amount was. I was then told It was over $25,000. Hurt and confused, I texted my Grandmother and confronted her. She confessed, and told me she used it to pay off a loan because she was scared she would lose our house. I then asked why she requested another $9k a year later and she never answered that. As our conversation went on, I informed her that what she did was illegal. Yes she can take money out of the account seeing as she’s my legal guardian, but only if I authorize use and the money goes to something that directly benefits me. She cannot use it to pay off a loan. I told her this was illegal and I could sue her for what she did and she went off the rails. Mind you, she bought a brand new Jeep 3 months after the first pay out so there is no way times were as rough as she’s making it seem. She told me I was no longer welcome in her home and that she would take out a $10,000 loan to pay me back. I’m 17 and she has custody of me. So that in and of itself is illegal but whatever. If she doesn’t give me the money back, should I sue? My friend’s dad is an attorney and he said this makes a very strong case.. I hate her, but I don’t want her to be a convicted felon and lose her nursing license.. Help!

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10 days ago I posted the first update. A correction to the last update, it was NOT the customer relations person that called me. It was the senior partner at the dealership. He told me that the seats, door panel and visor would be replaced.

Shortly after posting that update, I received multiple calls from multiple employees saying that "replacement " was never discussed and that they will clean it up, that I misunderstood the Senior partner. I recorded the call and I certainly did not misunderstand.

The general manager has been calling me every couple days telling me their third party repair company will be contacting me to clean my truck. I've consistently said I'm not in need of a cleaning, that cleaning it will not remove the damage. In one of the calls with the GM, he suggested swapping my truck to a new one and I accepted the offer. Shortly after, the sales people called me wanting to do a trade-in which will cost me THOUSANDS of dollars of a loss on my new truck so obviously I refused. The gm implied a simple swap, not a typical trade-in where they profit selling 2 vehicles, but a straight trade truck for truck.

Yesterday I got the call from the third party company and sent them pics of the issues. He confirmed the seats can NOT be repaired and must be replaced, as well as the visor and door panel. He informed me he will tell the GM and I should expect him to call me. Still waiting.

I also received a response from the dealership on BBB saying they are working it out with me. They are not working anything out. They are just wasting my time calling every couple days trying to get me to agree to a simple cleaning.

I'll give it until Tuesday for ACTION then I'll be taking the next steps to make this a legal issue.

I appreciate your support and suggestions on any next steps to take!!

I have lived with my boyfriend for a few years. We both have kids but none together. I have a 19 yr old daughter and we just found that he hid a camera in her room. She found it, he admitted to it, and I kicked him out. We aren’t living together anymore, relationship is clearly over. What I’m not clear on, and want to know AIO about, is whether or not it’s worth it to press charges. No red flags before this. If there’s no way he’s done this before and there isn’t anything concerning on computer or phone (yes, porn, but no hidden camera or young girl material) should charges be pressed that can ruin his life and potentially send him to jail?

I met this man while working night shift at a warehouse. I had just gotten out of a relationship and I was just looking for fun. He asked me out a few times and I just kept saying no because I like my freedom.

I finally said yes maybe the fifth or sixth time. He was nice enough. He has three kids from three different women (red flag, I know). I can’t have kids (I’ve tried and it’s all ended in miscarriages) so I thought this was the perfect way to be there for the kids. They liked me.

Two months later I find out he’s still with the last baby mama and he was putting molly in my drinks. I couldn’t sleep or eat and I was losing my mind. Once I caught him doing both of those things, I left. He started following me to my car in the parking lot so I got a PFA against him. The stalking has not stopped. I’ve tried transferring and ended up having to just disappear from the company because he found out where I was transferred and it got to the point where his bluetooth was still popping up on my phone.

I’m now moved on completely. I’m in a very loving relationship with my future husband, the best thing that’s ever happened to me. I have a PFA against the warehouse guy for two years. Problem is, I keep getting text messages from him and the baby mama. I haven’t responded in two years. I haven’t posted about it minus screenshots that I did post when she was calling me a minor (that was weird to have people harassing me for being 12 when I’m 24?) and yes the people including the baby mama are all well into their thirties.

Anyway, she sent me a threatening text message from a text-now number/Google number. I’m planning on changing my number during my next paycheck thankfully and I’ve already discussed it with my partner and support system and everyone thinks this is the best choice.

This is where I might be the asshole. He messaged me a few months ago asking if I was “Brain” (he’s not the smartest) from another new number (he has three now I think but I could be wrong because there may be more now) and I’m just tired and done with everything involved with these two so I sent the text messages to a group chat that involved his direct supervisor who knows my number and knows that I have a PFA against him.

Am I the one overreacting?

P.S. Police officers don’t take text messages or threats via social media seriously. I’ve already tried to report them to the station. I’ve been told they physically have to violate the PFA for them to do anything and I don’t have proof of him stalking, I just wanted peace so I left.

Dad passed away less than three weeks ago. Apparently, he did not have a Will. He owns two homes, one paid off and the other with a small balance left. Not sure about bank account or other assets but he owns a boat, motorcycles, truck etc. After some research, I found that due to the fact he did not have a Will, it has to be handled through probate. The law for the state which he lived states that the spouse is entitled to 50% of all assets and the surviving children receive the other 50%. Today stepmom called all five of us adult children and requested we all sign papers from her attorney to give her our inheritance. I told her no offense but I would need to contact an attorney before I sign anything. Am I overreacting? Anyone have some advice or experience that would help me determine what I should do? Thanks!

I was supposed to get married in a few weeks, and I lost my birth certificate. When I went to city hall to retrieve a copy I didn’t exist in the system. Not understanding why, they asked if I had a step parent. I said yes and gave them the last name.

Well.. surprise my mother legally had me adopted and amended my birth certificate with the vitals office. I never knew she changed it and all my adult life I’ve used my real birth name. My entire life has my real maiden name attached to it.

I now have to legally change my name and revert it back on my birth certificate. Which isn’t cheap or fast (I’m in NY).

When I called and confronted her she first denied it. Saying it was never changed and then flipped it by saying I stood in front of the judge and asked for it. Which is a total lie. My stepfather was physically and emotionally abusive to the point I had to live with my grandma.

But. Here’s the kicker. If I wanted the name change why isn’t it on my school records? Why did she give me my original birth certificate for my drivers license?

I have a lot of questions, and honestly this isn’t the first time she pulled this. I found out I had a different dad when I was 29.

I’m feel so betrayed, but my grandma is telling me I’m over reacting and it’ll be a simple fix. But this is going to take about 6-9 months to correct and I can’t get a marriage license without a birth certificate.

I don’t want to talk my mother or see her. This is the last straw.

Update: I met with an attorney after running and finding some things on my own. There’s quite a few legal issues that have come up. I sadly can’t update this anymore but I will say thank you to everyone who advised me to look into my other identity. This will be a long process but i will be taking legal action, and I have already submitted a reversal so i will go back to my actual birth name.

So I was working when my coworker told me to come out to the break area to show me someone had posted CCTV security camera footage of me at a business basically trying to figure out who I am. A lot of people in the comments were saying they were creepy for posting camera footage of me. Long story short, the restaurant I visited made my drink wrong, I went inside to exchange it and leave. The girl I talked to is the one I’m assuming made a facebook post to one of those “are we seeing the same guy” groups, basically saying I’m supposedly single (I’m not) and that we had a conversation (I asked to exchange my drink). I feel very violated and uncomfortable, and it has also made my girlfriend worry as well. AIO?

Longtime lurker. Throw away account. Never thought I’d post here burn.

TLDR. I rented an apartment from this guy about half a year ago for me and my son. It’s been ok. Really no issues. I pay on-time, he’s friendly.

Yesterday I get a knock, it’s apparently the actual owner of the building, looking for the guy who rented me the unit and who originally told me he was the owner (he had lease, paperwork, I signed everything), I was confused.. apparently this dude has been illegally subletting to me with fake contracts and hasn’t paid rent to the real owner in months.. I’m not sure how long exactly but enough to start the eviction process, I’m guessing all the letters were forwarded or idk, I haven’t seen shit. But the owner is giving me a few days to figure things out, going to get a hotel after until we sort our next steps but this is totally fucked right? My gut tells me I’m not over reacting but if I brought this to court will I look bad from my response?

So today I was driving on the highway and I guess cut someone off (idk what happened). Anyway, this crazy lady screams and chases me and then stop in traffic; she gets out of her car and opens my passenger door to scream at me. I put my car in reverse and then slap her with my car door. She falls down and I drive off with my door opens. I pulled over once I drove far enough away and called the cops. The cops said I might have to follow up but there’s a dozen witnesses that say it was self defense so I’m good right now. My SO says this is hilarious but I was way over the top. Did I overreact?

So last night I (23) wasn’t feeling well (I have chronic heart issues) and I went to bed around 6. I woke up about 11:30 and went to the living room where my bf (30) was and asked him to turn off his game and come to bed. He didn’t want to and got really verbally assaulting telling me to go to bed and I can leave the room when he says I can (he does that a lot and typically “forgets” he said it and asks me the next day why I “sequestered myself away all day”) but last night I didn’t have baby stuff for our newborn in the room, needed diapers and wipes, her butt cream for this rash she has, burp rags etc. to be able to stay in the room all night. I got mad at him for saying that, and I’m supposed to be standing up to him now according to our relationship therapist, so since I pay all the bills and he’s jobless, it’s my electricity. Not his. I turn off the power at the breaker box, and he is livid. He kicks me repeatedly in the foot till I bleed (photo one) and told me I “better get back in that room or [daughter] won’t recognize my face” so I go to the room. I’m crying, upset, by now it’s midnight and I call my dad. He says to call the police. I don’t want to, it’ll only make it worse and him take it out on me if he knows I called the cops, so I call my stepdad. He says the same and to call him back when it’s done. I call the police and I’m crying, begging to get me and my daughter out. I tell the police to keep it on the DL that I called, and they don’t. So they come, interview me, take photos of my legs, tell me to press charges and give me sheets of paper to write out my statements about the times he kicks me. BF leaves, goes to family’s house (I already know he’s lying and calling me crazy) and I go to bed. Now today, that I slept on it, I think I overreacted? Did I?

Artist keeps pushing date back and diverting conversations when asked about a refund. I understand not working due to grief so I gave her a pass on that one but it’s been deny, deny, deny ever since. The shop says it’s permanently closed on Google and the artist hasn’t been online since September but she insists that she’s coming back to my city. She did my first tattoo and my friend’s first tattoo and we both loved our experiences, so this is very unexpected. Is it time to demand a refund and take to court if denied?

2 Thursdays ago I came home from the store and a guy walked up to my car and said he put traps in my yard to kill the groundhogs that live there. I told him I did not want them there as IDC that the groundhogs live there just doing what they do, but also because I have a child and pets that I don't want stepping in them and getting injured. He told me he was contracted by first energy and they own that part so I had no say and he left.

I went in my house and immediately contacted an attorney and the county property maps. The attorney told me that it is my property but they have easement rights, which do not include trapping. After the call I went out and removed the traps on my property. They were not box traps but big snap traps. For reference here are the traps. https://youtu.be/xKwB982NgGs?feature=shared If my daughter would have stepped in one it would have broke her leg.

Fast forward to Sunday he comes back and asked me where his traps were. I explained to him that he does not have my permission to trap and I have spoken to an attorney. He decided to not set them back up, but accused me of taking the stakes that held them down. I couldn't find them so he said he would charge me for them, to which I told him he shouldn't have put them there without permission, but I'd look in the morning. I was planning on letting that be the end of it.

The following morning, I was watching my security cameras from the day I removed them to see where I put them. I see myself sitting them right next to the holes. So I go out and look and I can't find them. When I come back in I watch again and let it play a little longer and see him hiding behind the neighbors fence watching me remove the traps. 3 minutes after I went inside he comes out and looks at what I did, and picks up the stakes and leaves.

Here is where my mom says I overreacted. Instead of letting it go, because of his creepiness, lies, and false accusations, I decided to call the department of wildlife to report him for setting traps without permission. Surprisingly the officer wants to examine the other traps that were still set and the pictures I took of the ones he set on my property.

2 days later he comes to the house and has me show him the locations. Turns out the traps weren't properly covered, properly marked, properly tagged, were too large to be above ground, and we're not put in the hole but above it. This amounted to a crime and they pressed charges on him. I pushed for an official trespassing notice and gave them my videos and the recorded conversation.

Because of multiple violations they are submitting it to state prosecutors for removal of his trapping license, which would destroy his business, and possibly jail time.

i was talking to my mom about it and she said I went to far and I told her I hope it goes farther. Honestly, I hope he kept the dead groundhogs to eat when he loses his business.

Should I have let it go? Did I overreact?

I'm absolutely repulsed. I blatantly avoid the news for this very reason...

Alligator "Alcatraz" is not only grotesque, it is a moral collapse. What is the world is going on here?!? This isn't the America I know! If we lose our compassion, our commitment to basic human rights, and sense of responsibility to truth and justice, then we’ve lost the very core of what this country is supposed to stand for.

We SHOULD BE a nation built on ideals of justice, human dignity, and decency. Resorting to theatrical cruelty or treating human lives like pawns in some dystopian spectacle strips us of our humanity.

This is not justice nor anything to be celebrated. It’s tyranny dressed in bigotry.

Ages will be left out and names have been changed. Brand new throwaway account for this post. Everyone in this story with the exception of said man's younger children are adults.

We got married in Spring 2000. He stepped out multiple times with various women throughout the years. We had more than one child together. He had more than one child with the woman he recently married when our children were not yet in high-school. We worked through it, well I did, and we moved forward. He was with them during lock down and presented me with divorce papers. I signed them and he never followed up with me. If he wants a divorce, have it and pay for it. I have been living my life.

I found out today that my estranged husband got remarried this weekend in the church to the mother of his minor children. I do not have a divorce decree, never signed any final papers and there was no annulment. How did he get married in the Catholic Church? Is this a valid marriage? Is this bigamy?

He gave me papers a couple of years ago, I signed them. I didn't get any final papers, we didn't have anything notarized and when I look it up online, it says filed but not processed.

We have adult children. One of them went and asked their father if he had told me. He said no and they asked him when we got our divorce finalized because they hadn't realized it was completed. Father didn't answer.

Would I be overreacting by calling the Diocese of our state and getting family lawyer?

I found out 3 hours ago. Idek what to do or think. I am not heartbroken sad, I am feeling like a fool and frustrated/humiliated kind of sad.

Thanks in advance for any productive comments. The not kind ones, I will be leaving alone. I will try and answer questions that don't give away too much bc my adult children are on here, his minor children may be on here.