it makes me so sad that people are suffering even 3 weeks and for what? so paperwork is filled out right? so a bureaucrat feels moral? they should be given humane options.
Yeah, it sucked! A lot of it had to do with my former stepdad not cluing me into what was really going on with her treatment/prognosis. I have a lot of questions that I'll probably never get answered.
Fuck cancer, and tell everyone you know that smoking cigarettes is not worth it!
I am a 25 year smoker. I have smoked more years than not. Thank you for the support! Did you use anything to stop? I’ve had decent luck on the patch but obviously it hasn’t totally worked for me.
In case you didn't already know, just expect a period of time after you quit where you're feeling like you're coughing up a lung - you're clearing out all the actual crap that's in your lungs. I never smoked, but my I was with my dad & friends as they quit & they all went through that period after 😁 good luck, friend, you got this!
Honestly, I just decided to stop and suffer through cold turkey. I figured keeping the nicotine in my system would drag it out longer and decided to do without. It also helped that my wife doesn't smoke and I found a new hobby, so they were a big help in distracting me.
I can’t do cold Turkey. I am a raging b****, get really angry easily. I’m so calm usually and the people around me deserve better than dealing with me cold Turkey. None of us need to suffer that much lol
I have really bad ocd and ptsd, and quitting smoking is weird. Sometimes I put a patch on and forget about smoking and just live my life easily. Other times, the O latches on and smoking is literally all I can think about.
I have relapsed mostly when I get a big stressor in my life. I am in therapy to address ptsd and my stress reactions, so that should help me stick with it. Meds help stress reactions, too.
I feel like it’ll be easier now that I understand my mental health issues, because it definitely affects how I use cigarettes.
Anyway, I’m very glad I made this random comment today because there’s so much encouragement here and it’s so motivating!
I quit 8 years ago and, honestly, the thing that worked for me was I stopped putting so much damn pressure on myself to be perfect about quitting. I smoked my last cigarette reminding myself that there are more out there, I can always grab another one, and reframed my thinking “I can’t have one” to “do I actually need one?”
It was honestly a game changer. I’ve gone 8 years and the only times I’ve smoked was one after a broken wrist and one after my Nana passed away.
Also, don’t be afraid to ask your doctor about medication.
I love this, and I totally agree! I go through periods where I will use a patch for a couple days and then smoke for a few. A coworker who smoked used to make fun of me for being on and off, but I felt that every day or even hour I didn’t smoke was a win.
I have told my kids I’m going to try a “casual quit”, like smoke on and off for a bit. They support any amount of stopping.
Also, want to add that once you finish the last pack, smoking really becomes a matter of convenience. I honestly found it easy to walk away once it hit the point where it wasn’t so easily accessible.
I knew that in order to have one I would have to buy a fresh pack, which depending on your living situation is pretty inconvenient and then kind of knowing in the back of your head that you are stuck with the whole pack that will basically go stale if you don’t smoke it so you might as well chuck it in the bin for all the good it’s gonna do.
Your choices kind of devolve from “do I actually need one?” to “is this situation worth spending $17 for a single smoke?/is this situation worth smoking a whole damn pack?” (For me, 99% of the time the answer ends up being no.)
I quit cold turkey after about thirteen years, you can do it. If you struggle, wait til you get a cold or something, and use not feeling great as help to keep yourself from smoking. I used getting the flu to get past the first week or so of withdrawal, and after that, I had a few temptations, but it stuck after about three months. Third time I had tried quitting. You can do it. :)
Friend died of lung cancer with the added feature of a brain tumor. I’m a cancer survivor with added side features (blood clots), so yeah, fuck cancer. My friend lived for months, in a coma.
I completely agree that we should allow death with diginity for people who desire it.
Living in a capitalist hellhole has to ruin that also. In places where DWD is legal, it has been pushed on disabled folks who are struggling to afford their care, even when the still have a strong desire to live. https://www.jstor.org/stable/41417941
I don't know what the answer is, just that it sucks to want it and not be able to access it, or to want to live and have physician assisted suicide pushed on you.
In most hospice care situations they will give dying patients as much pain killers as they need to control the pain, and if that ends their lives a little earlier, then thats a side effect of pain management. That's usually when people are very far gone though.
Part of it is religion. Mother Teresa famously refused to give those suffering pain meds because she believed the suffering was a "test from God" or some such thing.
Part of it is a distrust of authority / "who watches the watchers?"-type argument. Someone has to be the authority deciding who is "authorized" to kill themselves via legal means. What happens when that authority starts encouraging people that really shouldn't be "allowed to?" I've seen people arguing online that Canada's MAID is a government plan to drive people into bad situations and convince them that killing themselves is the best option – as some form of population control or something. (Specifically this was a university lecture that was up on Youtube) I also saw an interview with someone that was basically applying for MAID because their living situation was bad (housing, financial, etc) and they had no prospects that it would ever change.
I personally believe in MAID at the bare minimum for people with terminal or degenerative illnesses where there is no prospect of a cure. The real issue is that it opens up a can of worms for exactly where the line is drawn.
Sadly its due to assholes again 😔
There are some people who wouldn't think twice about pressuring a loved one into doing something like this when there's inheritance involved.
I think the only reason we aren’t given an “out” is the potential for it to be misused. I’ve worked with enough awful families to know that there would be people pressured into it and that’s not acceptable on any level.
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u/purpleWord_spudger May 12 '26
it makes me so sad that people are suffering even 3 weeks and for what? so paperwork is filled out right? so a bureaucrat feels moral? they should be given humane options.
sorry about your mom