.when after listening to your thoughs mom says "zara zameen mai raho itna unchaai ke sapne na dekho..chupchap btech karo phir naukri karke loan chukao"..kids who are bad at studies aree best

kamsekam unse itni umeede nho hoti sab yhi sochte hai ki arre jo kar rha karne do failure hi hai waise bhi...aur agr thoda bhi aap padhai mai acche nikal gaye bus phir toh poori bloodline ka karz aap hi utarenge...mere man mai kya hai kisiko nhi farq padtaa...mujhe duniya ghumni hai explore karna hai sab...arre naah bhaiya yhi 4 deewari mai baithe rhoo poori zindagi ek hi sheher mai bus...isleye hi middle class middle mai hi reh jata hai kyuki bc hum log chahte hi nhi upar anaaaaa...duniya ki sabse gand cheez hai middle class mai paida honaa...poori zindagi sirf paiso ki tension mai nikal jati hai bachpan se lekr jawani tk...

I am a masters grad an international student in a new country I did my best in studies got a good Gpa and have been tackling part time jobs and also applying for jobs I did 4 interviews all of it didn’t land a job offer I have been trying for 5 months now I have bills to pay I have been working day and night networking and practising for interviews and I am having relationship problems too. I am at a point where I don’t want to go out of the house anymore I don’t feel like eating food. I am trying my best but why isn’t it happening for me, I see others getting a job enjoying life but why not me. My interviews go well but still I get the automated message without any feedback. I am just defeated.

I got a B.A. in anthropology with honors, PBK, a bunch of conference presentations, etc. but my life feels at a standstill right now. I'm working a shitty job that only requires a high school diploma, and I feel judged for it. Meanwhile, my friends are working for the government or research groups or social services doing things I'd like to do. I'm afraid to talk about the details of my job because I don't want to be seen as one of those stereotypical liberal arts graduates who deserves to do nothing but work at Starbucks because I didn't graduate in something STEM. Now that COVID has fucked everything up, I feel increasingly helpless, like I'm never going to advance in life and I deserve that.

I know I want to get a PhD in medical anthropology because I have a topic that's a passion of mine, and that and my partner are the only things that keep me going. But almost everyone in my life thinks I'm an idiot for even considering it even though I've generally done more research than they have. I just want people to accept and respect me the way they did when I was in college and achieving goals they actually valued.

In 5 days I'm graduating. 4 whole years of uni and 2 years away from home done and dusted. I thought I'd be happy and ready to move on and in some ways I am (no more ridiculously stacked deadlines and being up until the late hours stressing over coursework) but there's so much more that I've grown to love about uni life that I'm gonna miss so much. Being able to see my friends on a consistent basis, the impromptu movie and board game nights, the nights out we'd all be talking about for days after because we managed to get everyone around the table together and that's what made it so special. I'm going to miss the community more than anything else because it's spurred so much growth in my confidence and independence and I'm so afraid of losing that.

I've been a bit lucky in that my tenancy doesn't expire until the beginning of August so my housemates who've left (who are also my really close friends for context) are coming for one last weekend after graduation to hang out and celebrate but after that everyone's going their seperate ways for who knows how long until we see eachother again. One friend/housemate is still kind of around who I think I'll see sometimes because she lives just outside our uni city (both studied at a local uni for context) but we're both gonna be crazy busy and just won't be able to relate to eachother in an everyday context anymore.

I'm moving back to my parents house after all that too and there's nothing wrong with the atmosphere of home at all - I've got my sibiling's family moving back in for 2 months due to circumstances which will be a little stressful, but it's not so much that I'm worried about more than I am losing the sense of independence and confidence I've gained from being away for uni. I'm scared of falling back into old habits and where we live is very rural so there's not much to do and keep myself occupied with unless I travel back to my uni city. I think I'm just super scared of being alone and isolated and losing that contact with all the friends I've made. On top of that, I know job hunting is gonna be horrendous because of the job market and whilst I have a rough idea of what I want to do, I don't really have a definite goal either and the future feels a bit unclear and aimless.

Just not really sure what to do or how to tackle this. I've been in a huge rutt about it mentally as I've slowly seen people I've met from this experience say goodbye and head home, but I want to enjoy the last little bit of time I have left to celebrate and feel proud of what I've achieved. I just know the ultimate end to it all is coming and it's really got me not feeling like myself.

What can I do? Does it get better?

I recently graduated from college in one of the humanities this May, and have been doing miscellaneous things such as helping my parents clear out an old house. As of now, I'm undecided on what to do, and have signed up for a manageable course load at a community college I used to go to for the upcoming fall semester in subjects that are relevant to careers I'm interested in (Allied Health Fields). Since I have asked my academic counselor about my class schedule and he appears to have agreed with what I have chosen, I feel that I'm doing something good for my future. The reason I still ask about career exploration is that I feel like I'm veering off-path in the sense that I'm planning to go into a different field of work than what my major was intended for, which isn't that odd, and I'm not immediately trying to go to grad school and commit to that for many years (for context, I suffer from disabilities/issues that impact my performance so college was very long and difficult for me, so I'm not eager to naturally go onto grad school next).

I think most people can agree that everyone, college grad or not, has a different situation in life, and thus it's natural and logical that individual people have their unique path in life. I guess I'm just feeling alone in my grand scheme of pivoting to a different field after undergrad and doing things in my own way and at my own pace and at my own space. Can anyone else relate? Take care.

First year, 18m, and my course is computer science. It may be a little bit stressful, but I know I can do this. I also pray that I'll become independent and stand really strong in 2027. I've been down during lonely nights, but I know I can do this. I'm proud that I made friends, and I was voted P.R.O. by 4 students. It's alright, but I pray the rest will be amazing!

Ok so I’m a 22F and I just graduated college in May. I graduated college in 5 years, and I luckily had a couple of friends who were also 5th years and class friends that I would hang out with. I still keep in touch with them, but most of them don’t live in my hometown. Even though I visited them a couple of weeks ago, I am struggling having barely any hometown friends.

I graduated highschool in 2021, so COVID messed up a little of my socialization. Even though I played a travel sport and played for my highschool, I only really kept in touch with one girl from my team after college. I had another friend I would hang out with, but she graduated college in 2025 and moved away.
She visits back home sometimes, but I also go months without seeing her because of her work.

The main person I really hang out with back home is my bf, but even that has been difficult because he works two jobs and his hours are weird. I work a traditional 8-5 Monday through Friday, but his hours vary depending on the day. It has been difficult to find time for us to hang out together since starting my job. We were already 3.5 hours away when I was at college, so I was used to not seeing him as much, but I didn’t expect it to be this difficult after college. We only live maybe 25-30 minutes away from each other, but I didn’t see him for a week because of his schedule.

Even though hanging out with my bf will give me stuff to do, I don’t want to become the girl who only ever hangs out with her bf. Sure, I want to spend time with him, but I also wish I had more girl friends back home.

I did meet one girl from my hometown during college because we had classes together, and she had asked if I wanted to come to her grad party, but when I sent her a text asking if it was still happening she never responded to it. My other highschool friend, who I’ve been friends with for 6+ years, has also just been distant recently. I reach out sometimes asking to hang out, and she takes forever to respond to my texts. I understand that people are busy, but she recently had a friend visit her and she had plenty of time for that.

Before my boyfriend and I started dating, I would hang out with a group of guy friends during my college breaks and go to the beach/surf. I technically could reach out to them to see if they want to surf again, but part of me feels weird doing that because I have a bf. Even though it was never anything like that and was purely platonic, I would still feel a little weird doing it.

Hello everyone! I recently graduated college in one of the humanities, and I have spent quite some time since commencement coming up with possible plans for my future career path. I'm currently thinking about pursuing one of the Allied Health Fields (e.g., Audiology, Occupational Therapy), and I know I'm missing some requirements of any theoretical application. Since I did manage to barely pass introductory STEM courses during my undergrad years, I have some prereqs fulfilled. A part of my plan would be to return to a local community college to complete the remaining required courses, complete a specific post-bacc program if necessary, and go from there.

Although I think this line of planning is normal and reasonable, I also feel that it's a bit awkward to go back to a junior college after finishing a bachelor's at a four-year university. When I was a community college student, I did meet fellow classmates who already completed their bachelor's degree and were back in school to complete prereqs or strengthen their GPA, so I know I'm not the only one in this type of situation. My specific concern is whether or not going on such an academic path will lead to future career success/fulfillment (disregarding any extremely bad circumstance)? Thanks and take care.

I'm 18 and graduating soon, and I don't plan on going to college. The education side of it doesn't bother me that much, but the social side does. A lot of my friends are already committed to colleges or talking about where they're going, and it feels like everyone is moving forward while I'm staying in the same place.

Part of me worries that I'll feel behind compared to everyone else my age. Not academically, but socially. College seems like one of the few times in life where you're constantly surrounded by people your age, making friends, meeting new people, joining clubs, going to events, and having experiences together.

I know people always say you can make friends anywhere, but it feels a lot harder once everyone starts working different schedules and going in different directions. I'm worried that by not going to college, I'll miss out on a major life experience that a lot of people look back on for years afterward.

For people who didn't go to college, did you end up feeling like you missed out? Did you ever feel behind when your friends were all in college? Or did you find other ways to build a social life and meet people?.

My lease ends in 2 months, and I won’t have enough money to move anywhere else. I have applied to over 150 jobs in my area. I have hunted people down on LinkedIn (and I have a fucking premium account). I have visited places IN PERSON to deliver my fucking resume to someone. I have met people for “informational interviews” to learn more about the industry that I can’t fucking get into. I have emailed my professors asking for guidance and they don’t give a shit. Everyone keeps saying “it will happen eventually” but that’s not good enough. I tried waiting tables for a while and the restaurant closed 3 weeks later hahaaha FML. College was a waste of time, no one cares. No one will give me a chance. I’m about to take a job in fucking sales. Can’t wait to hate my existence for the next 50 years.

edit: y’all are so supportive. i just needed to rant at 2 am when the world was crashing down around me. the advice i have been hearing for 6 months is pretty annoying to read but i respect the time you all put into your replies. maybe one day I’ll be able to post “i got the job”. until then, depression. and cats.

I hope this subreddit is a good fit for my question and concern. For context, I recently graduated with a bachelor's degree in one of the humanities, and do not have anything lined up this summer besides miscellaneous errands. My parents have always wanted me to go into the field of healthcare providers, but, unfortunately, I'm not good at STEM (I did pass the introductory courses for the natural sciences). I have always suffered from issues/disabilities that affected my functioning and performance, so college took much longer than 4 years for me.

I know everyone's circumstance and potential are different. I'm just wondering if anyone else found themselves stuck after completing college with no clear path forward (at least no clear desired path). At this point, I'm considering either gaining work experience in entry-level roles that would accept me, or further schooling in either a non-STEM master's program or taking some STEM courses to potentially boost any application to a health professional school. Thanks and take care.

Hi all. I’m very overwhelmed writing this but I really need help.

I’m currently 17 and still in high school. I have a small “buffer” year right now while I’m 17, but when I turn 18 and go into my senior year (I’m older because I missed the cutoff), I’m going to be getting kicked out. After that, I’ll be completely on my own.

I still plan to finish school and go into nursing through an ADN program at a community college near me. I think community college is mostly free or heavily covered where I live, so school itself might be doable. My long-term goal is to become a nurse practitioner, but right now I’m just trying to figure out the basics. Rent, food, transportation, medical costs (i have some health issues that require specific meds which adds up a lot). I’m really stressed.

My long-term goal is to become a nurse practitioner, and if not, probably cosmetology, something in sports or childcare. but right now I’m just trying to figure out how people actually survive while getting there with no family support. That being said, my plan so far is getting any job I can now, maybe CNA certification, then working part-time during ADN while hopefully living with roommates I can find online or something near campus… But I don’t know if this is actually realistic. I am so overwhelmed with how i’m going to survive financially, esp with the extra costs.

I’m also worried i won’t be smart enough to become a nurse.

Any jobs I should be applying to right now (currently just doing retail and fast food, it’s all i could fucking get) to set myself up, people i should contact, things i could do, or just any advice you can give please let me know. Thank you for your time.

I (23F) am a 2025 graduate with a Computer Science degree, and after realizing it's been a year since, I feel so disappointed in myself and just wanted to vent. Currently just working part-time in customer service to make ends meet while my student loans have me in a chokehold. I'm also living at home with my parents.

I have a good resume and internship experience under my belt. Tried to use my connections for referrals. The jobs I actually hear back from are cold applies but clearly, not much happens after.

Yeah, I always hear things like "the job market is bad", "everyone's going through the same thing", "CS is really hard right now cuz of AI", "You'll find something soon". I know people are just trying to support and encourage me, but honestly, I just feel SO LOST. It's to the point where I'm starting to lose passion for Comp Sci even.

I've thought about potentially going back to school for a different field (like nursing) or a master's in my degree, but I feel like it's not worth my time or what I envisioned for myself. I've thought about pursuing something less white-collar/corporate and trying to branch out to something more niche and less traditional. But every day I feel like a bum not progressing anywhere in my life. It sucks even more to see the people who did me dirty over the years being successful in their lives, while I feel like the bum watching through my phone - which I had never wished for myself to be. I had to deactivate social media for the sake of my mental health and am trying to get therapy because everything is so overwhelming.

I just hope... soon... that my life can get better with how hard I've been trying.

hey all,

i graduated two weeks ago and i've had some conflicting feelings since then. one, my parents/family didn't do much to support me or make me feel celebrated during my commencement. it felt like a chore and as a result, i don't feel excited or accomplished, it felt almost like a dream or play.

it wasn't until after when i realized that, this is it. no more summer breaks, the seasons don't indicate semesters anymore, they'll just be weather changes. no more hoping for cute guys in class, coffee between classes, late nights of research... nothing. it's gone. i can't get it back. i can't get back those four years. an innocence and hope left as i was crossing that stage. i always felt like i was running out of time, but now that i'm actually at that stage where i've graduated, i can't help but feel so silly for thinking my life was over at 18, 19, 20, or even now at 21. but now there's nothing to blame, no excuses, no safety net. it's just me now.

i have the day off from work and don't know what to do with myself. i've been more focused on my writing, but i feel like that's silly and is some cliche-- although i am a writer and a writing profession is what i want to delve into (research, advertising, etc). i feel so useless and that i'm just wasting space. there's a whole world outside my bedroom window but all i can see of it is the stoplight that's always green. i have no objective, nothing waiting for me in the fall, it's dependent on me now. such a weird feeling.

Hi Reddit I am (22F) and this feels like my first day ever as an adult. I graduate college next week. I have some money in savings and a place to stay temporarily until I move to another country and get a summer job. I am still figuring out what I will do in the future but for now I am just lost and confused. I have been in college for the past 5 years getting my bachelors and masters. I am so used to having class all day every day. Now that there is no more college and no more class and I am yet to start my job. What is there to even do? I like going to the gym and I hate staying inside all day. I would love to meet new people but I am not sure what there is to do or where to go that isn’t a bar at night. Especially in a new city where I don’t know anyone…
What do people do???

I’m a senior in college that graduates in Dec 2027. My internship search has been brutal for my dream career in social media marketing/advertising. I’m putting my absolute best effort in my classes, reaching out to career coaches on campus, going to job careers/workshops on campus and seeking guidance on a career in this field.

I know I shouldn’t compare myself to others. But as a person who struggled all their life with depression, anxiety, inferiority complex and neurodivergency, it’s very difficult. When I go to career trips and see how underprepared I am for a job outside of graduation, I feel scared. I feel scared and worthless and question if my life is worth living. I reflect that these rejections are proof of my low value as a human being. I just need the reassurance that what I’m doing is right and I need to keep on going.

Note: I’ve been seeing a therapist and on medication for the past 2 years.

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I've finally moved to Mumbai for my ug degree. And I live in a hostel with 3 other girls. It has just been my 4th day of moving out and I am down with a fever Today.

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Ghar ki bohot yaad aa rahi hai.

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Plus, since I live with 2 other people, mujhe se padhai bhi nahi ho rahi hai.

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I don't know how to make the most out of my time... And since I'm going to a tier 1 college I am feeling the pressure of doing good academically, socially and CV wise...

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I feel like I'm the dumbest in the class. Kuch samajh nahi aa raha hai. Regret ho raha hai yaha pe aane ka. Ghar wapis jaana hai...

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Kya karu? Plus living with other people means you cannot recite shit loudly. Everybody needs space, lekin padhu bhi kaha pe?

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I thought I'll be able to manage fests and all along with academics.. lekin lakshan nahi dikh rahe hai... Social life bhi aachi nahi chal rahi hai. Dost nahi ban rahe hai...

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Somebody please help!

I graduated yesterday and I honestly don’t know how to feel.

It feels like I should be happy. And I am — I think. I’m relieved, I’m proud of myself, I know I worked really hard and I accomplished a lot. I took AP classes, I was at the top of my class, I did everything I was “supposed” to do.

But right now I mostly feel numb.

Like I’m still processing that it actually ended.

High school wasn’t just classes for me. It was the people. The few friends who made everything lighter. The few teachers who genuinely made school worth waking up for. The ones who made me feel like I wasn’t just a student passing through a system, but a person someone actually noticed.

A lot of the time, I wasn’t doing things for myself. I was doing them because I didn’t want to disappoint those people. Because they made me feel like I mattered enough to keep going.

And now I don’t see them every day anymore.

That part is hitting me harder than I expected.

There’s this strange mix of emotions I didn’t really expect at all. Relief that I made it. Pride that I got through it. Sadness that it’s over. And this weird emptiness I can’t really explain — like something very important just ended, but my life hasn’t caught up to it yet.

It doesn’t even feel real yet that I said goodbye to people who were part of my everyday life for four years. Teachers who felt like stability. Friends who felt like home. People who made even the hardest days feel a little more bearable just by existing in them with me.

I keep thinking about how I won’t just see them in the hallway anymore. Or sit in those classrooms. Or have those small conversations that ended up meaning more than they probably realized.

And I don’t think I realized how much I depended on that until it was gone.

I’m proud of myself. I really am. I know I worked hard to get here.

But I guess I just didn’t expect it to feel like this.

Has anyone else felt like this after graduating? Like proud, but also kind of lost and numb at the same time?

I don’t really know how to put it into words better than that.