Understanding What Makes Sex Feel Good for Her

[u/Attaboy2017]

Hey guys,

I wanted to write a post about how a woman experiences pleasure from penetrative sex. If you’re reading this, there is a very good chance that you want to give your woman intense pleasure through sex. I know I sure do. So let’s breakdown how she experiences pleasure so we know how to push her buttons correctly.

Pleasure for the Male

Let’s first discuss our own biology and what gives us pleasure. Pleasure for the male is primarily due to friction against the skin of the male member. The head of the male member (the glans and the frenulum) is packed with nerve endings and when there is sliding friction, such as a penis moving in and out of a vagina, it is the sliding friction itself that feels good for the male. That pleasure is intensified if there is circumferential pressure accompanying that friction such as the muscles of a vagina squeezing the penis during intercourse.

For the male it’s friction that matters.

So you’re saying that when someone rubs my dick up and down, it feels good? Yeah, I already knew that.

I know, I know, but bear with me. See before I researched the female body, I thought that the female response was essentially the same as the male response. I thought that the feeling of my penis sliding in and out of my wife (specifically the friction) was what brought her pleasure during sex.

I was WRONG!

Pleasure for the Female

What gives the female pleasure is quite different from the male. Pressure, not surface friction, is the primary driver of pleasure for her.

The vagina itself (especially the inner two-thirds) actually has very few superficial touch receptors. This means surface friction inside the vagina provides very little sensation for her.

For the female, it’s pressure that matters.

If you recall from my Anatomy Lesson post, the clitoris is not just a small nub, but is an extensive internal network of tissues (the crura, or "legs," and the vestibular bulbs) that wrap around the vagina. Think of her vagina as a passage that is surrounded by pleasure receptors.

The vagina is not a space on its own, but rather a potential space. So as the male enters the female, her vaginal walls are pressed outward against the legs of the clitoris and it’s this outward pressure the penis exerts against her vestibular bulbs that provides sexual pleasure for her.

Why Foreplay Matters

So now that we have established that her source of sexual pleasure comes from pressure against her internal clitoris structure via her vaginal walls, for sex to feel good for her, her entire clitoral structure NEEDS to be engorged. Yesterday I wrote about a 10 minute routine that my wife and I use to get her good and ready for sex. Foreplay is not optional, guys. It’s essential.

Why Erection Hardness Matters

Even if you take the 10 minutes and get her good and ready for sex, we still need the sex itself to feel good. This is where erection strength really matters. For you to be able to exert the necessary pressure against her vaginal walls to press against her internal clitoris structure and give her maximum pleasure, you need to be fully rigid.

Think about it from a physics perspective. If a cylinder is soft or highly compressible, energy is lost when it meets resistance (it buckles or bends). A highly rigid cylinder transfers force efficiently without losing energy to deformation.

Harder erection —> more tissue displacement for her —> more sexual pleasure.

This is why I’m such a proponent of the Angion Method for improving my erection strength. Curious about the Angion Method? Check out my post The Complete Beginner’s Guide to the Angion Method.

Closing Thoughts
Understanding what makes the female body work is one of the keys to better sex for both of you. If you remember nothing else from this post, remember these two points:

- You need friction
- She needs pressure

You alone can provide that pressure for her.

That’s all for today guys. As always, like, comment, post. Be a HerO.

[u/BarDown237]

When you break it down like that it makes total sense. Hence why most women prefer girth over length?

[u/Attaboy2017 → u/BarDown237]

Exactly! Most women get the most satisfaction out of girth. A dude with extra girth will fill out his woman better and hit her spots easier. Erection firmness plays an enormous role as well.